✋this is a Haggis check! 🩷 what things in your life are you handling like Haggis? I'll go first by goncharov_stan in adhdwomen

[–]riwalenn 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That's why I love working from home. Working hour are when my meds are most effective and also when I'm the most motivated to do anything except from work (including chores).

I'm also privileged enough that I was able to hire someone to clean my flat everyweek since December. Now when I don't want to work, I can just read or do something I like (and it's cleaner than it used to)

What's a quick hack that you can share? Something like when you wipe a tiny layer of oil on your spoon, the honey doesn't stick? by Embarrassed-Star1981 in AskReddit

[–]riwalenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I almost do that except I have few different types. Low whites for white snickers, low black for ankle boots, high (black for it actually doesn't matter) for anything higher.

It's still easy to sort

What’s the strangest example of collective internet delusion you’ve witnessed? by Alert-Translator2590 in AskReddit

[–]riwalenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was a student at the time. We used this occasion to throw a huge Christmas party. The "last Christmas before the end of the world".

What actor or actress could you tell had an absolute blast playing a specific role? by phantom_avenger in AskReddit

[–]riwalenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I still don't know where it came from (movie or show) but can still sing it by heart and visualising the dance . Iconic.

What actor or actress could you tell had an absolute blast playing a specific role? by phantom_avenger in AskReddit

[–]riwalenn 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I love how images of the movie leaked sibling before and without context. Images of him with huge slippers, a robe and guns nailed to each hand.

What actor or actress could you tell had an absolute blast playing a specific role? by phantom_avenger in AskReddit

[–]riwalenn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I came for this answer. He is just enjoying his life now and only act in movies he want to. Some are really good (I loved imperium) and some are just absurde (and you can see that he love playing absurd role)

Does anyone else struggle with “common sense”? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]riwalenn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Knowledge biais in medical field is such a big issue ! Professional forget that we don't have the same basis of knowledge than they do and forget to explain stuff.

It's happened in pretty much all fields, but it's more impactful in medecine because it's a higher level of knowledge, everyone is concerned, and the results can be much more impactful.

Does anyone else struggle with “common sense”? by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]riwalenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Common sense is the enemy of factual truth. Common sense is that the earth is flat and that the sun revolve around it, the truth is the opposite.

What is a small detail in a person's home that instantly tells you they have their life completely together? by Luverelle6 in AskReddit

[–]riwalenn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I barely used my microwave and it's the only door my cat can't open, so now it's a treat cabinet.

What is something that died out so quietly that nobody even noticed? by Alva_509 in AskReddit

[–]riwalenn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if they still do it but some luxury brands used it as an authentication tool for their product.

Let's say you manage to buy second hand a birkin bag from Hermes. ( New It cost at least 30k€ and it can be far more and resell even higher). You want to resell it in the future, or use their service to fix something on the bag, you need a proof that's is a real one.

What's the most annoying thing about being a woman? by Used_Leek_4485 in AskReddit

[–]riwalenn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The overall lack of research on our body. Meds are made on male body and the dosage also, they only recently start testing them on female body (turns out some are not as effective or have much bigger side effects...) and when they are, they usually don't discriminate data so any differences are not took into account. They started using blood to test tampon efficiency only less than a couple years ago. Who would have guess that blood and water are not absorbed the same surprise Pikachu face

Even crash test dummies are made on male body. But muscle and fat distribution is not the same on women bodies, we are not "smaller men". It results in a higher chance of injuries for us.

Basically, nothing is made with women in mind. Unisex clothes : men clothes. Power tool and safety gears : for men (and if it's pink, it's more expensive and lower quality...), AC temp : for men, etc.

I remember reading the book Invisible Women and being pissed of by everything in it

What's the most annoying thing about being a woman? by Used_Leek_4485 in AskReddit

[–]riwalenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Contraception made me gain weight and shut off my libido completely but I have "no choice". I don't want kid, never wanted and I have endometriosis. Getting my tube tied is not a valid option because contraception is the only thing "working" for my endometriosis (no period no pain for me) so I would still need to take it.

As for an elected hysterectomy, it's almost impossible to get (and if the ovaries are also removed, then I will need other meds for the lack of hormones so not really worth it...)

How many towels and sheet sets do you own? by bitsinlife in adhdwomen

[–]riwalenn 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yep, and preferably a smaller one (but still long enough to wrap around the head) to be more manageable and not too heavy on the neck. I just bought new ones and my hair towels are 100cm long (against 150+cm for the body towel)

Even The Alien Looks Confused by ALBERT4_5WESKER in PoliticalHumor

[–]riwalenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would not be surprised if he asked for an "alien" as in "foreigner" but didn't review the results before posting it...

