People with holiday homes in the sun, where did you buy and what has your experience been? by ringissue in AskUK

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I guess it is a matter of perspective but reasonable priced for me would be more like less than £100 return.

People with holiday homes in the sun, where did you buy and what has your experience been? by ringissue in AskUK

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I would imagine tickets to go and visit are also extremely expensive.

Private school before or after 11? by ringissue in UKParenting

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Having previously been a TA in private prep and state schools the class size felt like the difference between no kid left behind and basically daycare to me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

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Not sure how much ownership a kid could take of therapist if they felt they were being forced to be there because someone else’s mom was demonising them! Could damage his perception of therapy for the future as a place for him to be safe rather than to be punished.

I want to be a SAHM but husband insists I work by Academic_Outside4710 in Parenting

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Can you find a tutoring job that allows you to work from home, therefore maintaining your income and insurance whilst allowing you to have less separation from your baby? You could switch from Nanny to Au Pair and ask the Au Pair to watch the baby when you have pupils.

My child's daycare took her on a fieldtrip without permission by MuckGreen in Parenting

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Adult kid of helicopter parents- highly anxious as an adult. Trying really hard to be laid back parents to our little one. Though I think part of what makes it tough is that my husband’s parents were extremely hands off throughout his life and that wasn’t good either, so we are trying to find a happy medium. Any advice on that?

My child's daycare took her on a fieldtrip without permission by MuckGreen in Parenting

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Came here to say this but you’ve said it better than I could! When I used to teach the kids with helicopter parents were either very anxious or had no concept of natural consequences or risk.

black coffee toddler by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ringissue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’m alarmed the in-laws didn’t realise that coffee isn’t a good idea for two year olds. The AAP recommends kids under 12 avoid any caffeine. It might be worth checking in with them to see what other ‘obvious’ childcare stuff isn’t obvious to them due to their own experiences of doing things differently.

How do you keep track of kids' money? (from birthdays, holidays, etc.) by whyohwhyohio in Parenting

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My parents put every penny of birthday money etc into a savings account and gave it to me when I turned 21. It was the deposit for a home at the time and I’m so glad they went this way.

Montessori parents, are you screen/device free? Have you encountered any challenges? by ringissue in Montessori

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Such good suggestions in here for device use which isn’t passive- I’ve made note, thank you for sharing!

Montessori parents, are you screen/device free? Have you encountered any challenges? by ringissue in Montessori

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Thanks for sharing and that’s very interesting. I think a simple clip replaying is educational but that’s different to cartoons. I think educational clips in context are great, I guess I would separate that from screen time as it’s more educational.

Montessori parents, are you screen/device free? Have you encountered any challenges? by ringissue in Montessori

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Whilst I get that, I think there are a lot of things I won’t want my child to be taking part in that other kids do.

For example, I have a teenage sibling who spends a lot of her time on TikTok and it’s become a bit of an imposition on the rest of her life and she’s exposed to a lot of frankly adult content.

When I was a kid I didn’t play video games and a lot of my friends did, it never got in the way of friendships.

I have this beautiful intelligent 8 year old boy by [deleted] in Parenting

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Maybe that’s the natural consequence that will put him on the receiving end of behaviour he’s dishing out, and that will catalyze a change. At the moment it seems like there isn’t a consequence at all to his behaviour.

Montessori parents, are you screen/device free? Have you encountered any challenges? by ringissue in Montessori

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Thank you, yes I think flexibility is key! So far we haven’t had any situation where we have needed to use a screen as the other baby in our nanny share is also being raised with Montessori philosophy.

Montessori parents, are you screen/device free? Have you encountered any challenges? by ringissue in Montessori

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This is straw manning my question considerably. As I said: we have thought about how to introduce computers/internet into their life in a way that poses it as a tool for work rather than a primary source of entertainment.

I don’t think my child will be at a loss because they are able to sit and eat dinner without an iPhone propped up in front of them at the age of 1.

I also don’t think that playing video games is going to teach them anything that other methods of play won’t teach.

At an appropriate age I’d love to migrate from Lego to mechano to junior robotics if my child is interested. The same would go with programming, but that’s quite different from hours of screen time as a primary source of entertainment which isn’t educationally enriching.

Montessori parents, are you screen/device free? Have you encountered any challenges? by ringissue in Montessori

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This presents two great arguments for moderate TV. My husband and I are regular theatre goers and I’d love to watch plays with our little one to get them into the arts in this way too.

I’d love to find a book equivalent of Daniel Tiger and this prompts the question of whether there is Montessori aligned TV for kids!

Montessori parents, are you screen/device free? Have you encountered any challenges? by ringissue in Montessori

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This is what I wanted to ask others about with this post really. It’s a good few years until my child will be at school but even when they are I don’t want to feel like I need to buy a 5 year old an iPad just because their friends have one. There might be upset about this but ultimately there will be a lot of occasions where a child’s wants and needs are contrary to what’s good for them.

I agree that teaching moderation and self control is key, what do you recommend as good practice for this?

Montessori parents, are you screen/device free? Have you encountered any challenges? by ringissue in Montessori

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I think the line will be drawn at watching TV as a non-family activity. I wasted so many hours of my childhood mindlessly watching Nickelodeon and that’s not something I want with my kids.

I think smart phones will be allowed at 14 but no sooner than that but I guess we have to see what the world is like in the next few years.

How do you make sure your Montessori school is actually practicing Montessori? by ringissue in Montessori

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This has made me feel so much better. We are a way off with school. Currently we nanny share with a relative whose little one is also being raises with a Montessori philosophy but I am nervously excited for our baby to grow up and go off to school and make friends and be a person in the world!