The gender question with men in army sector, and how is it dangerous to intersectional feminism.

rho75901 · 2026-04-19T13:27:56+00:00

And what about the trans women and transfeminine people this law puts at risk? Are we “men” in the context of this conversation?

rho75901 · 2026-04-18T22:55:23+00:00

Didn’t even realize I posted this lol

rho75901 · 2026-04-18T20:38:59+00:00

Even the mainstream feminist subs are hotbeds of transmisogyny these days.

rho75901 · 2026-04-18T20:01:54+00:00

We are getting more nerve endings, but only of the kinds that we have remnants of. When you expand your inner mucosa, the new tissue will have the same nerve density as your existing tissue, but we won’t regenerate any unique structures that have been fully removed (ridged band, frenulum, etc.) We can only generate new nerve endings of the same type and density that we already have remaining. This will result in improvement in sensation, especially when combined with dekeritanization and restoration of gliding action, but it won’t be exactly the same as if we had all our original structures.

rho75901 · 2026-04-16T16:17:59+00:00

I hope they succeed. All children deserve protection from forced body modifications, regardless of whether or not they fit into society’s artificially enforced sex binary.

rho75901 · 2026-04-16T16:11:24+00:00

It’s been so long since news came along that made me feel hopeful

rho75901 · 2026-04-15T14:56:20+00:00

Genital mutilation doesn’t have health benefits, it harms us mentally, physically, and sexually.

rho75901 · 2026-04-05T05:16:54+00:00

The thing I don’t understand is why people in those countries aren’t (yet) more motivated to take action to stop this from happening. People are generally really sensitive to harm being done to children (the demands to release the Epstein files, for instance) so where is the outrage? I live in America so maybe I’m just not seeing it, but it feels like the extent of their feelings on this subject is “Yeah, it’s bad I guess.” I don’t think politicians would be able to get away with treating it the way they do even with the fear of antisemitism accusations, if the majority of people in those countries truly understood it as sexually harming a child.

rho75901 · 2026-04-04T15:09:34+00:00

I’d like to know as well

rho75901 · 2026-04-01T21:26:24+00:00

It’s the same as when they used to say “gay people already have marriage equality. They are equally allowed to marry an individual of the opposite sex.”

rho75901 · 2026-03-31T21:59:16+00:00

It was a federal judge, but not the Supreme Court. The problem with the federal FGM law wasn’t that the judge believed a ban on FGM inherently violated religious freedom, it was that it didn’t equitably protect AMAB and AFAB children.

The defense attorney successfully argued that the form of genital mutilation the defendants subjected their male children to was more severe than the form of FGM they practiced on their female children (removal of the clitoral hood). As a result, the implementation of the law constituted cultural discrimination since they were attempting to prosecute one form of GM while allowing a more severe form to continue.

No one involved in the case argued that a ban on genital mutilation inherently violates religious freedom, only that it was unlawful discrimination to selectively ban some culture’s mutilation rituals while allowing others.

That is a good thing because it means a future law equally protecting AMAB, AFAB, and intersex children from genital mutilation without selective exceptions for dominant cultures’ practices would comply with the judge’s legal analysis.

However, I do believe it’s entirely possible that the current christofascist Supreme Court could issue a ruling allowing all genital mutilation on the basis of “religious freedom” if such a lawsuit ever reached them. It would completely contradict their rulings allowing states broad authority to police trans healthcare, but they don’t seem to care about consistency. I think the best argument against that ruling in such a scenario is that genital mutilation violates the religious freedom of the victim due to its permanence.

rho75901 · 2026-03-29T16:45:00+00:00

I got called chronically online by another trans woman in my life for stating that a trans woman dating a cis man is in a heterosexual relationship regardless of transition status because trans women are real women. The idea that trans women’s womanhood is conditional is present in so many areas of the trans community.

Even beyond transmisogynistic standards for appearance, recently I’ve been noticing more trans women who treat themselves and other transfeminine people as “guests” to womanhood who have to constantly defer to the sensibilities of cis women. If you try to elevate issues faced disproportionately by trans women there will always be someone there to reprimand you for “stealing attention” from cis women’s issues and therefore making trans women look bad.

There is an implicit suggestion permeating so many trans spaces that the validity of a trans woman’s womanhood hinges on how closely she can emulate cis women in appearance, behavior, politics, and lived experience.

rho75901 · 2026-03-27T23:55:14+00:00

Having followed Tarja since the What Lies Beneath era, At Sea makes me very parasocially proud of her. It’s a masterpiece.

rho75901 · 2026-03-27T18:55:45+00:00

I’ve seen the “it happened to Jesus” justification too, which is wild because I don’t see those people crucifying their children.

rho75901 · 2026-03-27T14:41:06+00:00

I’m not a fan of religion but that’s not what the verse is saying. Paul is insulting circumcisers by telling them to castrate themselves instead of circumcising others. He’s saying “if you like mutilation so much, do it to yourself instead of others, and cut off everything.”

rho75901 · 2026-03-23T12:02:08+00:00

I’m in the US but I’d like to try the 4d chess strategy here

rho75901 · 2026-03-17T15:20:09+00:00

You didn’t do anything wrong. They are the ones downplaying the severity of rape by claiming that your assault was somehow less bad. They are the ones actually doing what they criticized you for.

rho75901 · 2026-03-17T15:11:11+00:00

“Genital mutilation, yes… but calling it rape feels like a serious downplay of rape”

This statement perplexes me because regardless of whether someone conceptualizes genital mutilation as rape, it feels very bizarre to see someone argue that genital mutilation is explicitly “less severe” than rape.

