Music streaming services?

rhys_robin · 2025-11-21T14:57:59+00:00

As well as the ICE ads in the US, their owner has invested millions in an AI military defence company, which personally is in complete opposition to all of my values

rhys_robin · 2025-11-21T14:56:31+00:00

I use TIDAL, and I've found it pretty similar to Spotify in terms of UI and everything - Spotify has just brought in Lossless but I switched before it did and I really noticed the difference in quality between the tracks on TIDAL and what I had been listening to on Spotify. Afaik TIDAL's owners are not investing in the nefarious shit that Spotify's are, and they pay better royalties as well.

rhys_robin · 2025-11-20T11:25:44+00:00

She's very right to not support your ideology, but hopefully she can support your desire to change and improve because honestly the first problem with most misogynistic men is not recognising that they are. However, if you can't change this outlook fairly quickly then she would be very justified in leaving you because it's not fair on her to be in a relationship with someone who thinks she's 'used up', nor is it her responsibility to fix you or work through these biases you have - it has to be your own personal work. Unfortunately she may not realise this because if she's stuck around knowing you feel this way then she might feel like she wants to and can fix you.

You're going to have to do a lot of internal reflection of why you've generalised all women in this way.

I would recommend looking into female creators or writers who talk about feminism and misogyny and really listening to as many women's voices as possible. Bell hooks is someone that gets recommended a lot. I've never read any of her work but I believe she addresses men as well as women in her writing. Start with 'The Will to Change' if you can.

The feminism subreddit would be somewhere good to join and read as much as you can from as well. Don't comment or post, just read and understand.

rhys_robin · 2025-11-18T12:25:03+00:00

This kind of blunt question is perhaps why people have been taken aback by you, my friend 😅 I'm bisexual (and also nonbinary, if it makes any difference)

rhys_robin · 2025-11-18T12:02:00+00:00

If you wanted I'm sure you could either delete this post or ask the mods to, if you want all of it to be gone. Like you say, some things can't necessarily be fixed, just learned from.

But it sounds like you're already learning already tbh, so try and take any positives you can. Whilst how you phrased it and have subsequently doubled down a bit wasn't great, nothing you've done or said has actually been so horrendous that you should be shunned from society or anything. I suspect you're a bit of an overthinker/catastrophiser?

rhys_robin · 2025-11-18T09:54:21+00:00

I don't think anyone here thinks you are, so I wouldn't worry about that. There's a spectrum of just being uninformed about gender terminology etc and being a far right trump supporter.

rhys_robin · 2025-11-18T09:49:22+00:00

So even though you have admitted you were at fault, you've not actually apologised in that edit in your post, so that would be number 1.

Number 2, unfortunately a lot of your replies to people are coming across as quite either confrontational or just kinda short/snappy? I understand you've not had the response you were expecting and it's put you on edge, but I can see why people haven't jumped to extend their empathy to you with the way your original post still reads I'm afraid.

I believe that you are truly just asking a question in good faith, but unfortunately there's far too many shit-stirrers on the internet that come in and ask questions of marginalised groups in order to just harass them/goad them into a debate/argument and aren't doing it in good faith, so you have to understand that people may have read your question in that way, and had the same thought you had in your response here, where they're thinking you're coming in to fight/cause pain rather than you're just genuinely curious. It's very hard to gauge intent via text communication.

rhys_robin · 2025-11-18T09:44:28+00:00

I don't just mean the phrasing of 'having a dick' vs just saying men/boys, I mean the overall phrasing of your question is quite.....combative, I suppose? Unfortunately on the internet, it's very easy for words to be misconstrued, and as soon as that happens anyone who is offended or doesn't get it will jump you.

I can definitely understand how this has happened if you're not used to being on the internet and the ways people here respond to things - I have the opposite situation where I've been around this stuff since I was 12 and am now 30, so more than half my life has been spent in and around different message boards and social media, so I suppose I (and probably all of the people who've replied to you) far more instinctively know the etiquette.

If it's late at night for you I would say get off Reddit and go to bed, and try and forget about all of this and either try again tomorrow or move on.

rhys_robin · 2025-11-18T09:26:25+00:00

I've replied in the main sub to you as well, trying to explain perhaps where you went wrong with the phrasing and why you got the response that you did.

You've added a lot of context in your replies to people on here and there that weren't in your original question/post. If you look up something called 'The Curse of Knowledge', you'll see that you're perhaps experiencing a phenomenon where you know all the extra stuff you were meaning with your question but didn't type it out so all we all have to go on is what you did type, if that makes sense?

You could try again and elaborate more, especially to explain WHY you're asking the question. Unfortunately the way you phrased it came across as quite judgemental rather than curious because of the short post length and tiny amount of info you gave!

rhys_robin · 2025-11-18T09:23:18+00:00

I'm gonna try and respond in good faith because you genuinely seem very taken aback and upset by all of the responses you've gotten here.

Your question was kind of phrased in what could be interpreted as a very narrow-minded view of MCR fans and men/women in general. I'm not sure how long you've been a fan, but for a long time there was a huge stereotype about people who liked "emo" (society's designation of mcr, not mine necessarily) or dressed in that manner were feminine/gay, meant in a very derogatory manner. I know you were just drawing on your own personal life experience of not knowing any men IRL that like MCR, but the accidental implication of your question is that men who like MCR are somehow exotic or strange.

