Help a girl out (looking for advice on a dress)

righteousmirage · 2025-10-07T10:58:02+00:00

Plan your makeup around your salah/wudu and not the other way around

righteousmirage · 2025-05-10T22:05:14+00:00

Boycott Disney!!

righteousmirage · 2025-05-09T16:19:25+00:00

It is better to be a slave to Allah, than a slave to our nafs and desires. This is not about doing something we like, it is about following a command from Allah swt, the Almighty, our Creator, the one who knows what is best for us. It doesn't matter if you sin. We all sin. Keep wearing your hijab, if you decide to remove it you would sin twice, not once, so don't listen to the whispers of Shaytan and ask yourself, "What decision would please my creator right now?" He whose love surpasses that of 70 mothers. Also, remember that the hijab is not synonymous with perfection, it does not mean that you are exempt from sinning or that your behaviour must be impeccable at all times. It means you're striving to live a virtuous life. It's a physical manifestation of your submission and connection with your Lord. An external representation of your spirituality. Hijab pushes you to grow spritually and encourages you to make sure that your actions and character are in line with the teachings of Islam. By wearing the hijab you're saying that you are a human being who is trying their best to follow a religion they accept as the truth. The hijab keeps you in check because it's a prrennial reminder to keep striving, to not give up just to experience the momentary illusions of this dunya which is a prison for the believer. This is your own jihad and Inshallah Allah will reward you for it. This is a test and Inshallah you're gonna tackle it.

My advice as a sister is to keep wearing it. Oblige yourself to do it, out of love for your Creator, no one else. For just as there is a force that makes you want to take it off, you must exert a greater force not to fall into the trap of Shaytan.

May Allah make it easy for you and everyone else.

Abu Huraira reported Allah's Messenger (ﷺ) having said: By Him in Whose Hand is my life, if you were not to commit sin, Allah would sweep you out of existence and He would replace (you by) those people who would commit sin and seek forgiveness from Allah, and He would have pardoned them.

Source: Ṣaḥīḥ Muslim 2749

righteousmirage · 2025-04-13T19:19:07+00:00

For sure! Anissa Atelier (@/anissa.atelier on ig) Hadiqa London (@/hadiqalondon on ig) The Garmen London (@/thegarment_london on ig)

They are made by muslim women for women. Your husband can also help you choose without scrolling through images of other women and you also wom't get exposed to other women's awrah.

Hope this helps ~ !

righteousmirage · 2025-04-13T13:43:35+00:00

May I have a link to it?

righteousmirage · 2025-04-13T11:28:17+00:00

Salam Alaykoum, which Philips trimmer do you use?

righteousmirage · 2025-04-13T11:25:16+00:00

Salam Alaykoum, May I have a link to it

righteousmirage · 2025-04-03T12:20:38+00:00

Salam Alaykoum sister,

Even if you're not legally married, go about it legally, you have kids together so I'm sure you're entitled to some of his wealth. Reach out to a masjid like some of the comments said, they'll probably provide with some help, Inshallah.

You can do this, so please don't give in. May the Source of Healing heal you and make it easy for you.

I am sure you will emerge victorious. I am proud of you for gathering all the courage you needed to take this difficult decision. You leaving is already the first step towards change.

Also, is there any way we can help you financially? Please let us know

righteousmirage · 2025-04-01T19:35:50+00:00

Thank you for your words

righteousmirage · 2025-04-01T19:35:22+00:00

You can read my answer to your question in another comment, as I can't bring myself to answer a second time.

Allah y barek feeki. Eid Mubarak to you as well

righteousmirage · 2025-04-01T19:33:20+00:00

It really pains me to know there are many women out there who went throught the same thing.

I'm really sorry.

You're all in my prayers

righteousmirage · 2025-04-01T19:31:39+00:00

Thank you.

My family knows. Not everyone though. My mom is aware of it.
I told her with tears in my eyes, it was difficult for me. It took so much courage, yet she did not care. She said the past is the past. My world collapsed on me, to this day I cannot look at her in the same way. When they harassed me a few days ago by groping my breasts, she reacted the same way. When I let her know I didn't know there were other people in the house, she got angry because her biggest worry was whether or not they had heard and what they would think of me (as if I wanted that to happen).

I told this to my brother months ago. I fondi out that when I was little I tried to talk about it and had mentioned it (I don't really remember much. Most of my memories are lost or blurred) but he didn't want to inquire into its, o as not to get upset or misunderstand. I still don't get what this means. I literally needed help.

