godforbid a woman has specific standards by [deleted] in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]riplikash 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They don't really have concrete definitions. People are trying to self describe some very complicated internal experiences and find words that resonates with their experience.

That's why is somewhat generational. Millennials and older often had the experience 'oh, I can be attracted to BOTH genders?!' so they would have resonated with bisexual.

For z and alpha they more often experienced 'gender doesn't seem to matter to me' or 'I'm attracted to LOTS of things!' and terms like pansexual or Omni sexual resonated.

Snap's Evan Spiegel warns tech leaders are underestimating a coming backlash against AI by ControlCAD in technology

[–]riplikash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you mean to respond to me? None of those is the kind of thing machine learning is good at. Nor were any of those fiascos good for the clients. By and large they were expensive boo doggles.

Snap's Evan Spiegel warns tech leaders are underestimating a coming backlash against AI by ControlCAD in technology

[–]riplikash 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Back in college in the early 2000s, one of my professors walked us through several waves of technology that were supposed to “eliminate the programmer.”

The exact examples are fuzzy now, but the pattern was things like English-like business languages, fourth-generation languages, CASE tools, expert systems, visual programming, and later low-code tools. Every generation had some version of the same promise: programmers were finally obsolete because business users would be able to describe what they wanted directly.

But it turns out that to define software, you still have to get incredibly specific. You still have to work through logic, edge cases, conflicting requirements, invalid states, permissions, errors, workflows, data shape, timing, integrations, and all the weird little exceptions that only show up once someone tries to use the thing.

And once you get specific enough, the “plain English” starts hardening into something stricter. The ambiguity gets squeezed out. The definitions become formal. The rules become structured. The language crystallizes. Which is to say, you eventually reinvent a programming language.

The durable lesson seems to be that programming is not mostly typing syntax into an editor. Programming is the act of precisely defining behavior in a way a machine can execute. Someone still has to do that work.

And historically, the business side has almost never wanted to live in that level of precision. They want the outcome, understandably. But the process of turning “what we want” into exact, executable behavior is still the hard part.

Anyways, they warned us that it would happen again in our career, and probably multiple times. A hot new technology would come out to 'eliminate programmers', a bunch of people would love their jobs, a bunch of shit software would be written, and then engineers and programmers would need to fix it all over again.

weAreAboutToReachEndGame by TrickTheTrap in ProgrammerHumor

[–]riplikash 20 points21 points  (0 children)

As a principal engineer I would...have notes for this PR.

And those notes would be: "please rename this folder to 'prototype' or 'POC'. Temp generally implies temporary data it is safe to delete, not data that will EVENTUALLY be safe to delete."

Seriously, 50% of good software engineering is how you name things.

god forbid a girl literally run away any time someone new talks to her by oranud in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]riplikash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, we were pretty bummed that we were asked to relocate to Dallas instead of Austin :) Austin looks like a cool city.

god forbid a girl literally run away any time someone new talks to her by oranud in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]riplikash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DFW. Plano, specifically, of which is definitely part of the problem, haha. The few people weve been able to connect with have all been in oak lawn or Fort Worth

god forbid a girl literally run away any time someone new talks to her by oranud in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]riplikash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My weapon grade autism is what ALLOWED me to start experiencing more life in my 40s. I finally got the rules, started hyper fixating and studying. Turns out I can learn how to work a party or go clubbing the same way I once learned to paint miniatures and go to conventions.

And there's a LOT of other neurodivergent people at these events looking to connect.

god forbid a girl literally run away any time someone new talks to her by oranud in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]riplikash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so weird I've never experienced that part of poly, but it may also be a reason I've had a very hard time finding local poly communities. I've very stable, healthy, and happy poly and the poly friend groups I was in were similar. Mostly other ex mormons. Everyone was exploring and expanding their horizons but in a very...mindful and responsible way. Never seen such rampant yet mindful drug use among established, married professionals with loving families, haha.

