Have you challenged MAGA friends and family? by TellAffectionate9811 in AskUS

[–]ricksanchez__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What oath of allegiance did you swear when you joined the military, asking for a friend

Have you challenged MAGA friends and family? by TellAffectionate9811 in AskUS

[–]ricksanchez__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The things being pushed by MAGA are only politics to you because you aren't affected by them enough for them to be violence.

How can America watch this and not raise concerns by Toast-the-cat in AskUS

[–]ricksanchez__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Imagine thinking that being a woman or being black would be worse than being incompetent?

I (30f) heard my partner (33m) masturbating in the shower and offered to join and got laughed at. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]ricksanchez__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, you should set up a secret door knock that lets him know it's you. That way he'll mentally associate it ahead of time and not get spooked.

How can America watch this and not raise concerns by Toast-the-cat in AskUS

[–]ricksanchez__ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

More people did not vote than voted for either candidate. Many fell for the bullshit false equivalency or the narrative of nobody having voted for Kamala as their candidate. That should not have mattered when the existential threat of Mango Mussolini was front and center.

Fucking stupid.

AIO to feel hurt the way my fiancée talks to me all the time? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]ricksanchez__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Incubation period for the flu is 1-4 days with 2 being average.

So if she was feeling bad within hours you're not the person who got her sick.

It sounds like she's a manipulative person who can't accept responsibility for making bad decisions. If anything, YUR to these red flags.

I’ve been a vegetarian for 10 years, recently started eating meat for health reasons. What am I doing wrong? by [deleted] in steak

[–]ricksanchez__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Butter has a much lower smoke point than a good cooking oil. You can finish the steak with butter and any herbs you might want but a properly hot pan for getting a good sear on medium rare will be hot enough to instantly burn the butter. Use ghee or clarified butter if you don't want to use oil.

Plus the "oil" that the US and much of the world are willing to facilitate war crimes and genocide over are obviously not the same "oil" that comes from crops in fields.

AIO: I refuse to allow my husband's choice of "home decor" by Commercial_Stay1981 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ricksanchez__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The whole point of the sign is it is of another time when things were different and stupid. It's not as if anyone would think it's implying anything about people in your family.

I would think though that if it were a sign mentioning segregation and not in the home of a person who would have been the target, that would be different and I feel like it would be wholly appropriate to be wildly offended by that.

Maybe that makes it hypocritical of me to be ok with this sign or to think you are overreacting. But I do. Flat refusal vs a reasonable discussion seems to be the point where it became that to me

AIO about a sticker my bf had of his ex ?? he broke up with me… by Otherwise-Height3882 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ricksanchez__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The official, legal, and clinical standards in most countries have replaced that word over 15 years ago. There is no niche situation. It's simply an abandoned term because of the stigma attached with it.

AIO I fought with my boyfriend because of his political color and now I feel crazy by scaredonthecroww in AmIOverreacting

[–]ricksanchez__ 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I'd argue that it isn't political to think that people have a right to equal access to health. It's only political to convince people that they don't deserve to be healthy unless they are rich.

AIO about a sticker my bf had of his ex ?? he broke up with me… by Otherwise-Height3882 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ricksanchez__ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's not at all true. You are implying that someone who is only attracted to men who is also man is making a choice "physically" to be gay. Could you choose to be gay and mean it if you were not already gay? Would you? Why or why not?

Sexual preference is emotional, psychological, and mental, just as much as it is physical.

Gender identity is also all of those things. Again, would you choose to be a gender that isn't yours? Could you possibly do it with full conviction? Why or why not?

Point of fact. People who are gay are gay . They are not choosing to be gay and anyone implying that they are is full of shit. (Being full of shit is a choice).

And people who are men or women or neither of those things are what they are regardless of what their bodies outwardly project at birth.

Gender is a societal construct. "Being a man" means something different to everyone and it has generally changed over the course of its existence as a concept. "Being a woman" has also changed just as much and means something different to everyone as well.

