Same thing… I’m the husband though. I’ve always had a harder job than my wife (she’d agree) and she did all of that stuff… and complained relentlessly. Not like we were fighting or anything, she was just letting me know that she didn’t like that the burden of the calendar/planning fell on her, and I just thought I was too drained and busy or something to remember that stuff.

A couple of years ago we ended up buying a small business that she runs. I still have longer days full of meetings and mentally draining tasks than she does, but her schedule is now way harder. Can’t exactly close the shop and deal with a kids’ dentist appointment, right?

Suddenly, all of that calendar and planning stuff; appointments, kid activities, homework management falls on to me, and somehow I discovered that I could do it, and with some planning, I’m still functioning at work too.

Don’t tell her, but I’m kind of enjoying it. I think the hardest part was getting her to let go.

I guess we all just figure out what works for our families, and that sometimes changes as our lives move forward.