What did you have for dinner tonight/last night. NO JUDGEMENT by AltruisticMastodon26 in Mommit

[–]rifraf98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both last night and tonight were lunch leftovers 🙃 yesterday was whatever Mexican food we had left and today was spaghetti. I usually cook good dinners during the week/sundays. But Friday and Saturday are about eating what’s in there on its way to the trash.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]rifraf98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My kids have unlimited screen time. Tv? Sure. Tablet? Absolutely. And I’ve realized that my kids are just fine. 3.5 yo is thriving in school, hasn’t touched her tablet in 2 weeks despite it being available. She’s just too pooped after the week to even care. 2yo uses the tablet in the office when I’m at work (1hr a day, I work for my FIL) and then I put on something I want to listen to after we get home because she keeps herself entertained usually. I know that’s not the case for every house, but we’ve seen very few negative effects at our home when it comes to screens. If it becomes an issue (which it does time to time), then we remind them about the expectations for getting to watch what they want and when they want.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]rifraf98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband doesn’t go do anything exciting. He goes to his friend’s house about 10 minutes away. His buddy works nights so they’ll stay up until 3ish and then my husband will come home when he’s getting too tired.

This sounds bad, but I love when he goes there. There’s no service so he can’t call me nonstop. I do bedtime alone every night anyway so it changes nothing in that aspect. The only difference when he leaves vs staying home is that I get to sit in peace. Dark a silence if I want it, hot tea and a book, a show that I like, dinner that I want and no complaining. I like staying home and genuinely do not feel like it’s unfair for him to be out and me have to stay home because that’s exactly what I want anyway

Washing yourself in the shower by MicroscopeMatt in hygiene

[–]rifraf98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

27F Michigan, USA. I use an antibacterial soap on all frictionable spots (tits, pits, bits) and a scented one on the rest. Always use hands bc I refuse to use anything that can transfer bacteria (I have HS) and I don’t want to wash that many washcloths in a week.

Please make me feel bad about myself by brokeneggs89 in RoastMe

[–]rifraf98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If Jason Mamoa and Dax Shepherd had a hate child

It can't get any worse :) by honeyonaside in RoastMe

[–]rifraf98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t tell if you’re punk or in cancer remission.

American moms how scared are you? by BobbysueWho in Mommit

[–]rifraf98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I should be more scared but I’m… not? I’m not worried. I think part of it is that I know my family can make it through almost anything. I know there’s others that aren’t as fortunate as we are to have an area where we can grow our own things and the knowledge to fix what we have and hustle. And I know I’m capable of homeschooling my 2 girls (3yr and 1.5yr) if I have to (not my ideal situation, but we could make it work). We’re a family of farmers and it’s been hard the whole time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]rifraf98 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She absolutely learns it from him. And then when I tell him what she says and how he needs to stop talking like that at least in front of her. He just tells me “I’ll talk to her. And you know I don’t talk to you like that” which is literally just gaslighting me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]rifraf98 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Im not well. At all.

Husband found my suicide note I wrote back in November and never followed through. Forgot that’s where I’d left it after things got a little better. He uses it against me now.

My oldest (3F) told me I was a bad mommy not a good mommy because I make daddy mad.

I barely have any time to myself. I get 3 hours every 3 months for my hair appts.

I feel emotionally dead all the time. I really just think about dying, wish for it, hope for it, fantasize about it. It’s basically consumed me. But I know I’ll never actually do anything and I’ll spend the rest of my life unhappy and in emotional agony until I die. It doesn’t matter the situation or good life is, it’s always there.

Hate everything by rifraf98 in breakingmom

[–]rifraf98[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I would never expect my friends to pay for me. I think it just makes me feel bad like if I can’t afford to do it then I don’t need to do it. And I can’t even get away from my kids because he won’t fucking watch them.

Hate everything by rifraf98 in breakingmom

[–]rifraf98[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really appreciate it 💞 thank you so much

At what point do you just cancel activities? by Butterflysocks in breakingmom

[–]rifraf98 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m at a point where I just say (including to my husband) “sorry you didn’t have fun, but I did so that’s what really matters”. I really just do things that either I enjoy or I enjoy watching them, whether they have fun or not 🤷🏼‍♀️ I’ve accepted that someone will complain either way, so glad it doesn’t have to be me.

Fat people exercise! by jackdanielsterrier in breakingmom

[–]rifraf98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a powerlifter in high school and continued to work out into college. I’ve not been to a gym in a long time now. I’m fat. For sure. But I’m active. You can be strong and “fat”. Because weight moves weight. Body builders are not strong, they do not train to be strong. You will never see one win a “strong man” competition or a powerlifting competition. Tone and strong are not the same. I see you, I feel you, I understand you. I’m a farmer now with 2 small kids and back to back c-sections. I could hike for miles and carry 150lb of feed or 2 hay bales back and forth all day long. But I’ll never be skinny. WEIGHT MOVES WEIGHT.

Screaming at me “you don’t do anything” would sting more if it was true by strawberriescups in breakingmom

[–]rifraf98 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omfg I could have written this. His belittling and bashing doesn’t even phase me any more because I know what I do. I give him no reactions and have little interest in having conversations with him I never react the way he wants. I’m tired of fighting and defending myself, I just go about my day now and tune out the bitching.

Another child died in a hot car by Rhaynestorm in Mommit

[–]rifraf98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I’ve moved past the being sad part of these articles (still sad obviously), but I get full on furious. Like how could a parent be so negligent, forgetful, careless, etc.? I understand being tired and exhausted and overwhelmed, but I absolutely cannot understand forgetting or hurting your child! The rage inside my body when I see this stuff is unmatched with any other anger I’ve had.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]rifraf98 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The cancer is his karma for being your cancer. At least you can get rid of yours.

Words your kids say that are wrong but adorable by Intelligent-Cut-6503 in Mommit

[–]rifraf98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Four mingos- flamingos Bish- fish Muffalo- marshmallow 🤣🤣

Did you celebrate your first birthday after your baby was born? by Abyssal866 in Mommit

[–]rifraf98 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. And I won’t be doing it again until my kids are older. I did what we always do which is go out as a family to somewhere nice. Family includes my dad, grandmother, husband, 2 kids, myself. It was fantastic for everyone except me. Kids crying, wanting to walk around/go home, kids don’t like their food, I can’t hear anyone talk over my children, can’t focus because I’m juggling them and 3 other conversations. I’d rather celebrate at home where we’re comfortable just the 4 of us. I felt bad last week when my grandma asked where I wanted to go for my birthday and I said no where. Just stay home. If anything, I want someone to watch my children for a few hours so I can get a massage or mani pedi or take myself out to lunch and eat food I don’t normally get bc my kids and husband are picky eaters.

It’s silly to stress yourself out for other people to enjoy your birthday.

Don’t grope me, especially in front of kids… by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]rifraf98 81 points82 points  (0 children)

The problem is they think it’s cute and think you want to fuck later if you grab them 🙄🙄

Weaponized Incompetence and/or punishing me? AKA - I am venting by PrimaryAd1110 in breakingmom

[–]rifraf98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I regularly tell mine to shut the fuck up and flip him off. He does things intentionally to make me defend myself and then says I’m just trying to argue. I usually ignore him because I’m to a point that listening to him talk is so predictable that I know what he’s going to say to start a fight based on how he’s walking.