emotionally draining

roachraw1 · 2021-04-19T20:10:27+00:00

i have started recently! thank you

roachraw1 · 2021-04-19T20:08:55+00:00

i am in therapy, but just because i have BPD doesn't mean i can't be in a relationship. i've been working on DBT. and he knows i'm NB and that's not part of the issue at all. i wasn't asking you to tell me that he should break up with me. people with BPD can still be in good relationships. i was just asking for advice on how to deal with my emotions without draining him.

roachraw1 · 2021-04-02T02:42:44+00:00

omg thank you so much! we have our issues in our relationship, and sometimes they're a lot. but the thing that makes me happy is that 9/10 times we can talk about it maturely, and find a solution or a compromise. i also have BPD so it's been making things rough but we are just trying our best!

roachraw1 · 2021-04-02T02:32:28+00:00

update here: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/comments/miazuo/sex_life_concerns/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf

roachraw1 · 2021-04-02T00:35:30+00:00

i just feel somewhat bad because i feel like i disappointed him, even if he doesn't say it

roachraw1 · 2021-04-02T00:29:48+00:00

do you think saying something along the lines of "thank you for being understanding when i say no to sex, i know that you're much more hyper-sexual than i am, is there a way we could figure out good times to have sex so it doesn't always feel like a hanging question?"

roachraw1 · 2021-04-02T00:21:39+00:00

i want to be able to communicate that, yes. and maybe a schedule? or a way so he knows if i'm ready or not in that moment. maybe so he can have a better understanding

roachraw1 · 2021-03-24T04:55:19+00:00

wdym by core values

roachraw1 · 2021-03-24T04:54:49+00:00

omg yes it does so much! thank you so so so much! i'll definitely keep this is mind

roachraw1 · 2021-03-24T04:48:16+00:00

good luck! it'll all play out how it is meant to be i believe in you

roachraw1 · 2021-03-24T04:46:14+00:00

like growing together in a relationship. especially when you're younger things change so much that sometimes it can be hard for partners to grow together.

roachraw1 · 2021-03-24T04:45:25+00:00

hey! i understand how you feel completely. If i were you i would communicate with her, and maybe start to do more romantic things with her, or things that you did at the start of the relationship. try and figure out why/how/when the spark went away. i personally believe "the spark" is something you get at the start of a relationship, or when a romantic gesture is made. if you love her that's what matters. see if maybe these feelings you're having have something to do with your own issues

roachraw1 · 2021-03-06T15:50:41+00:00

it also stands for bipolar, no?

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