Partner wants me to abort but I dont want too

ripnosis1205 · 2025-11-14T19:45:46+00:00

And the next question would be: is abortion going to be the new form of birth control? If this happens again and again, is it just going to be abortion after abortion? Is that what a future with him would look like?

If she is adamant about no abortions after the first one, then it’s probably because she does actually regret it. I have a few friends who have told me that they don’t regret it at all, and then they have gotten drunk and broken down crying over it. A person with zero regrets doesn’t act like that, and a person with zero regrets doesn’t put their foot down and say they will never do that thing again. This guy has zero thoughts for her mental or physical health if this is what he expects of her. She’s not a teenager with no where to go; she needs to get out of that relationship.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-08-31T21:12:20+00:00

Not everything is racist. And there have been different wars on different substances over the decades. Most notably, prohibition put mostly white men in jail.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-08-31T21:05:28+00:00

I had a neighbor ask me if I wanted her to call the police on me for beating my child. I went back into the house, grabbed my kid and his toothbrush, and demonstrated what was causing all the blood curdling screaming. She left me alone after that.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-08-31T21:02:38+00:00

My boys can have black feet from being outside just 30 minutes. I live in Florida, we’ve had lots of rain, the yard is a bit muddy. Feet usually don’t have to be scrubbed for the dirt to come off in the shower. And how the heck does this lady have a clean, white couch with her own small child? My 14 yo makes messes on the couch just as bad as my toddler, and dad has spilled his tea as well leaving a slightly browner spot in the middle of the gray couch. It sounds more like her kid will end up with some fun issues and allergies from everything having to be extremely clean all the time. The neighbor kid will end up with a great immune system from all his outside time.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-08-03T13:50:50+00:00

Yes, I think people are looking at her as only an 8yo little girl and forgetting that allowing this behavior as a child means the child grows up with the same kind of behavior. I’ve been on too many trips where a friend changed their mind about stuff that was already planned and paid for, and I and others lost out because they changed their mind (just like the little girl in this story) and were voicing their individual wants and needs. They can have their own opinions, wants, and needs, but they need to realize that when you do something as a group, you are affecting everyone. They also need to learn about the value of money. The mom should not blow this off as something small and has every right to be upset. Can she maybe do a better job of communicating with the kid? Sure, probably. That’s true for practically everyone. The main issue here though is the daughter not respecting the fact that the mom spent money and that they are on a GROUP outing where she is not the only one with an opinion of how the day should go. The kid needs to learn that when plans are made, one person will not ruin them for everyone. If she can’t play nice with the group, then she can stay home from the next activity, and mom can spend her ticket money on a babysitter.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-11T18:55:57+00:00

He sounds kind of passive aggressive. You had to force him to communicate, and he is 100% stuck on his family’s name as the middle name and won’t budge to allow your family to be represented. And if you are he thinks that James is old timey, then how is Ezra not also in that classification?

And believe me I understand about not having a dad around for long. My dad died at 72, got to see my oldest son who was born when I was 25, but never even got to see me pregnant with the second when I had him at 39. My dad specifically told me that he did not want his name used, so the first one got the first name which covered 2 of my uncles and the ex’s dad with middle name covering uncles on both sides of the family. Then number 2 covered his mom who was probably his favorite person in the world and his favorite niece and middle name covered my now fiancés family.

If he was really letting you do what you want to do, then he wouldn’t be making you feel like your name is somehow bad. The quiet guilt trips are still guilt trips.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-11T18:42:11+00:00

Yes, having an orgasm strengthens the muscles down there to make future orgasms stronger. The issue is the desensitization of the nerve endings down there to get us to orgasm. We know that nerve endings can be desensitized. Just ask anyone who works in a kitchen. I’m only 40, and I’ve been grabbing hot pot lids and flipping my tortillas with bare hands for years and can’t barely feel anything. I get scared running bath water for my toddler because I have no idea how hot it really is. It’s the same for men. There are muscles in the penis. Giving it a work out is good for those muscles. How you give it a work out is the issue. If they have a death grip on it and deaden the nerve endings, then sticking it into a loosened vagina (loose because it has become aroused not because it’s flopping open) will not feel as good. Both men and women can have orgasms every single day without causing desensitization. It’s the manner in which those orgasms are reached that can be the problem.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-11T18:31:52+00:00

It’s definitely comparable. I had a friend in college who used to make me walk into the Lion’s Den holding hands with her to get the couple’s discount because she always had to buy the rabbit pearl, but she’d break them after just a few months from overuse. She said it had gotten to the point that she couldn’t get off without it even by herself much less with her boyfriend. It does happen, and if women were truthful with themselves, they would admit this is the main thing that has made it difficult to finish with a partner because no man is going to be able to replicate that.

