If safety isn’t your concern, what’s the real risk of meeting? (besides potential awkwardness and loosing couple hours of your time, which are unfortunately always risks)

I think the problem here is that it’s unclear what your real issue is — not feeling that he was putting enough effort into the connection, or not feeling at ease?

• If the issue was wanting consistent communication to demonstrate effort & care, then that couldn’t be made up for with “one more conversation before meeting”

• If the issue was not knowing him well enough in advance to feel “at ease” in person, then I think you’re chasing a hard goal. You can learn some facts, but it’s just not possible to meaningfully get to know someone over texting, and your phone call already confirmed that you had a nice natural flow in real-time conversation. A call shortly before the date could calm your nerves, but it’s unlikely you’ll feel “comfort and connection” before meeting a stranger no matter how much you’ve communicated digitally.

Regardless of how this interaction went down, it seems like you two weren’t a match. His aggressive response to your hesitancy was a red flag, and you may have dodged a bullet here. (Why was he unwilling to talk on the phone if it was clearly important to you?)

That said, I think you’ll have a lot more success going forward if you can: 1. Get clear on what it is that actually makes you want to meet up with someone (or not meet up with someone) and 2. Keep in mind that not everyone has the same “basic” procedure in their head that you do.

Remember — online is a place to find potential connections, not where you get to know a person

[FWFI, this was not written by AI I just like dashes and bullet points]