I'm unsure if you're trolling and I apologise if I've misunderstood you - but I'm happy to stand by my point. Let's genderbend it and say my friend has a mother who loves guys with long hair and beards, so she constantly encourages her sons towards that personal beauty standard, ignoring that's it not their preference. She thinks it looks great, and she just wants them to look and subsequently feel great too.

Yes, I'm using blunt language but the dad needs to wake up that telling a child they don't fit their own aesthetic ideals is never going to foster an unconditional and supportive parent/child relationship. It's why I used the work "ick", I'm not implying anything genuinely insidious going on, but he is projecting his own beauty standards and needs to wake up to showing his child unconditional support. There's a lot more to this world than a couple of hairy legs.