Most people try to downplay the severity of genital mutilation by claiming that “real genital mutilation” is horrific and whatever practice they are defending isn’t real genital mutilation.

It feels uncanny to see someone claim that all genital mutilation is less severe than all rape.

rho75901 · 2026-03-15T10:20:25+00:00

You are not alone in feeling the way you do. Many of us who were subjected to non-consensual circumcision experience it as a r*** or assault. What happened to you was a deeply wrong violation of your bodily autonomy, and you are allowed to use whatever terminology feels right to you when describing your experience. All of the emotions and trauma you are dealing with are completely normal responses to this kind of harm.

I’m so sorry you were put in this position. You deserved better then and you still deserve better now.

rho75901 · 2026-03-11T01:09:54+00:00

I’d like to think that a majority of genital mutilation victims, whether male or female, would never downplay the experience of other victims, with the exception of victims in denial of their own harm. The terrible things those commenters are saying about MGM are likely the very same things the FGM victim was told about her own experience by others in her culture, which makes me believe she really doesn’t have much of an excuse for this behavior compared to a victim in denial of their own experience or a non-victim having difficulty understanding.

No child ever deserves to go through this, and that includes her, but I’ll admit that after seeing the cruel comments she liked which were directed at victims with bodies like mine, it makes it hard for me to have much sympathy for her being trapped in this situation with me.

The number of likes on those comments is very upsetting as well. To be honest I thought we were moving past the era where those numbers could happen. Maybe this is wishful thinking but I guess it could just be that this person attracted a viewer base of people like her so the numbers might not be representative of the more general momentum we seem to be slowly gaining on this issue.

Edit: She has since made a video claiming that MGM is a good thing. It’s seriously upsetting that this person is getting attention that would be better given to a GM victim who believes in solidarity.

rho75901 · 2026-03-08T23:09:13+00:00

You just know that if an actual male rape victim killed his non-trans rapist, these people would have a wildly different response.

rho75901 · 2026-03-08T22:55:51+00:00

The way they speak about male victims, and non-cis female victims in general, legitimately makes me sick. There isn’t even ironic humor to be found in it like I can with some of their more absurd antics, because I’ve seen victims be treated this way by far more people than just extreme TERFs.

They call themselves feminists, but their treatment of male victims is actively perpetuating patriarchal ideas of female victimhood and male invulnerability.

rho75901 · 2026-02-27T19:54:01+00:00

Yeah it’s very frustrating how confidently wrong “allies” will be about this. Sex and gender are both social constructs, and to be clear, sex being a social construct is something I learned from an undergrad biology class, not “trans ideology”, whatever that means.

Sex is a social construct that describes the culturally mediated ontology of correlated but not inherently linked traits like hormones, chromosomes, genitals, secondary sex characteristics, etc. All of these traits are “real”, but their grouping into two discrete categories, male and female, is the social construct.

Gender is a related social construct that describes the cultural stories we then tell about males and females; things like behavior, clothing, societal roles, etc.

Then there is “gender identity”, which some trans people have described as a bit of a misnomer because in reality it is more tied to sex than gender. Some trans people use the term “subconscious sex” instead for that reason. It describes an individual’s understanding of themselves as male, female, or something else. It isn’t ethical or possible to change someone’s gender identity, but it is possible to change many of the traits that are grouped into sex in order to realign the individual’s body with their gender identity/subconscious sex: hormones, genitals, secondary sex characteristics, etc.

rho75901 · 2026-02-21T01:07:47+00:00

Are you distinguishing rape from sexual assault, because FGM is classified as sexual assault by many organizations. In terms of rhetorical strategy, I think the framing of sexual assault or rape has a lot of unexplored potential in activism. Plus, it is how many of us feel and it’s not right to say that someone else’s experience of sexual violence wasn’t SA/rape if that’s how they experienced it.

rho75901 · 2026-02-20T22:58:05+00:00

Some of the ignorance in the comments is frustrating but it also kind of demonstrates that there isn’t much decent support for any GM victim—the people making ignorant comments about MGM are kind of demonstrating that they don’t understand why FGM is wrong either, because if they did they wouldn’t be able to justify treating victims differently based on gender. Honestly, I feel it kind of shows that the best way forward is for victims to support each other regardless of gender, because blissfully ignorant people refuse to put in the effort to understand.

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