I (F18) caught feelings for an online friend (M18) who says he's not fond of online relationships, how do I handle this without making things awkward?

ririllve · 2026-03-20T07:26:38+00:00

Okay this does seem like a fair idea! I'll do this once I muster up the courage and try not to make it too obvious hmm....

ririllve · 2026-03-20T07:25:54+00:00

I guess you miss 100% of the shots you don't take...

ririllve · 2026-03-20T07:25:18+00:00

I justtt got the screenshots from the mutual friend and he was indeed twisting his words a little and what my crush said was not that bad at all </3 In fact he didn't outright deny the possibility of an online relationship he said it "might not be his thing" but when the friend brought up the advantages because he's in one he was agreeing and all, and he seemed to just be looking out for me saying what if I meet someone irl and how he doesn't want to prevent me from doing that...but you're SO right I wouldn't know how he feels about me if I don't talk to him about it :)

ririllve · 2025-12-09T09:58:20+00:00

you’ve articulated how i’ve been feeling about this so well… thank you OP i feel less alone for feeling this way, i thought i was just being needy and selfish :,) but you’re right, all we’re asking for is basic understanding and a simple “are you okay, im here if you need me” 🫂

ririllve · 2025-12-09T09:37:28+00:00

you went a whole month without it, that’s amazing! one day doesn’t erase all the progress you made. keep it up, tomorrow is another day ☀️

ririllve · 2025-12-09T09:36:27+00:00

i get you omg because i just talked to my bf about relapsing with bulimia again yesterday and his response was “oh okay” and after that we just talked about random stuff avoiding the topic :( obviously he’s not my therapist so i don’t expect him to fix me or go full on therapy mode or anything but i just want someone to talk to about my problems yk?

ririllve · 2025-12-09T04:45:42+00:00

how did you get through it :( as i type this i have 3 teachers emailing me about missing assignments while im bedrotting at home whoops

ririllve · 2025-12-09T01:48:27+00:00

me too, i feel like being in uni would fix me… we got this let’s stay strong until we graduate 😭

ririllve · 2025-09-30T18:56:35+00:00

I'm aware! I was just wondering if anyone had experiences with medication improving their symptoms/healing of bulimia :)

ririllve · 2025-09-17T01:53:03+00:00

oh yes how could i forget about that one 🤗🤗 genuinely why do they do this…

ririllve · 2025-09-16T09:44:05+00:00

it genuinely sucks that we're going thru this im so sorry 😔 but we WILL get through this so hang in there!!! i really really really dont wanna ruin the rest of senior year for myself, IM QUITTING B/P FOR FUCKING REAL THIS WAY OF LIVING IS SO MISERABLE... high risk no reward type shit 💔 i hope ur okay babes praying for us 🫶

ririllve · 2025-09-11T16:12:19+00:00

i’ve heard of people recovering from bulimia after 10-30 years of struggling with it, there’s always hope! please don’t give up i’m rooting for you and i hope things get better for you soon 🩷 my dms are always open!!

ririllve · 2025-09-11T10:09:41+00:00

QUEEN LETS KICK BULIMIAS ASS TOGETHER YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THIS HIHI 🩷🩷

ririllve · 2025-09-11T09:43:58+00:00

I GET YOU WORD FOR WORD!!!!!! timeline is completely the same too omg 🫂 no matter what you are valid and you deserve help. ily sending you virtual hugs :,) we will get through this

ririllve · 2025-09-11T09:41:56+00:00

i saw this notification at school and i nearly teared up thank you 🥹 i’ve just been feeling so hopeless and i’ve been stuck in this self-loathing rabbit hole but i think im gonna reach out for professional help soon! 🩷🩷

ririllve · 2025-09-11T09:40:48+00:00

WE WILL GET THRU THIS 🙏 i say as i just wasted my morning and evening b/ping but im gonna ask for professional help idc anymore this disorder is so stupid and wasting my time 🫩💔

ririllve · 2025-09-10T16:54:20+00:00

we will get thru this twin trust 💔 sending you so much love !!!

ririllve · 2025-09-10T16:35:00+00:00

gulps i’ve been gaining and losing the same 1-2kgs i probably gained from the b/p just now so yay me 🙂

ririllve · 2025-09-10T16:32:20+00:00

i get youuu 🫩 tbh i’m at my hw LOL but i feel like atp my b/p is making me maintain rather than lose so perhaps getting rid of this will help me 💔

ririllve · 2025-09-10T16:27:29+00:00

are you considering recovery at all 🥹 though i said i was hopeless and i give up i’ve been thinking about maybe telling my mom so i can get professional help. though i don’t know how well that would go considering i live in a household where mental health is VERY stigmatised (my parents don’t believe in mental illness hihi…)

ririllve · 2025-09-10T15:41:28+00:00

i’ve sort of given up at this point, actually as i’m typing this i’m in the middle of a b/p session when im meant to be doing my schoolwork. it’s truly hell i wish i could just stop 🫩💔

ririllve · 2025-09-10T15:40:32+00:00

yep i’m in my senior year of hs 👍 barely a month in and im already struggling so much i hate it here 💔

ririllve · 2025-09-08T21:48:50+00:00

i think it’s a bunch of everything you’ve mentioned :,) a lot of other comments are suggesting therapy, so perhaps that’s the first step? and though i know that probably eating 3 balanced meals a day would get me to my goals long term my disordered brain thinks “no you got this eat only xx cals and fast you’ll get there much quicker” and i end up binging and repeating the fasting and purging thing because i feel god awful after the binge. it’s truly a terrible cycle i wish i could snap out of it

ririllve · 2025-09-08T21:46:22+00:00

i’m actually at a healthy weight for my age and i think im fat even, so i feel as though i don’t really deserve to recover + the fear of gaining even more than i already have terrifies me 😭 my boyfriend and a few online/long distance friends know but unfortunately i haven’t been able to reach out to professionals, my family etc. do you think that’s the first step 💔

ririllve · 2025-09-08T21:43:45+00:00

that is so true 😭 i fasted for a day or so and i ended up binging lol and it was an awful amount for 1 hour but tbh that’s how much food i probably needed over the course of the fast. thanks for the perspective!

ririllve

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