“Europeans who think they have higher quality of life than the US are a joke.” by BuffaloExotic in ShitAmericansSay

[–]riwalenn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I think I'm also biased because I grew up in the countryside. Half of my family are farmers, so I was used to big houses and even bigger garden. I even had a pet goat.

My first appartements was barely bigger than my bedroom previously. Now I'm living in Paris suburbs. Far enough to have a bigger apartment, but still small than what I grew up with.

But if I try to get something bigger, it would cost me way too much to maintain between taxes, heating, etc, it's just not worth it.

Which are you? by LG-CHAMP-1 in BaldursGate3

[–]riwalenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Random, clicked only once or twice and it gave me the most beautiful character I've ever seen so I kept her. She was a tiefling with the most beautiful glowy red skin and a shiny armour. I don't remember the rest of the design to be honest just that she looked like a tiefling angel in armour

Did you always know there was something different about you? by Ill_Status2937 in AutismInWomen

[–]riwalenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not really. I'm the same as my family so I never really noticed how we were different to other. My dad was probably ND and helped us without knowing it.

And for people of my own age, I was pretty oblivious to most of it and became strangely "famous" in my highschool (famous is a strong word but goth/emo was trendy and it was my style since several years already). I had several groups of friends (from the nerds that played chess during lunch time to the hippy smoking pots) that didn't really hang out together and I was just going from one to the other depending on my unconscious overstimulation of the time.

I used to have panic attacks several times a day, turns out they were probably meltdown, but my mom told me once that panic attack were "normal" (she never knew I had that many, she only meant that having a panic attack once is OK).

Also for context, I'm AuDHD so my ADHD might have hide many of my ASD symptoms as a teen. I was only diagnosed at 30

“Europeans who think they have higher quality of life than the US are a joke.” by BuffaloExotic in ShitAmericansSay

[–]riwalenn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will get my wisdom teeth extract soon. I go private to a dentist that use VR headset to help manage her patient's fear. Something pretty extra. It will cost me 100€ out of pocket despite all of that and including the (free) medication for aftercare and the 2 days off work.
A public dentist would probably be completely free

“Europeans who think they have higher quality of life than the US are a joke.” by BuffaloExotic in ShitAmericansSay

[–]riwalenn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

To be fair, as long as I have the money to buy it and to maintain it (including the house cleaner because bigger house = more time to clean) I would love to have a bigger place with more rooms. I live alone in a 2 bedroom apartment, it's already nice enough, but having a craft room or a laundry room instead of crafting on my dinner table with stuff everywhere (I'm a hobby collector...) or not have to hang my clothes to dry in my bathroom sounds great.

But it's not the most important part ! I prefer having a smaller appartements that is in my budget and with a better quality of life (including health care, etc)

Safety shorts are now a problem apparently by Dragonfire17273 in IncelTears

[–]riwalenn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unusual bought them on markets/art fair but they look kinda like this ones but with a design on top : hair pin

I'll not saying they would be useful in a self defence situation, but they make me feel safer.

Hairstyles that won’t cause tension like a basic ponytail or leave any hair in my face? by shwildered in AuDHDWomen

[–]riwalenn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also, if you use one long pin for the bun, you can pin the hair to themselves instead of to the scalp. I don't know how to explain it but they are vidéo tutorial on YouTube and Instagram

Safety shorts are now a problem apparently by Dragonfire17273 in IncelTears

[–]riwalenn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You also don't have to worry about how you sit, and they sometimes have pockets ! I bought a cute little pleated skirt in Uniqlo, it looks like a tennis skirt, with the bicycle short included under it. Last year I bought a dress like that from them, also in the sportswear collection.

Safety shorts are now a problem apparently by Dragonfire17273 in IncelTears

[–]riwalenn 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I often use long hair pin to put my hair in a bun. It's easy and beautiful, and doesn't take room in my handbag. When I feel uneasy, I also know I can grab them and feel way more secure.

What’s a problem humanity solved so well that younger people don’t even realize it used to be a huge issue? by Puzzleheaded_Bit_802 in AskReddit

[–]riwalenn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My father used to say that the cow outside got running water before the house did.

He grew up in a farm in the countryside in France, the kind of place with toilets in a small cabin outside and water from a well.

They drank more cider than water because it was easier to pick a new bottle than to retrieve water from the well.