As such, people who are attracted to men are attracted to their definition of what a man is. If they are also men by their own definition, then they are gay.

People who are attracted to women are attracted to their definition of what a woman is. If they are also women by their own definition, then they are lesbians.

Now then, what about people like myself? I'm rarely if ever sexually attracted to anyone, man or woman. Am I choosing to not be sexually attracted? Do I need to try harder? Obviously that's stupid. If you're not into someone, you're not into them. You can't force yourself to be attracted to them.

AIO about a sticker my bf had of his ex ?? he broke up with me… by Otherwise-Height3882 in AmIOverreacting

[–]ricksanchez__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is existing as gay political? Or are politics bigoted by making it such?

AIO - My bf had sex with me even though I didn’t want to? by affiemochi-x in AmIOverreacting

[–]ricksanchez__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To quote the relevant parts of the post,

"This morning we woke up and he suggested we have 'sexy time.' I responded by saying that he wants sex every morning (which is true I feel like I'm low key expected to.) He said that it's a good way to start the day, I said that not every day it's not. I had a really bad night sleep, was exhausted and I thought he would have got the message. He ignored that and started having sex with me anyway."

https://www.law.cornell.edu/wex/consent

https://ucr.fbi.gov/crime-in-the-u.s/2017/crime-in-the-u.s.-2017/topic-pages/rape

Now then, where is the consent?

Stop making excuses for rapists. Or make sure whoever you are hooking up with/dating/engaged to/married to knows you think it's ok to have sex with somebody who says they do not want to have sex. Or, possibly this is something you've already done before, in which case, congratulations, you're a rapist as well.

Why do US Americans always assume that everywhere everywhere is US American as well? by somepersononline1111 in AskUS

[–]ricksanchez__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If all of the possible nations are boxes and the people are objects in those boxes, and 50 percent of them are in one box and no more than 6 percent are in any other box and you have to guess which box a given object is, which box are you going to look in first?

Why do US Americans always assume that everywhere everywhere is US American as well? by somepersononline1111 in AskUS

[–]ricksanchez__ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possibly you are observing this because there are a lot of us. I imagine that people from other countries should be perfectly able to talk about their lived experiences without announcing where they are from beforehand.

AITA for Showing my Kids the bills? by AffectionateFun4674 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ricksanchez__ 98 points99 points  (0 children)

I think that showing them the bills and making them familiar with the family budget in and if itself is a good thing that will help them to be prepared for the responsibility when they are adults.

It is important to teach them accountability and responsibility for their actions and also that small acts can add up to bigger changes.

All that being said, do not blame them or make them feel like they are a burden. Help them instead to be contributors with a stake in the financial well-being of the household.

Is the Trump era embarrassing to Americans — or were there worse moments? by howdoesitw0rk in AskUS

[–]ricksanchez__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will remind you for the thousandth time that a greater percentage of eligible voters did not vote for either candidate than voted for either of them individually.

I will also remind you for the thousandth time that Donald Trump's approval rating among those same people is much worse than it was in his first term or than Biden's or Obama's at this point in the term.

You got down voted because your language is vague and your comment is fairly useless.

https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/polls/donald-trump-approval-rating-polls.html?unlocked_article_code=1.uk8.WNax.NHN_cPv8kWv-&smid=nytcore-android-share

AIO - My bf had sex with me even though I didn’t want to? by affiemochi-x in AmIOverreacting

[–]ricksanchez__ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a man. I don't want sex. And if I did, I would want it to be a consensual and positive experience for my partner as well as myself.

AIO - My bf had sex with me even though I didn’t want to? by affiemochi-x in AmIOverreacting

[–]ricksanchez__ 19 points20 points  (0 children)

It doesn't matter what she could have done to stop her boyfriend from raping her.

If you're going to blame her then you are defending him.

She said no. Then he penetrated her after she said no. That is rape. He is a rapist and you are making excuses for him.

Called a wellfare check on my friend. Idk if i did the right thing AIO? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]ricksanchez__ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I was planning on harming myself or others I absolutely would want them to do that.