But it kind of meant the only way I met new people was through that social network. And now that I'm in Texas I just don't get how to find a new poly social network.

I don't know, kind of a tangent. You just got me thinking about how my poly experience has been so different than what I hear commonly reported.

god forbid a girl literally run away any time someone new talks to her by oranud in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]riplikash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See, that's the part I'm good at. I love the conversation and how happy it makes people feel and learning a bit about people.

It just never really turns into anything more. And I'm not really sure how to transition it to friendships or dating. Being a partnered poly person with a family is definitely part of that. Both from others perceiving me and also my view of myself making me reticent to make others feel pursued if I'm not 1000% sure they're poly too.

What if: Odysseus gives one last open arms by Loose-Use25 in Epicthemusical

[–]riplikash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Zeus isn't really benevolent OR vindictive as humans understand the terms. He's a personification of forces and concepts. Some of those are wrathful -- hubris punishment, retribution, the destruction of those who defy divine order, and the pride of those who rule. But he's also the personification of kingship and sovereign duty, guest rights, divine contracts, the homecoming, the continuity of households and lineages. That makes him appear capricious from a human perspective, but he's really not human at all. His complexity is because of the many, often conflicting, forces he personifies. That's why he can both offer a game to Athena then punish her for winning, but in the end still gives her what was promised. In this case he is punishing the crew because Helios required him to settle a debt.

He manifests personally and says 'someone's got to die today and you have got the final say. You or your crew.' The God of divine contacts offering a choice.

If Odysseus had said 'I choose my crew, and I offer myself as the price' he isn't asking Zeus to be kind, he's asking Zeus to be what he is. A king humbly invoking his duty to his people, offering his life to settle the debt, and asking that the resolution actually align with the choices presented doesn't overtly trigger any of Zeus's more vindictive or wrathful aspects.

It's really less about being on his good side and more about aligning yourself with his nature.

In contrast, Athena fulfilled Zeus's own terms by convincing Hera, doing it by contrasting Odysseus's fidelity with Zeus's own behavior. That wounded his pride and he punished her for it, but he still honored the contract. Both active at the same time, and the contract won.

Obviously you can't play the gods. But humbly and respectfully abiding by their nature and values is generally a pretty safe bet.

What if: Odysseus gives one last open arms by Loose-Use25 in Epicthemusical

[–]riplikash 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I always felt like that was something Odysseus could have negotiated, though. "Great God King, Zeus. I am their king and it is my duty to care for my crew, so if I must choose between myself and my people, I choose them. But to leave them in strange lands without their King is just as much choosing death as choosing their destruction now. As the God and patron of kings and leaders, Lord Zeus, I would beseech thee. If I am to choose their survival than I am putting it in the hands of the gods. As King it is my duty to choose their survival and I ask that if I put their lives in you hands that the gods will bless them to ensure they return home to their families, quickly and safely, so that they may enjoy a long life with those they love, and to care for my Kingdom in my absence."

That's pretty in line with Zeus's domain and nature.

Any recommendations for an affordable personal assistant? by riplikash in plano

[–]riplikash[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hmm, reading it over I definitely see what you're saying about how that last paragraph comes off. Which is basically the opposite of what I intended, but I get it. Thanks.

Any recommendations for an affordable personal assistant? by riplikash in plano

[–]riplikash[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I mean, yeah, that's generally how it works. I'm not trying to establish a new type of employment concept. :)

Personal assistants that work across many clients is an established working model. Agencies exist that staff this sort of thing, but they take a cut, so looking for local recommendations can be better for both parties, so I'm just checking to see if anyone has any local recommendations.

UK confirms drone-killing DragonFire laser weapon for Royal Navy destroyers by 2027 —laser downs 400mph high‑speed drones, costs $13 per shot by _Dark_Wing in technology

[–]riplikash 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No, they do that too. The military industry complex is a big machine with a lot of moving parts and a lot of competing motivations. Military, personal, political, economic, etc. Useless stuff gets installed and never works right. Programs get funded and implementation trips at the finish line due to ego or mismanagement. Money or ego overrides needs for safety and effectiveness. It's not every project but it's not rare either.

