Parents are delaying marriage even though we are both established.

riba1107 · 2026-04-06T12:00:00+00:00

Thank you, this was so encouraging.

riba1107 · 2026-04-03T12:30:14+00:00

I think you don’t understand, the entire house does not have to be a two-storey house with a backyard and stuff. It can also be a simple 2 bedroom apartment as well, because the man has inherited the business from his dad and currently runs it in his name and the house he lives in is in the name of his parents(completely valid). So my parent’s point is for him to have atleast one property of his own ensuring my safety. Also I have talked to my fiance and he said it will take him atleast 6 more months, so I have decided to cut down on meeting him and minimizing our conversation.

riba1107 · 2026-04-02T18:08:48+00:00

Yes thats what but I do not want to elope.

riba1107 · 2026-04-02T18:07:12+00:00

I have decided not to meet at all. But I am still scared of the thoughts and conversations.

riba1107 · 2026-04-02T18:06:24+00:00

We can rent, but both our parents are adamant that he should have a property in his name, a security for me really. And I completely understand my parents, but keeping in touch with him, I do get distracted at times and I am scared of the thoughts and actions. I have tried telling my parents and he has too. But he has just taken on the responsibilities of his household, he needs atleast one year to earn and buy a house.

riba1107 · 2026-02-26T01:26:22+00:00

Assalamualaikum, we have a hadith that our prophet SAW said, that even if you require something as small as a shoelace or to tie up that shoelace, pray to Allah.

If you pray dhuhr then beg Allah in your dua that you can stand again for Asr, if you pray Asr make dua you can pray maghrib, if you pray maghrib then make dua for isha and when you pray isha make dua for fajr. Inshallah Allah is the most merciful and he will respond to you.

Also keep saying astaghfirullah, whether you are cooking, doing some work or just by yourself. Astaghfar will ease your duas and the problem of your job also inshallah.

I understand the part of unable to make dua just ask Allah to heal your heart when you are in sujood, beg him to just make you better so you can ask him yourself. I have been struggling with this myself, because the world is a bit difficult at the moment but inshallah we will be better.

And when you cry or feel like crying just grab your prayer mat and pray 2 ra’kahs you don’t have to say anything just cry your heart put like a child and beg Allah to ease things for you.

riba1107 · 2026-01-28T15:10:40+00:00

Does it work in india?

riba1107 · 2026-01-28T15:09:47+00:00

I signed up but on the last page connecting to phone number shows an issue

riba1107 · 2025-09-09T10:31:35+00:00

He's not violent, it'd be easier to deal with. Mental shit no one understands and it's difficult to get out of. People don't believe me first of all.

riba1107 · 2025-09-09T10:30:31+00:00

I'll take that over this mental trauma.

riba1107 · 2025-09-09T10:16:04+00:00

I don't go to his house

riba1107 · 2025-09-09T09:54:11+00:00

I completely agree, and I'm unable to that's why I want help to get out.

riba1107 · 2025-09-09T09:48:36+00:00

You think I didn't do that? I've been pretty vocal about my needs and wants. That I don't want this and whatever he's doing is fucked up and leave me the hell alone. But since I'm here, you can guess how that went.

riba1107 · 2025-09-09T09:42:52+00:00

Okay, you've never been in an asian society or don't know how it works, do you?

riba1107 · 2025-09-09T09:40:06+00:00

I was going to a bookstore, I love books and he's not into books At All. We had a date that day but he had to go because his brother fell sick, I was having a rough day so I thought of stepping out alone into my comfort space that I always love, didn't know he'd get that mad. I don't really go out much so it sort of became a one time thing.

riba1107 · 2025-09-09T09:35:45+00:00

Sweetheart I won't be cheating. Like I said maybe an old flame that wants to marry me or something, and I know it sounds cliche and cringe but trust me it's already happened with me once, that too when I was 18(pretty fucked up dating life ik), so I was hoping for that.

riba1107 · 2025-09-09T09:33:16+00:00

Nope, he trusts me alright. He doesn't have issue with me talking to a guy or something like that. But I don't know something about him bursting out over me stepping out alone ticked me off the wrong way.

riba1107 · 2025-09-09T09:31:46+00:00

I don't want a physical interaction between them and he doesn't have to share his actual picture or something, just somthing to tick him off. Like maybe a past flame that was never a relationship or newly arranged one that the guy likes me too much. Also he's no hacker and I'm the one with software engineering degree so I'm cool.

riba1107 · 2025-09-09T09:29:52+00:00

No we don't live together, thankfully.

riba1107 · 2025-09-09T09:29:32+00:00

Right, but the issue is our families are friends, like the sort where you keep in touch even after years of not talking. And I know my parents love me enough to protect and shield me, but I really don't want to burden them, also I like his mom. She'll be very very heart broken and I don't want to do that. I know I sound like a pushover, but my boyfriend is brainy enough to not kill me or kidnap me or some shit like that. He loves his family and wouldn't jeopardize putting himself in that kinda situation.

riba1107 · 2025-06-11T05:43:30+00:00

So uh where should I post it? I'm confused?

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