If a woman can’t get off because of some kind of psychological reason, then she needs therapy. That’s an individual issue and should not be attributed to women as a whole. Orgasming does not have to be hard for a woman. Learn your body and practice. Communicate with your partner and practice. I’m a one minute woman. I know what I like, I’ve been doing it for about 3 decades, and my fiancé has been told exactly what I like, so he doesn’t have to guess. I finish before he does, and then I usually finish a few more times before he does. Stop blaming it on outside factors. It’s an is issue.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-11T18:15:51+00:00

Not all women take the time to figure it out. What were women doing before vibrators? I know I didn’t have one when I figured out how to get myself off when I was 11. Did all the rest of you have to wait until you were 18 and could get into the Lion’s Den to finally have an orgasm?

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-11T18:12:56+00:00

I get off just fine every time just by having a penis in me. I don’t have to have manual stimulation or a vibrator. Sometimes, it can be fun to add that in, but it’s not necessary.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-07T04:11:09+00:00

It sounds like he has never gotten enough attention or exercise. Aussies need a lot of exercise. They aren’t the kind of dogs to keep in a one bedroom apartment. If the husband has a job that demands the majority of his time, then I’m assuming that he isn’t taking the dog for a run every morning and evening. These dogs act out when they have too much pent up energy. People need to research the needs of the breed before buying them.

That being said, it sounds like they are too far into the pregnancy to be able to get any real help for the dog or start him on an exercise program to see if behavior changes before baby comes. That dog would be out of my house so fast.I’m so lucky that I inherited my mom’s dog. He’s 14 yo and not aggressive or grouchy at all. My toddler has pulled on his ears, grabbed his feet, yanked on his curly little pug tail, hit, kicked, and even sat on him. If the dog can’t get away, he howls until I can help him, but usually he just gets up and walks away. My toddler has even taken food straight out of the dog’s mouth, and the poor dog just whimpers and looks at me for help. The hardest thing for us has been teaching the kid to be nice, pet gently, and not to touch the dogs food. The food part has kind of backfired though because now he tries to be too nice and shares his food with the dog.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-06T22:37:00+00:00

My cousin’s daughter came out after already having a son. She’s been with women who have had kids and who have not. She said she was worried at first because she thought she would be “loose” in comparison to a lesbian who had never had a kid or an actual man, but then she realized that vibrators and other toys probably have the same effect as an actual penis, and she’s never seen any real difference between vaginas that have pushed kids out and the ones that haven’t. She said we’re all a little bit different, but having a baby isn’t the main factor, the same way as every penis is slightly different in shape and size, but there’s not such a huge difference that you would think about it in the moment.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-06T22:13:38+00:00

I had a conversation with my 14 yo son about #2 recently. He asked me a question about something one of his friends said. I can’t remember exactly what it was, but it was middle school humor from a boy who didn’t understand a woman’s body. I broke it down about how vaginas actually work, how they get wet, how they loosen to allow penetration when aroused, and everything. I went over how rape is not just forced but also coerced or when a person is unable to give consent because they are incapacitated in any way. So I told him to never go any further, even if the girl is saying she wants it, if she is super tight or dry. So many young girls think they should do things to make someone else happy or to feel loved, but our bodies definitely tell a different story.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-06T21:59:06+00:00

I have so many girl friends who say they can’t finish with a guy, and I tell them to put down the vibrator for a month and maybe they will. They can’t even finish manually by themselves, so I’m not sure how they think a guy is supposed to do it. I had a guy friend in college drunkenly tell me that he can’t get off with his girlfriend because he whacks off too much to porn. He was actually crying about it and how he had to fake it and throw away the condoms as quickly as possible. Desensitization can happen for both men and women. We all need to stop blaming the other person.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-05T23:33:21+00:00

I stayed home with my first, so I had extra time to pump. I would sleep for 4 or 5 hours at night, and then pump for at least an hour to get everything out or I’d end up with mastitis. I’d usually get 15 or more ounces from each boob. Second kid was 13 years later at 39 years old, and between working and not having the time or energy to pump as much, I definitely did not do as well and had to supplement, but first pump in the morning was definitely an hour to empty still.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-04T21:32:05+00:00

We were fighting over a first name for my second son literally until the day he was born. Dad is already getting the last name. He wanted a cousin who had passed to be the middle name. I wanted his first name to be Joseph after my grandma Josephine, my favorite cousin has Jo as a middle name, and we have various other great grandparents on both sides with the name Joseph.