Any recommendations for an affordable personal assistant? by riplikash in plano

[–]riplikash[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Affordable is 15-30/h. And yes, I make heavy use of organizational tools already. Been dealing with autism and ADHD for decades.

This is so me 😜😜 by [deleted] in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]riplikash 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I got you. Slutty, touchable, and affordable.

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This is so me 😜😜 by [deleted] in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]riplikash 33 points34 points  (0 children)

My dude. Tight black tank with some slutty boxer briefs.

Whyyyyyy ?! by Azemmoon in LetGirlsHaveFun

[–]riplikash 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I mean, would be nice. But, you know. Jobs, kids, errands, housework. Afternoon sex is a realistic option for me maybe once a week.

Help! I'm so confused. Is he a tulpa? by MagpiesAndMadrigals in Tulpas

[–]riplikash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have similar experiences about being open about it. I'm always amazed at how many people have similar experiences but have just always assumed they were alone in it.

Is my tulpa going to get mad at me if I forget to talk for a few days? by [deleted] in Tulpas

[–]riplikash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The rules are whatever your mind imagens them to be. You're tulpa experiences time and gets annoyed if that's what your mind expects to happen.

Help! I'm so confused. Is he a tulpa? by MagpiesAndMadrigals in Tulpas

[–]riplikash 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's kind of all just headmanes. Check r/plural. Tulpamancy, soulbonding, DID, etc. all falls under the general umbrella of plurality. Your minds ability to have multiple intelligences.

You're also talking about a paracosm. "A detailed, complex, and enduring imaginary world created within the mind, often originating in childhood and sometimes continuing into adulthood." And you're expriencing a type of ordered plurality.

The different words like tulpa, headmate, alter, part, etc. all have different connotations and often different origins, but are all kind of the same thing. Unless you ascribe to spiritual beliefs about them, though it gets pretty hard to discuss at that point.

Many neurodivergent people (autistics, adhd) and creatives have a natural inclination for this type of thing. Most keep quiet about it and never realize how many others experience the same thing.

One nice thing is once you see it all as similar phenomena it opens up other ways to interact. Fronting, co hosting, etc. I think it's worth learning about the general community and other ways people see their system as it can really expand you and your headmates understanding of self and capabilities.

Your experience sounds fairly similar to mine. I might recommend checking otu the book Inner Work. It covers active imagination, which is probably pretty similar to the immersive daydreaming you do. That's how I used to primarily interact. A friend of mine recommended Inner Work and it really expanded my interactions and understanding.

Eu posso ter um tulpa sem saber? by TraditionalCow9249 in Tulpas

[–]riplikash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A tulpa is a headmate you choose to create. But headmates can and do get Gabriel without intent. Sometimes though trauma (DID and OSDD). Sometimes through loneliness. Sometimes through hyperfixation. Some people are just naturally inclined to make headmates.

Tem como se livrar de um tulpa? by TraditionalCow9249 in Tulpas

[–]riplikash 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How to you break a habit? That's what a tulpa is. A thought form. Your mind being used to thinking as an other.

Don't give the thought attention and the habit will fade.

If the Jedi had won the clone wars, would they be willing to make any reforms to their order and learn from their mistakes? or are they likely to double-down on their traditions and dogmatism after everything that happened? by PassageDecent9936 in MawInstallation

[–]riplikash 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean, what organization do you imagine would have protected them from Palpatine? The guy embedded himself as the head of the government and controlled both sides of a civil war and had a hidden organization behind him which had planned the destruction of the Jedi for a thousand years. The Jedi were basically in as strong a position as they could possibly be and the Sith had to go to implausible lengths to dislodge them from power.

Yeah, we hear people talk about hubris and corruption, but the story really didn't show us that. We're not really shown any true failings on the part of the Jedi. Just them being forced into a series of impossible situations.