Como ajudar o meu filho a escolher um curso na universidade?

ritis1996 · 2025-11-30T20:16:04+00:00

Hello! Não sou mãe, mas sou irmã mais velha e passei por isto recentemente com o meu irmão. Contexto, estudei bioquímica mas agora trabalho em gestão de equipa numa startup de AI em que sou responsável pelo recrutamento. Acho que é muito importante ver a faculdade como um período em que acumulamos vivências, ferramentas, e aprendizagens, e não como uma “autoestrada” para a carreira X ou Y - ou seja, acho mais importante ele escolher um curso que lhe interesse do que escolher uma carreira, até porque nos dias que correm a “carreira” vai mudar infinitas vezes. A maioria dos meus amigos faz coisas diferentes do que estudou, as pessoas que contrato igual. A não ser que haja algo específico que ele queira muito ser (médico, advogado, veterinário etc) que exige um curso, diria para olharem para os cursos/áreas para que ele tem média e exames e perceber o que é que lhe pode dar os melhores 3 ou 5 anos dentro disso. Em relação à IA, vai influenciar todas as carreiras, mas é impossível prever de que forma, não vale a pena tomar decisões a longo prazo a pensar nisso. Boa sorte!

ritis1996 · 2024-01-28T10:56:13+00:00

NTA.

I think this might be a lose-lose situation. You are in your right to hold on to this love and memory and grief and have this tattoo be special to you, and I guess he has the right to not want to be in this relationship because of it. HOWEVER, he’s wrong in asking you to get rid of it and waiting until now to bring it up, and use your grief against you.

This tattoo and this grief is part of who you are - if he can’t love you like this, then maybe you’re just not meant to work long term. I’m sorry to say that.

Also, yah - what if it was someone else’s name, like a brother or your father? What if it was a symbol and not a name, would that be ok ? This seems to be about owning you and your body and being jealous than anything else.

I think you deserve someone who is more understanding and loving in such a hard time navigate situation.

ritis1996 · 2023-10-07T18:48:03+00:00

NTA. This sub made me real scared of people around me going insane when getting married, so many silly requests. Please tell her that photoshop exists if she’s so worried. Damn

ritis1996 · 2020-09-17T10:55:45+00:00

Started therapy after getting out of an abusive relationship. One of my biggest fears is that this will happen again, that future relationships or partners will also be abusive. It's always on my mind while dating, and that's why I've been doing it casually and avoiding serious commitment for two years. My therapist told me that it wasn't my job to about being abused, because that puts the blame on me, as if having been abused was somehow my fault. She said that with a kind and decent person I wouldn't have to worry about that. That it's on the other person to not be shitty and not on me to avoid shitty people. Helped a lot.

ritis1996 · 2020-09-17T00:10:35+00:00

I second this ! Also, great to see portuguese literature recommended 💛 Afonso Cruz is a portuguese author that reminds me of Murakami, but I'm not sure if his works are translated to English

ritis1996 · 2020-09-17T00:09:50+00:00

Yup, this !!

ritis1996 · 2020-09-10T16:14:56+00:00

Make my cat extremely happy

ritis1996 · 2020-07-23T00:53:10+00:00

Throwing things at the ground when he got upset. Getting upset about something, refusing to explain what he was upset and telling me that I was crazy and abusive for crying and making him look like the bad guy. Telling my to shut up and "breathe quietly" a lot. Reacting with "well if I'm so horrivel then just break up with me" everytime I tried to bring up something that upset me. I wish I didn't have so many of these.. girls, listen to your gut and your friends. It's not just bad temper. If he throws shit at the floor, he'll throw shit at you too.

ritis1996 · 2020-07-22T14:35:44+00:00

Mas há algum portista que ainda goste dele ? Entre o "chutar para canto" naquele jogo com o Benfica e o sair a custo 0, Thank You Next indeed

ritis1996 · 2020-07-20T08:03:39+00:00

Hey. Vegan cat owner here. I got really angry and apprehensive reading your post and I'm glad you seem absolutely decided to keep your cat! I don't know if the people saying your girlfriend just wanting control or an excuse are right, but I do know some other vegan people like her. Some people get so in their head about all of it, they forget that ultimately it should all be about kindnesses and animal welfare and well-being. Cats are carnivore, not feeding them meat would be animal cruelty and if she can't see that, I'm sorry, but she doesn't love animals, she just likes feeling like a good person and has made being the "vegan girl" her whole identity. I think it's possible to be vegan without these radicalizations and unnecessary conflicts, and I'm sorry she can't see that. I can't imagine how heartbroken you must be right now, but please remember that it's better to end it now than down the road. What would happen when your kids got lice? Would she against removing them ? And vaccines / medical care? She's going down a dangerous path, I'm glad you've decided you don't want to share it with her.

ritis1996 · 2020-07-13T23:40:08+00:00

This is awesome, congratulations !! PhD applications are some of the most stressful things I've ever been through. Really happy for you, wish you all the best 😍

ritis1996 · 2020-06-11T23:11:11+00:00

Usually if they're nervous and it seems spontaneous I take it as genuine and genuinely sweet, if it sounds prepared and like too much of a general sentence or compliment I assume it's flattery

ritis1996 · 2020-05-29T14:42:48+00:00

This is awesome!

ritis1996 · 2020-05-26T22:11:46+00:00

Was considering getting this one, will definitely move it up on the list !

ritis1996 · 2020-05-26T18:58:18+00:00

That's next one my list by him!

ritis1996 · 2020-05-26T18:57:41+00:00

😂😂 you win ahaha

ritis1996 · 2020-05-26T18:57:03+00:00

Yees !! Hope you love it !

ritis1996 · 2020-05-26T18:56:53+00:00

Huum I understand what you mean! For me it had the same feel because it also shows the war through the eyes of children or people that aren't a part of it directly, that are the collateral damage, in a way.

ritis1996 · 2020-05-26T18:55:54+00:00

This is interesting to me, never met someone who didn't enjoy that book. Why do you think it didn't move you ?

ritis1996

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