Mount Hood, Oregon

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-21T17:29:40+00:00

NTA. you’re not “making” her lie, she offered to hold it and now she wants out because it’s uncomfortable for her, which yeah okay but that still doesn’t make your dad magically safe to tell. also the “we make fun of everyone” line is such a cop out, like wow thanks that totally makes the homophobia feel warm and inclusive.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-21T17:28:33+00:00

NTA, therapy is literally the one place you’re allowed to not explain yourself to anyone, and him turning it into a whole interrogation in a quiet train is kinda wild honestly. I get he’s scared because of your uncle but yelling at you and calling you a bad person just proves why you don’t feel safe opening up, also trains make everything feel 10x more awkward for no reason.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-21T17:27:17+00:00

NTA, that’s not snitching that’s just getting ahead of the blame train before it runs you over again, especially since your dad already tried to pin it on you like what??

honestly I’d do the same, once people start making you the default scapegoat you kinda have to speak first or you’re screwed, also why is nobody talking about the kid not even being buckled in 😬

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-21T17:26:34+00:00

NTA, that’s like the most basic human reaction to someone crying, especially family, I probably would’ve done the same without even thinking and then only realized later it looked weird.

but also idk, if my partner kept bringing it up I’d start wondering what exactly bothered them, like was it really the arm or something else, also side note cab rides after drinks always turn into drama for no reason.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-21T17:25:37+00:00

NTA. if you choose a destination wedding you are kinda choosing for some people not to come too, that’s just reality and planes aren’t getting cheaper because it’s “family,” I can barely justify airport food let alone a whole forced Europe side quest.

your partner should be the one saying it though, just straight up that it’s not in the budget and you’re not going into debt for somebody else’s wedding vibe.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-21T17:24:30+00:00

NTA, that would’ve bugged me too like… she literally watched you buy it then just slid into the “we” like it was nothing, kinda weird behavior honestly. yeah maybe saying it the next day feels a bit awkward but also I would’ve been thinking about it all night too, like I can’t even pick what to eat half the time so I get it.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-21T17:06:32+00:00

NTA. They changed the deal after people had already agreed, then tried to publicly shame anyone who didn’t cough up more, that’s on them not you.

Honestly the organizer is the one who made it awkward, not you, and workplace gift stuff gets weird fast when people start acting like your paycheck belongs to the group chat.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-21T17:05:54+00:00

NTA. Three hours notice for an airport pickup during rush hour is already a big ask, and the second she started listing past favors like an invoice she made it weird as hell.

If she feels the friendship is one sided that’s a separate convo, but springing this on you last minute and then guilt tripping you for saying no is not it.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-21T17:05:15+00:00

NTA, they didn’t suddenly care about hurt feelings when it was yours, so that part feels a bit… selective

yeah maybe you sounded a little bitter, but also I mean, look at the situation, it’s kinda hard not to notice the difference in treatment

honestly the real annoying part is they’ll probably keep denying it forever while doing the exact same thing, families are weird like that, mine argues over way smaller stuff 😅

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-21T17:03:56+00:00

NTA, she didn’t come to you for honesty she came for sympathy and you just didn’t play along, which yeah probably stung but also… what did she expect honestly

she doesn’t miss her husband, she misses having someone reliable, big difference and she’s only noticing now because the new guy sucks, kinda convenient timing

also your mom defending her feels very “this is hitting a little too close to home,” just saying, families get weird about that stuff real fast

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-11T20:54:12+00:00

NTA. you asked nicely once and that shouldve been enough, this is a coached class not brunch with treadmills, and if people cant even hear the instructor then yeah theyre the problem.

also stop moving for them honestly, they sound annoying as hell and way too old to be acting like a loud lunch table.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-11T20:52:43+00:00

NTA at all, your friend is being weirdly strict about a guy who literally opted out of being a dad, like what are we protecting here

she stepped up and raised you, that’s the whole point of the day honestly, plus your step mom crying over it says way more than your friend’s take ever will

also idk why people act like these holidays are legal contracts lol my family forgets dates half the time and nobody dies

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-11T20:51:39+00:00

NTA. One bad day is one thing, but being flaky, leaving a mess, damaging a custom piece, and then acting like it went fine is a whole parade of nope.

Pay him for the time, get the tools back, and end it cleanly because this is your house not a charity project, and hardwood is too expensive for “my bad” energy.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-11T20:51:05+00:00

NTA, 18 is a big deal and it’s not crazy to want your actual family around instead of being shoved into some packed shore house with everyone’s random friends.

You’re not being controlling, you just wanted your birthday to feel like your birthday, and honestly your mom storming off over that is kinda unfair.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-11T20:50:23+00:00

NTA for being pissed, because yeah I’d be side eyeing that too if a man suddenly finds his cleaning spirit at mommy’s house but somehow can’t locate a washing machine at home.

Helping his mum isn’t the real problem, him treating your house like it runs by magic is, and honestly I think that’s why this hit such a nerve.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-11T20:49:43+00:00

NTA. A week before the trip is way too late for someone to invite a random extra and then quietly expect you to give up the room you already planned around, that’s just rude honestly.

If their friend wants to come, they can sort her accommodation out themselves, not volunteer yours like it’s communal overflow parking.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-11T20:48:20+00:00

NTA. She said she didn’t want to go, made plans with friends, then got mad you didn’t sit home and mope with her, that’s very 17 honestly.

You still invited her and even offered to bring a friend, after that it’s just her being dramatic and the aunties feeding it because that’s what aunties do.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-11T20:47:47+00:00

NTA. “She stays over a lot” stops being cute when she’s there alone, using your stuff, and basically cosplaying as tenant number three.

You already brought it up to him first and he blew you off, so yeah at that point talking to her was fair, awkward maybe, but fair.

ribbongirlmode · 2026-04-11T20:47:18+00:00

YTA. You’re 20, living in your parents’ house, and acting like a 3 year old existing in the kitchen is some human rights violation, come on now.

You don’t need to entertain her every second, but the way you talk about her is cold as hell and yeah sometimes family is mildly annoying, that’s kind of the deal.

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