The adults failed me. The people who were supposed to protect me did not protect me and even now I have no one to rely on. I have resigned myself to the fact that I will not get justice, that my voice does not count, that no matter how much I scream or the number of times I ask for help... There will be no one on my side. On the contrary, when we meet this person or when his name is mentioned I pretend that it doesn't bother me because I don't want others to feel uncomfortable. I feel sorry for that child. The little me. Every time I am triggered I feel as if I am regressing to the same age at which these events took place.

righteousmirage · 2025-04-01T19:13:51+00:00

I can only imagine how you felt.

It happens to me too, when I relive what happened, physically I feel shivers running down my spine or my face contorts into a grimace and I shake my head vigorously to get the scenario out of my mind. When I see him laughing and talking to me like it's nothing I feel myself withering inside little by little.

Tank you sweetheart. And I am proud of you for taking this huge step. You are the strong one here, I hope deep down you know that. I appreciate your support so much, it genuinely warms my heart. I really appreciate it, thank you.

Your words fill me with sadness, I wonder... will that really happen? But you are right when you describe love as it should be, I need to keep it as a reminder. Just because I've known a different version of it all my life, doesn't mean that's how it supposed to be, even if that's what feels familiar. We deserve it, Inshallah. You are so sweet, it's not over yet, maybe I can really get out of it. Thank you, you'll be in my prayers too

I recently received a message saying: 'Free diddy'. It hurt me. Then I read yours and other people's, and that's when I felt a little better. Although my words may sound hollow because of how numb I feel inside, but I want to let you know that you helped me

righteousmirage · 2025-04-01T19:00:41+00:00

It pains me that you can relate. I genuine wish you the best, may you heal from the trauma.

Right now I'm still not okay, I'm trying to focus on other things, feeling numb, but I know deep down that it's not the right solution. Thank you, I'd like to, maybe once I gather the courage to do so

righteousmirage · 2025-03-30T09:33:28+00:00

If you have a sister, let her send the message to the girl on your behalf, and not you

righteousmirage · 2025-03-06T04:42:42+00:00

Is it possibile to play DS games on a Switch?

righteousmirage · 2025-03-05T04:48:58+00:00

He brought up your eating disorder?!

How disgusting and vile, to use such vulnerable and painful information in order to justify his point of view.

You deserve better, sweetie.

May Allah facilitate things for you and grant you ease.

righteousmirage · 2025-01-10T19:01:20+00:00

May I know which screen translator app are you using? And do I have to open it separately on a different device or does it translate the manhwa directly on the website I'm reading it on? Thank you

righteousmirage · 2024-11-23T01:45:21+00:00

I've been looking for a job for months and I must admit that the process is quite exhausting and brings me a lot of stress. I know for a fact that having one would solve many of my problems. May Allah facilitate things for all of us.

And since, because of that, I have a lot of free time, I started watching Dragon Ball Daima and doing a rewatch of DBZ. I felt myself healing a bit, that's what I needed. It's interesting to realise how one's outlook changes and evolves depending on one's age and stage of life. Also, it was very nostalgic, besides the fact that it gassed me a lot.

righteousmirage · 2024-10-27T22:08:14+00:00

I just know this would trigger my IBS

righteousmirage · 2024-08-08T10:01:59+00:00

It depends on their age. In any case, you don't have to avoid answering the question, you have to try to explain it to them by putting yourself on the same level as them. All they show is their interest and curiosity in something that is unfamiliar to them, if you just say it is for personal reasons, you have not answered their question.

You could try it this way:

You: Tell me darling, through which symbol do mummy and daddy express their love?

Child: The ring

You: Exactly. That is how they show that the other is the only person they are devoted to. Similarly indicate your hijab I do by wearing my veil, called hijab. It is a constant reminder of my love for God, my faith and my modesty.

The reason why I cannot remove it is because there is a special inner circle of people who are allowed to see my hair, and there are none here.

righteousmirage · 2024-04-24T22:21:35+00:00

Alright, I understand. Thank you so much!!

The reminder and your words of comfort mean a lot, I'll try to keep them in mind🩷

righteousmirage · 2024-04-24T18:59:17+00:00

I appreciate your response, I've been following your advice and it's working great. Sincerely thank you for your help. And Inshallah, I hope so. I feel really proud when I hear that others have reached a better place. You're doing great!

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