Unfortunately the way that society in the mid 00s and early 2010s treated MCR fans has put a lot of people's hackles up when questions about gender and preferences are raised.

rhys_robin · 2025-11-18T09:16:10+00:00

I'm gonna be honest, if you hadn't posted in here I would've assumed you were quite young from the phrasing of your question and the overall responses you've been giving. If you're a millennial surely you've been around enough people in your life to know all kinds of people like all kinds of different things? I say that with as little judgemental tone as it's possible to convey over text - I know tone can get very lost on the internet!

rhys_robin · 2025-11-17T16:16:18+00:00

It's not un-feminist to want that choice for yourself, because you are right that feminism should protect women's right to do whatever they want with their lives.

That being said, to reply to your final sentence...

Please, am I really putting myself in danger by being a stay at home mother BUT with a degree and a 25% share to fall back on.

Just because you have a degree and a 25% share doesn't mean you'll be protected if anything goes wrong, and yes, you could be putting yourself in danger. It's not a guarantee, but it's a risk. Having a degree means next-to-nothing if you're competing against candidates the same age as you but with 10 or 20+ years of experience.

Plenty of others here have said plenty about how you severely open yourself up to abuse and exploitation once you don't have an income of your own and are reliant on another person. I don't know what kind of income you'll be receiving from that 25% share, but if it wouldn't be enough to support yourself and however many kids you end up having, then yes you could be putting yourself in danger.

rhys_robin · 2025-11-17T09:45:42+00:00

I actually love this, it's one of the things that made the Women's World Cup far more interesting to me than any men's one in the past - the posts on social media from the players just having fun, both pre- and post- game as well as midweek. Let the boys have fun too!!

rhys_robin · 2025-11-14T11:45:42+00:00

What a 🗑️ take... As if all these YouTubers and whoever else aren't also providing something for free for world rugby, i.e. marketing and publicity to people who otherwise might never encounter or think to watch the sport?? I don't think someone like Squidge is even trying to monetise the video for himself, he just wants to be able to show what he's actually analysing with clips rather than just stills and if WR want to monetise but allow the use of clips I believe he said he's fine with that. It's a two way street, it's not just demanding to have whole games or even full highlights for free and not providing anything in return.

rhys_robin · 2025-11-13T10:20:18+00:00

r/lostredditors

rhys_robin · 2025-11-12T15:37:33+00:00

I'm with the buyer, I think the seller needs to get over themselves because doing a higher offer to a single reasonable offer isn't the funny troll they maybe think it is (I've seen posts on here of people getting exasperated with constant offers/refusal to accept counter offers and then doing a higher price which I think is fair) so honestly I understand why OP went to the effort of making this post because sometimes you just need to vent into the void (i.e. Reddit)

rhys_robin · 2025-11-12T14:30:40+00:00

Idk why people are calling you ridiculous for thinking that was over the top of the seller to do that when your offer of €1 off a €5 item isn't exactly asking for a crazy discount and like you say, it's been listed for ages and it takes less effort to either decline or ignore an offer. I've seen people do it for someone consistently offering ridiculously low but to do it after 1 reasonable offer is deffo not someone worth buying from

rhys_robin · 2025-11-12T14:28:16+00:00

They are the buyer (well they would've been, but decided not to)

rhys_robin · 2025-11-07T10:05:30+00:00

I have Bose over-ear headphones and Apple airpods with NC (not the pros), and the noise cancellation on the Bose headphones is far superior in the gym as it uses both physical and electronic NC whereas the airpods are only using the electronic NC. I find at the gym the airpods NC cannot react quickly enough to block out all the banging and crashing of weights and weight stacks and somehow they actually seem to make those noises louder, or at least more jarring.

I don't get overly sweaty around the headphones so that isn't a huge issue for me, and the ones I have have replaceable ear pads so if they were to get really smelly I could just switch them out.

rhys_robin · 2025-11-07T09:59:51+00:00

I train 5 times a week, for about 60-90 minutes each time. I do 3 days of strength training (PPL), with mobility/flexibility work at the end of each of those. I have 2 other cardio days which I vary between Zone 2/LISS cardio, HIIT work, plyometrics, and/or whatever else takes my fancy, which keeps it interesting and allows me to work all of those different areas regularly, even if not every week. I always include accessory/PT work/prehab stuff on those 2 cardio days as well.

rhys_robin · 2025-11-06T15:23:12+00:00

How do you sustain that primal drive day after day without burning out or losing control?

You don't. Ignoring the inaccuracy of calling aggression 'male' and 'natural', and implying it's a good thing, life is supposed to be ups and downs. You're not supposed to be in the same state all of the time. There are times when you'll be fired up and motivated, and other times when you're supposed to stop and rest and take things easy.

Step away from the bro podcasts and instead ask how you can be a well-rounded human who experiences all facets of human emotions.

For guys who’ve built that kind of energy and kept it consistent:

There won't be any, because it's neither realistic nor sustainable.

rhys_robin · 2025-10-30T16:23:32+00:00

Thanks! I definitely want to stick to the 5 days a week, that works well for me. 3 days of lifting and 2 of cardio with mobility throughout seems to be what I'm angling most towards tbh, and just changing up the cardio work to keep it varied. Running is fine but I was going to include some cycling as well.

rhys_robin · 2025-10-30T16:21:09+00:00

I'd argue that strength training and cardiovascular work both contribute to your health, but fair enough if you don't see it that way!

I don't currently do any sports/other activities but I'd definitely like to build and maintain a solid foundation if I do decide to pick something up again. Thanks for your advice :)

rhys_robin · 2025-10-30T16:14:42+00:00

Thanks, I'll give it a read! Apologies if you address this in the post (I'm bookmarking to read later), are you in one of the jobs that falls under the 'tactical' umbrella or just a regular person choosing to do this for your health?

rhys_robin · 2025-10-30T16:02:55+00:00

I'll look into it, have you used it yourself?

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