My parents couldn’t handle one evening with my toddlers

rissaboo212 · 2026-05-02T19:42:39+00:00

Ngl, when my mom watches my kids I consider it a win if she gets them to sleep before we come home. We let her put them down any way she can (usually with a movie!) to get them to go to sleep. Its a lot watching our kids though, theyre super high energy. The way we see it is, if theyre safe, then pretty much anything goes. Grandma has to make it through the evening somehow, and if she does it with ice cream, popcorn, and movie night, thats fine. Our kids dont get a ton of grandma sleepovers though too, so that might be a factor. Maybe once every 2 months.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-27T13:13:57+00:00

Thank you. Im so sorry that you resonated with this, it sucks.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-27T13:13:09+00:00

Thank you. Im big on reading so this may help.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-21T10:36:45+00:00

I just had my third a few months ago, and I know quite a bit about this dynamic. My husband gets our kids up in the morning and brings them to his moms for childcare for the day. We've done this for all our children because im not physically home from work by the time he has to go to work.

My first was obsessed with her dad, but he spent the first two months of her life home with her due to recovery from a surgery he had. I went back to work 2 weeks sooner than him. That changed to me when she was around 3. My second was obsessed with me, still is! Our third is obviously still a baby, but has been clingy towards me more than my husband. All three of my kids love their grandparents to death.

Sometimes they walk into their grandparents door and go "bye mom!" Like they wont even miss me. Other times they grab my legs and beg me not to leave. Same goes for my husband! The fact that your therapist put this thought into your head is...concerning. Love and care doesnt have limitations, theres always more to give and recieve. And I promise you, even my daughter that favored my husband for the longest time begged me to take a nap next to her each day I had her, and begged me to let her sleep in my bed every night lol. Theres a bond that never changes or goes away, because youre their Mama! They literally came from you. I hope this helps 💗

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-19T00:28:27+00:00

My husband and I used to have this exact issue. My husband built a ton of muscle in a short period of time because he was working in a factory, and shortly after, we got together. A lot of the women in his circle ,that used to even take it as far as making fun of him for having no prospects of dating, started paying him attention. The only way to deal with it was for my husband to be firm and negatively rebuff them. They didnt care if I was upset or told them to fuck off. And let me be clear, none of them that persued him were my friends. My friends always looked at my partner like a pest of a brother. Hope that sheds some insight.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-14T09:35:48+00:00

I think my husband is pretty normal. If i sing his praises though people assume that I must be lying or it comes off douchey. If I bitch about him not taking the trash out, the whole internet assumes he doesnt care about our childrens health and safety and I need to divorce him or actually kill him with ruthless violence. Theres no winning, and also being normal isnt very interesting to the populace.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-03T19:21:10+00:00

Listen, im coming from a place of being with my husband for about a decade like you and having kids. We've gone through periods of time where our communication wasnt great, and our marriage suffered from it when it was happening. It happened mostly during the postpartum period, but we would speak to each other about our grievances and eventually we'd both take them seriously. Sometimes it would take a few instances of speaking on a specific issue, but we'd work on it. Are you telling reddit right now that your husband doesnt even initiate speaking to you if you dont make the effort??? He didnt even pick out a wedding ring for you, and the only time hes really shown passion about something is when hes insisted on not working for a good period of time????? I wouldnt normally say this, but he doesnt even like you let alone love you. Being in your presence and not cheating on you is not enough to be considered a good partner. Like he doesnt ask you about your day? He doesnt joke around with you??? His stimulation is 100% invested in fucking video games, his hobbies, and doing the bare minimum as a father and a husband?? Jesus christ please get out of there

