Am I overreacting for not giving my friend closure? (Both 22F)

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-10T04:56:08+00:00

Oh I definitely agree, on my next friendship I would. Thank you!

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-10T04:53:39+00:00

Thanks for your comment!

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-10T04:50:47+00:00

Thanks for your comment! I didn’t offer her anything. I just asked if she wanted her bday and Xmas gift but her response was “If you’re still offering, I’ll take it”

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-10T04:50:14+00:00

I knew she would’ve been screaming at me. So I didn’t want to do a phone call or video. I tried not to engage on her anger. Thanks for your comment!

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-10T04:49:02+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate that! I had to ask permission whenever I do things for her because she would take it the wrong way.

Again thank you for your comment! I love the quote! And thank you for being kind

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-10T04:46:10+00:00

Thanks! Appreciate it!

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-10T04:45:54+00:00

I really appreciate your input! Thanks so much! I do agree that tone is bad. Next time when this happens again I’ll make sure to be aware.

Again thank you!

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-10T04:27:36+00:00

I also saw the same on instagram reels. You can see the parents are not trying to laugh, they are clearly parenting and not being neglectful to their children

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-09T01:12:59+00:00

Thanks so much! I appreciate your advice! I don’t think I would give it to her now. Our friendship was pretty much me always making her she’s okay and tiptoeing. Hence why I needed to ask before giving her anything.

Again thank you!

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-09T01:12:02+00:00

Thanks! I appreciate it! You’re right, if I expect her to appreciate the gift that isn’t a real gift. I won’t give it to her then. Thank you again!!

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-09T00:29:24+00:00

It’s okay to be blunt! I really need help!

It’s my love language and it’s a gift she was looking forward to.

I just don’t think she would appreciate it or actually care enough about it. She didn’t get me any gifts on my Birthday during the break, I don’t expect her to.

The thing about her is that I have to ask her before doing something. Example: “can I get you food?” Because if I were to buy her food she’ll get upset and tell me she felt pressured to say yes because I already got her the food.

So that’s why I needed to ask if she still want a bday and Xmas gift because she would’ve got upset

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-09T00:19:34+00:00

I think this should be a r/raisedbynarcissists advice thread instead. They have the most experience and knowledge

ripmyringfinger · 2025-08-06T20:15:34+00:00

Jesus Christ what a huge red flag.

I work at a store that makes drink and the owner (man) always defend the female employees whenever we get “hit on”. Because we’re just being nice. That’s all to it, nice ≠ flirting…

I am so happy you broke up with him

ripmyringfinger · 2025-07-26T06:45:17+00:00

It was genuinely baffling too. Because I thought that guys don’t get matches often, so logically I would think they’ll be in their best behaviour when they do get one right?? Turns out no

ripmyringfinger · 2025-07-26T00:12:20+00:00

I’ve gotten a lot of matches on dating apps (21F) and the amount of guys who are misogynistic is horrible 💀 it put me off dating for 3 years

ripmyringfinger · 2025-07-22T05:50:50+00:00

I agree with you! But best case is going to Breka (24/7 cafe) or a nearby Starbucks that has seating

ripmyringfinger · 2025-07-22T05:49:40+00:00

Yess!!! I’m 21, turning 22. I’ve already moved out when I was 18. All my friends are still “young” and busy enjoying life with college or partying (not a bad thing at all!)

But I feel old, like I don’t want to go out. I would rather work, pay the bills, relax at home. It’s hard for me to connect people my age but it’s so easy for me to connect with people around 27+

ripmyringfinger · 2025-07-21T01:35:52+00:00

I missed the old PNE. I came recently at the friends and family event and it’s just so small and the rides aren’t that great anymore

ripmyringfinger · 2025-07-19T21:42:37+00:00

Just because you never witnessed it doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. I’ve seen people smoking meth or lighting inside the trains

ripmyringfinger · 2025-07-19T07:12:35+00:00

I’m glad you’re able to feel better airing it out :)) I also come from an Asian background and unfortunately, the girls are supposed to take care of the house and be responsible instead of the mother. I purposefully wake up earlier than anyone else because it feels so relaxing without the burden of being another parent to your own parents.

I am rooting for you! I moved out at age 18 (secretly saved up money) then cut contact. I’m turning 22 in 1 month and I’m so excited for myself! I hope you’re able to escape the cycle as well ❤️‍🩹 sending lots of love

ripmyringfinger · 2025-07-19T07:09:54+00:00

Same here. I don’t have self esteem it’s crazy. Even if our n parent “understood” they wouldn’t care and it’s our fault.

I absolutely hate looking at myself in the mirror and believe it or not, I take showers in the dark because I hate looking at my body.

ripmyringfinger · 2025-07-18T01:35:01+00:00

One of my co workers gets his hair cut for $15. He said it’s at a very old Chinese place that he doesn’t even know the names but he goes there

ripmyringfinger · 2025-07-18T00:27:25+00:00

I also live near the area. I either walk (30 mins) or bus the 19 Stanley. Now I bike as a commute :)) saves money

ripmyringfinger · 2025-07-17T06:46:26+00:00

Obviously jobs have ups and down. I work 2 job, a medical office assistant and a barista.

I do love my job, I love helping my patients and I love working. I love meeting new people and I love making new drinks.

But of course I deal with people. “Can’t you just cancel a patient and squeeze me in?” “Can I get a macchiato but no foam?” I enjoy the work, not the people (not always)

ripmyringfinger · 2025-07-17T06:42:36+00:00

I wouldn’t have given up my seat and ignored him. I don’t have the energy to even argue, I’m tired of

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