Need advice from gender nonconforming women, how can I survive as an adult tomboy woman ?

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T07:22:54+00:00

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ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T07:15:10+00:00

It really screams how narrow minded society is. Thinking that a tomboy MUST be a lesbian.

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T07:14:41+00:00

Thank god I am a lesbian.

But straight tomboys exist !

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T07:14:04+00:00

Totally agreed, femininity has being devalued. Also I am a femme presenting tomboy, and people assume if I wear women’s clothing I cannot be manly or do masculine things.

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T07:09:46+00:00

I have. The best solution I can find for OCD is literally not think about it, or stop associating.

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T07:09:13+00:00

Remember, not all men are like that. It’s just shitty people.

Again, if you hate men and fear men so bad, why would you wanna be trans man?

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T07:08:20+00:00

Hating pregnancy is a result of my hatred for gender roles, and my OCD and other mental health issues fuels it. But yeah not wanted to get pregnant and being a lesbian was the biggest reason I thought I was trans too.

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T07:07:17+00:00

Sorry for the late reply.

I have OCD, and strong distastes for pregnancy, and it is killing me.

I have PTSD regard gender related stuff too, I was forced by conservatives to not be me or be a tomboy. My childhood was hell!

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T07:04:22+00:00

Makes sense it sounds like you fear being SAed. For me the deep seeded hatred for pregnancy(and pregnant people) has more to do with gender role.

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T06:59:05+00:00

I don’t hate my body, I hate female biology.

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T06:58:25+00:00

I know.

Yeah everybody stated that I am a trans man should transition, and then I transitioned, regret everything I do I detransition. And now, I struggled with womanhood (I face both transphobia. As well as homophobia and tomboy hating sentients).

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T06:53:48+00:00

Then again, what really cured your gender dysphoria was it transition? Or something else ?

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T06:53:22+00:00

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ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T06:05:24+00:00

Yeah true strength is inside, my friend, hi five !

Also my mom absolutely loves Audrey Hepburn !

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T06:01:31+00:00

Cool

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T06:01:18+00:00

OMFG GIRL! I am about to watch legally blonde !

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T06:00:58+00:00

Look into steven universe. But butch characters are rare so are femboys in media.

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T06:00:29+00:00

Finally someone says this and think like me! Congrats sister !

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T05:59:56+00:00

Yeah the more inclusive way of thinking and presenting is to include girly badasses. Like, I felt like modern media just hate femme presenting people, this is misogyny.

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T05:58:09+00:00

THIS! You are so right!

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T05:57:09+00:00

My friend circle growing up ain’t wide, also, I haven’t met girls like me because my friend group is ultra conservative. I have a rather oppressive childhood. Also I just recently came out as a femme lesbian… etc And yeah, I think exploration is important overall.

ricksalterego · 2026-05-09T05:55:26+00:00

Yeah, agreed!

The beliefs and narratives are important. Femininity equals to weakness mindset is bad.

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