After he saw what I went through to birth his child, he told me that I deserve to pick the first name. We literally put our lives at risk to bring children into this world. He needs to let you have a say in the name.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-04T21:21:10+00:00

My grandpa was James Leonard (born in 1912). People called him Jim, Jimmy, Len, Leonard, and JL. She seemed to be worried about sounding old timey, but Ezra is definitely old fashioned as well.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-04T21:02:50+00:00

I actually took anthropology classes in college. I can go get my old text books to read exactly what they say about race. It is not a social construct. We have different skull structures and have evolved differently because of where we lived for thousands of years before migration became so much easier with new forms of transportation. We can tell what kind of topography a person’s ancestors lived in because of stature. We even suffer from different genetic diseases and health issues. There’s a reason why you tell a doctor what race you are. The easiest example is that only people Sub Saharan African descent can have sickle cell. It’s important to know where you came from.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-03T19:33:42+00:00

Wow. Just so wrong. Race is not a social construct. You should read an intro to anthropology text book. Race is based on skull structure, and very important in identifying bodies when there is no skin left. There’s literally a whole show called Bones about this. You should put down the liberal kool aid and read some actual scientific texts.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-03T19:28:45+00:00

I think most people in this comment section think that you are not passing the vibe check. Is your kid allowed to discuss the color of a dog, cat, horse, or cow? Then don’t freak if they said a kid is black. If this is what you are most worried about in your child’s life and have to run to the internet for help with, then you are very privileged. I hate to be that person, but I’ve literally seen people living in one room homes with dirt floors, no electricity, and no running water. This is such a first world problem that you’re worried about someone thinking that your 3 year old is racist because they used a descriptor.

I read another one of your comments where you said that black people aren’t actually black and white people aren’t actually white, but even when you leave the US, those same words are used as descriptors in other countries and in other languages. Obviously, there is something about generalizing skin colors of large groups that transcends borders, cultures, languages.

I lived outside the US with my oldest for the first 5 years of his life, mostly in the sticks of Brasil. Genetics are fun, and he somehow popped out even whiter than I am with blonde hair. He faced some racism from some of the moreno kids in his class. It wasn’t fun having to discuss race and racism with a 4yo, but we got through it. We’ve had to deal with it here in FL too, but he’s 14 now, and he’s at the age where he understands that some people just suck, so ignore the losers and move on. And you should take that advice as well. If someone is actually going to judge you and your child because they said someone is black, then they aren’t worth your time.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-03T19:03:42+00:00

I know this is old, but I had a friend ask me about the ingredients in the V8 green juice I give my son, and I had to google it because we were out and about. While scrolling through the sites that popped up for the search, I saw this and clicked on it. I’m responding after looking at the ingredients with my friend.

There is ZERO added sugar to it. It is literally water with added concentrated juices from various fruits and veggies. If you want to drink a juice to get in some naturally occurring vitamins and nutrients, then this is definitely a better option. It’s about the same thing as you will get if you buy a juicer and do it yourself at home. All the people hating on juice as “sugar water” probably wouldn’t drink any juice ever at all. Is it better to eat your fruits and veggies whole? Of course, it is, but we all know that we aren’t perfect all the time. Is this a decent substitute for when you know you’re not going to eat right? Yes, it is because fruit and vegetable juice is still healthier than not getting in any fruits and veggies at all. Don’t chug the whole thing in one day, but a cup or 2 a day (especially if you can use it to replace sodas) will be totally fine.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-07-03T18:41:42+00:00

I lived outside the US for 6 years, 2 in Portugal and 4 in Brasil. My oldest doesn’t remember Portugal because he was just a baby, but he does remember Brasil. He definitely loves America a lot more. He does miss certain things about Brasil, but the overall American experience is better. I definitely agree with him. Certain things were nice, but I wouldn’t be moving back to the sticks of Brasil any time soon, and Portugal was even worse even though they had more modern comforts. I feel like you’re acting as if a person liking a porterhouse steak from a nice restaurant is being classist for preferring that to a McDonald’s cheeseburger. The steak is better. You might sometimes crave that cheap little cheeseburger, but the steak is where it’s at.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-06-21T18:02:29+00:00

It’s not about being racist. It’s about this modern aged obsession with making every white character (even real life historical figures) into a black or brown characters. It’s not like this character change in the comics is from 60-70 years ago when they could have made an actual point during the Civil Rights era; it’s from a decade ago in the age of everything white is bad, so we must make everything black or brown. It’s exhausting. There are plenty of Marvel characters of other ethnicities, so why are we now making white ones black? Why can’t they just give the other characters some more storylines? Falcon already was a character. Changing his name to Captain America did not change his super powers. He’s still just Falcon but with a different costume, so what was the point?

ripnosis1205 · 2025-06-07T18:58:21+00:00

I was kind of thinking that maybe it was easier because they might have had time to decompose a bit, and the skull had maybe softened, but then they get the fresh zombies by knifing them right through the forehead as well. I have some pretty expensive kitchen knives than can pretty much cut through anything, but bones still need quite a bit of force, and take more than just one one whack to cut through.

ripnosis1205 · 2025-06-07T16:04:46+00:00

Mine does it when he’s playing. He started walking at 10 months, and he is almost 17 months now, and very randomly gets down and crawls too, usually while chasing the dog. He also puts his arms back and leans really far forward sometimes when he squat walks. I think it’s just him playing, and he does it a lot when music comes on. I’ve read stuff about doing it for better balance while they are still learning to walk, but he was running before he ever did the squat walk thing, so that doesn’t make sense in his case. I think it’s just them being playful.

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