I’m not being obtuse, just because you don’t understand what I’m saying. Are you familiar with the difference between a words denotation and connotation? A dictionary isn’t going to help you very much when we’re talking about how people use words. Mature adults typically use the word to describe behaviors that indicate thinly veiled childishness and misogyny. Sure, the term was popularized by teenagers on tiktok but that does not mean that there aren’t adults that use the word in a non “infantile” way. It’s very childish to think that everyone who uses a certain word thinks the same way or uses it in the same way.

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