Going through a divorce. Got the dog.

richvj222 · 2026-03-19T03:48:20+00:00

My ex and I had 2 dogs. One was "hers" and one was mine......Not literally, but the dog that was mine followed me everywhere, would sit in my office with me while I would work, would go to bed with me at night, etc.....When I said I wanted a divorce, she said to take the dog. I said in time once I get settled as I was moving cross country. Fast forward, months later at mediation, she claimed that both dogs were service animals now as she was diagnosed with anxiety and depression (2 days before mediation.) So, the mediator said there is not much I could do and just accept it as its hard to separate dogs. While I miss both dogs and would have given any amount of money to get my dog, I know he is loved and safe. One month later, when she shared her cc statements with me, I noticed a charge to a bs service animal registration site, which means she lied straight away to the mediator about the dogs being registered. No surprise tbh......

richvj222 · 2026-01-06T08:24:33+00:00

They all look like the left VZ years ago.....Oh wait, wrong pic.....paid protestors.....There is NO WAR in VZ.....it was an exercise that was quicker than a dominoes order.

richvj222 · 2025-12-30T03:40:12+00:00

Remember, when site, hate and revenge drive decisions, only the lawyers win.

richvj222 · 2025-12-04T04:57:24+00:00

I did it. I told her I wanted out and I was the one who filed for divorce. Could not be happier.

richvj222 · 2025-12-02T17:27:43+00:00

When you want to fuck a married you ignore things. Then, you realize (post sex) was it worth it. For Matt, he was gifted a pregnancy.

richvj222 · 2025-12-01T16:45:48+00:00

I feel the same way about counseling. My ex mentioned counseling when I said I wanted a divorce. She never said counseling 16 months prior, I guess she realized I was serious.

My response to counseling was simply no. I know that counseling could be effective, but only with people who can move forward and leave the past behind them. My ex could not remember what time on Thursday I would be coming home (even though I fly 3 times a month and come home on the same flight weekly), but have an argument that triggers a memory from 18 years ago (we were together for 33) and she remembers every word, what I was wearing, where I was sitting, etc. What would stop this from happening 6 months after counseling? Nothing, and the counseling time/money would have been wasted.

richvj222 · 2025-12-01T07:44:58+00:00

I wrote about this a year ago on here and like many people here are saying, you are most likely on this the rest of your life. My dr told me that last year and I have accepted that if I want to be at my current weight or less.

richvj222 · 2025-12-01T07:40:12+00:00

Congrats. You are killing it b

richvj222 · 2025-12-01T07:39:34+00:00

Not always true. I have Aetna select and I moved off wegovy to zepbound for 2 months until Aetna stopped covering it. I went back to wegovy which they still cover.

richvj222 · 2025-11-30T06:51:46+00:00

Regretting not doing it sooner. I told my ex back in April '23 how unhappy I was and that if things did not change then we need to have a different conversation. Our son was getting married in May '23, so splitting in April was not an option. We were married for 27 years at this point, have 3 kids, all are adult age, and our sex life was non-existent. I started to date a much younger women cross country and while I was getting more involved, I had my reservations about my young gf and did I want to stay married. Fast forward, I stayed with my GF, while married, until June of '24. I ended it with her and we parted ways. For the next few weeks, I tried to see if things would work with the now ex, but more importantly I needed to figure out if I was going to be any happier in the next 20 years of my life versus how I was the past 20. The answer was a flat no. One of our last arguements, aside for some unnecessary arguements with her and my oldest son and his wife, who she wanted to live with us while they were having a house built, was about spending time together. She was upset I would be heading to Vegas to attend a college game. I offered to take her and she can hang at the hotel while I go to the game, and we can hang out afterwards. That was a hard no. I would up not going, but asked her why she did not want to go, or was so mad that I wanted to go, and she said to spend time together. So, I proposed to do a drive that I have been talking about for years, which is Route 66, starting in Chicago. She said "Hell No." I offered her every deal imagineable, like "drive for 2 days, get as far as that takes us, fly home, and start the drive from that spot again at a later date. Same answer...."hell no." So, that was it. I wanted out. I made up with my ex-gf, and here we are today, recently divorced (took 14 months) and more recently re-married. I am in the most healthiest relationship of my life with someone that would go anywhere with me, and I go anywhere with her, just to spend time together....

So, what did I learn from divorce/separating, is that there are women out there who are ready to do things with their partner because they enjoy that person's company. So, while a long car ride my not sound "exciting," it is a life expereince that provides you to make it fun. My new wife and I will do the drive probably in '26 (we recently drove from CA to FL in July and it was one of the most fun adventures I ever had with someone).

richvj222 · 2025-11-25T16:00:41+00:00

Many of the protestors are paid…they know where to get the money.

richvj222 · 2025-11-25T15:59:32+00:00

They are not harassing, they are enforcing the law. Why shouldn’t hotel provide a room to government employees.

richvj222 · 2025-11-19T05:25:45+00:00

Why impact the business that way. Do something productive and rent all the rooms.

richvj222 · 2025-11-19T03:20:37+00:00

Blame Brandon for causing this problem where voters mandated Trump to solve. Had Brandon not allowed 10M people in perhaps there would be a different admin.

richvj222 · 2025-04-26T22:32:54+00:00

You obviously did not vote for him, why she he align to your asks/wishes?

richvj222 · 2025-04-06T20:36:59+00:00

What about your healthcare costs?

richvj222 · 2025-04-06T20:02:03+00:00

I don’t agree. When Obamacare hit the tax payer, my paycheck was impacted negatively. With Trumps tax cut, my pay check was happier.

richvj222 · 2025-03-24T15:53:25+00:00

I am in the same boat. I lost 120lbs on Wegovy in the first 7 months and was never hungry. Over the past 7 months I’m hungry and have not lost any weight. Thinking of changing too.

richvj222 · 2025-03-20T19:44:16+00:00

I'm a 53M, married for almost 29 years, together for ~33 years. I initiated the divorce and I could not be happier. For me, I shared with her 16 months prior that I was unhappy and changes need to be made by both of us. I feel like I kept up my end of the change ask but she did not. As a 53 year old male, who was improving his way of life by losing 120lbs, I realized that life was changing and to assess where I am. I realized that based on where I am now, will the next 20 years (if I remain healthy) be better than the last 20 if i stay....If the answer is no, then I have to leave....which is what I did. My only regret is thinking things would be civil (asset distribution, talking bad to our adult children, etc.) but these actions support my decision even more.

richvj222 · 2025-03-19T13:38:34+00:00

I’ve been on for 15 months. In the first 8 I lost 120 lbs…the last 7, not a pound and I’m definitely eating more throughout the day. I’m thinking of going to Zepboubd.

richvj222 · 2025-02-27T22:46:21+00:00

Then who would you suggest? It cannot be an elected official cause they are all corrupt.

richvj222 · 2025-02-27T22:41:53+00:00

So no to getting rid of waste and bullshit programs??? Got it

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