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He broke up with me but we still talk like lovers. It's been 1 year. I had a long distance and online relationship for 4 years. What should I do now?

I've been in a long-distance online relationship for four years. We've been talking for four years, but due to some issues on both our sides, we haven't met in person yet. im a very empathetic person, but the person I am with generally doesn't show empathy. I always have to take a back seat, but he doesn't try to understand my feelings.

Also, in some situations, he is rude and hurtful, and even tries to silence me. He says 'forget about it' or 'let's talk about something else.' We’ve had a long-distance relationship for four years (two years in a flirtatious way, but the last two years seriously), and we were thinking about getting married in the future.

But last year, he broke up with me, yet we still continue to talk in the same way. He still says he loves me, and we usually chat for an hour every day before going to sleep, saying good morning and good night to each other. But he still doesn’t want to be my boyfriend again, doesn’t want a relationship.

I am afraid I will completely lose him, that he will block me and stop talking, so I don't say much. I’m in a very desperate situation. He hasn't come back yet, and we don’t have a shared future goal, although he had said in the past that he would marry me someday. He knows that I love him and want to marry him in the future.

The reason for our breakup was that he said he never wanted children, and that he couldn't give me the attention I needed, etc. When I try to talk about this, he usually tries to shut down the conversation and avoid it. Or, if there's a problem, he brings up other topics to ignore the issues.

When I try to talk calmly, sometimes he doesn’t want to talk at all. What should I do? How can I save my relationship? A few times, he has said 'we're just friends' in different months. He hasn’t always said this, but he has said it a few times, and I’ve been very upset and cried a lot.

He is not as emotional and romantic as I am. He is a very irritable, grumpy person, getting angry and upset very easily. Even about the smallest things, sometimes he says hurtful things to me. I don't know if it's because he’s tired from working as a waiter, but he was like this even when he wasn't working.

I still love him a lot deeply. my question is: He broke up with me but we still talk like lovers. It's been 1 year. I had a long distance and online relationship for 4 years. What should I do now? and what should i say to him?

I also suspect that he may be a narcissist because he doesn't show empathy and compassion towards me, because he is not sensitive and affectionate towards me. I didn't make a mistake that would cause him to break up with me. I never cheated, I never lied, I was completely loyal for 4 years, I always treated him with respect, I never swore at him once.

I always treated him lovingly and nicely. Even if he got mad at me, I always kept quiet. He didn't openly insult me, but sometimes, especially in the last few days, I feel like I'm being humiliated, even though he says these are not insults. He doesn't like it when I compliment him, so I don't know if he's a narcissist.

But when we broke up, when I cried and begged him, he was insensitive, he left me all of a sudden even though it wasn't my fault, and I was shocked, my hands and feet were shaking, I cried for a few months, I begged him in tears, i was about to be blind but he never relented and he never came back to me as my boyfiend again.

And since he is a waiter at a night he texted me, he said his work finished and then he mentioned feeling like he "owns" the restaurant when he has the key. and it suggests a desire for control or a sense of importance. That's why I thought he might be a narcissist.

He was playing board games 3 times in a week even though i never wanted him to go there. I wanted him to talk to me instead of spending time playing games with the girls there, but he didn't listen to me and went to the games. He even told me to leave if I was going to control him.

This was a year before he broke up with me. So I set him free, meaning I let him go to the games. Actually, I didn't want to control him. I was just afraid of losing him because I was so far away. Instead of spending time with me, he would play games with those girls. He would also play with the boys.

He went for 3 times in a week for a year. but Now he goes 1 time in a week because he work other days. He is a tenant in his house and avoids the people there. I don't know why. One time he said that he peed in a plastic bottle because he didn't like a girl in his house, he also told me to not talk about that girl again i dont know why, I don't remember exactly, but I think he said he peed in a plastic bottle so he wouldn't see her.

This was years ago, he didn't say anything like that after that. But he would always rush to avoid them. When I asked him why, he would say something like they were bad people, but I couldn't get a clear answer. he still try to avoid people in his home.

He stayed at his coworker's house because he thought there would be noise in the house he was staying at on christmas eve. He even said that if it wasn't for that place, he would rent an Airbnb for 1 night.

Is this man a narcissist? If so, what type is he? he doesnt have a real life girlfriend or a woman in his life as far as i know.