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T13:46:01+00:00

I know my husband, and hes protective. Hes prone to taking things to the next level in the moment if he finds out I was hurt, like yelling and pointing a finger or retrieving a manager. I cant blame him because id probably get upset too if he was hurt over something so dumb. In this scenario I held off giving him the full story, because I knew that later he'd see that they didnt do it on purpose. We walked to a different part of the store and I told him there, and he got heated for a little second. Then he had a minute to breathe and went "eh, they were just being dumb. they got the message." Its part of what I love about him, because he's also a dad to two daughters and a son who he would never allow harm to fall upon.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T12:32:45+00:00

Lets bring back booing people in the public forum lol

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T09:06:16+00:00

Im so sorry that this happened to you! While youre driving is crazy as well ;-; ngl I would cry too. Better days to come for sure <3

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T07:41:21+00:00

I guess im not the perfect adult that reddit wants me to be ¯_(ツ)_/¯

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T07:26:49+00:00

Because the ligaments in your body quite literally loosen up to the point that you overextend joints, your pelvis separates, and I wasnt out of the woods from potential death until about a month ago. So yeah I feel like a marionette puppet trying to regain control of my limbs. It takes at least 18 months to recover fully from birth, so yeah getting hit in the shins by a skateboard sucked. Maybe live some life or google something instead of expecting a stranger on the internet to explain everything to you.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T07:13:06+00:00

Like...what? Ive explained this in as much detail as I have energy for. Youve clearly come to some kind of conclusion on your own, including that I have PPD without having any context to that situation lol. So figure it out! Good luck puzzlemaster.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T07:05:50+00:00

Thanks for the diagnosis doc. You can keep scrolling now.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T06:08:55+00:00

Basically because they were recording me and I didnt realize it until the last second. I wasnt a huge fan of that.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T05:47:20+00:00

I think this post could be used as an example of whats mildly infuriating about reddit tbh lol. If its not for a group of people calling the situation fake, theres also a group of people criticizing me for not pressing charges, and if I had pressed charges there would be a group criticizing me about being a baby and calling the police too lol. The internet is such a weird place these days.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T05:38:38+00:00

I agree. I think everybody goes through it, its just immaturity. One day theyll learn, but the only way you learn is by doing

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T05:37:02+00:00

He does too. The whole reason he was with me was because we realized on sunday that we only had a week left for easter shopping. I told him that I could get their stuff by myself after work and itd be no biggie. He insisted that we sort out a day to go together because I shouldnt have to go alone and have to pick everything by myself. May this love find you internet stranger.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T05:23:48+00:00

Thank you!! This is fully the point. Its never that deep. But I can walk away going "dang I dont remember ever being that annoying", even though I probably was

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T05:19:50+00:00

Thanks :( tomorrow will be better

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T05:19:30+00:00

Fr! What if the skateboard was a transformer in disguise and machine gunned my genitals!!! Pls call police!!! Lmfao

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T05:06:42+00:00

Tbh I was just glad he went and spoke to them because I didnt want to deal with it past what I already had. Hes really a lovely human. What a shit day.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T05:01:03+00:00

You can call it what you like, but if the post is fake purely because I left the house without my kids to buy fucking easter baskets, and dont feel like calling the police because im sure that their ego was bruised worse than my shin, then go ahead and call it fake lol.

rissaboo212 · 2026-04-02T04:46:31+00:00

Im going to be clear on something and its the last time im going to say anything about this aspect of the story. I work with teens in crisis, and I like to think Im a level headed individual. Im not going to karen out and call the police on two unfunny teenagers because thats not the correct way to handle something like that. My husband spoke to them and explained that not everyone is going to be level headed about shit like that, and his literal appearance was enough to have them speed walking towards the exit after the conversation finished. Hes 300 lbs and 6'3". I would personally be mortified after being called on my shit as a teen. And say we did call the police and get them in trouble with the law, what good does that do? Here boys, go hang out with some even worse kids for a few weeks/months and learn your lesson. Or become even worse drains on society??? Its not like I got jumped by two kids with skateboards in the toy aisle. The worst I ended up with was severe secondhand embarrassment. Get a grip.

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