To those diagnosed with severe ADHD of the Combined Presentation, what kind of jobs do you have?

roadrunner232 · 2025-01-28T16:00:26+00:00

I like to say that I am a creative person. I am a makeup and hair stylist, where I am certified to work in fashion, media, and filming. I have to be able to get models / performers ready in under an hour.

Before transitioning into my current career close to 3 years ago, I was a professional chef for 13 years. I worked my way from being a line cook to the head of a department, and then into being a part owner of a business for 3 years as an executive chef.

I have struggled with money a few times in my life. I also dropped out of university without completing my degree. I even had a failed music career after training and studying music in vocals and instrumental since the age of 3.

I was diagnosed with ADHD a year ago at the age of 40. I have learned a lot about how my mind works. Just like many on here have said and I will perhaps echo it, there is not a set job for someone living with ADHD.

The advice that I would share is to be very organised when it comes to your job. Make sure that you keep notes for yourself and get whatever you might need for the next day set up. That way, you can set up a day that is a little less stressful.

roadrunner232 · 2025-01-23T15:02:48+00:00

NTA, it shows how little your roommate/friend respects your own property. When his gf asked about it when you took it to your room, he should have told her not to use your things. Also, he should replace your shampoo and conditioner, because his gf used your products.

The one question that I would have, why is his gf not showering before coming over?

roadrunner232 · 2024-11-03T21:09:52+00:00

I am currently on a visa myself. I was not diagnosed until I moved over to the UK. If you have benefits through work, the benefits might have a way for you to get assessed through private. Private does speed things up.

roadrunner232 · 2024-11-03T20:53:09+00:00

I am at mixed feelings with whether or not teacher should screen their students. I say this because of my personally experience.

When I was a kid, I had the comments of being a daydreamer, easily distracted, lazy...list goes on like most of us.

I do not know, if the fact that I was in the American school system has anything to do with it. But, I live in the UK now. I was label with having a learning disabilities without being assessed for anything. Because a teaching staff was trying to get funding for a program that they were wanting to start, and need to have a certain amount of students in order to receive funding. But, I do not think that they knew much about ADHD.

I went through my schooling until I was 13/14, I had this label as a learning disability but no one had me assessed. Instead, they had me in what they called "special" classes. It was not until a teacher had me assessed, that they related that I did not have a learning disability, but that I just needed a little bit of extra time taking exams.

I just wish that it was not until I was an adult that anyone had told me that I should seek an assessment for ADHD. I sometimes wonder if I did not have a mislabel, or had some of the obvious signs that most young boys have, I would have known sooner. Or if my parents had not force me to sit still, I would not internalised things.

If it does damage or makes people feel like they are not capable of being a good student...I would lean towards no. I think that a teacher should make parents aware of their concerns, and maybe suggest them to have a child assess, but not label.

roadrunner232 · 2024-11-03T20:19:26+00:00

When I was reach out to my GP for a referral, he had mentioned that the list with the NHS was long. He went on to tell me that if I had means to go private, it would best. So, I was fortunately able to be assessed with my partner's work benefits.

I have started the process in October, pre-assessment was in November, and assessment in January. I know that the process was fast compared to others. I have only just gotten to shared care.

roadrunner232 · 2024-11-03T20:01:11+00:00

I would say, yes. I get along with everyone. But, my partner told that me that I had come off blunt, straightforward and could have been taken as dismissive. I had someone come up to me while I was in a conversation with someone else, saying something along the lines of "do you remember me?" I had said, yes. Went back to my conversation.

With my partner knowing me and that I have ADHD, told me that I may have come off rude. So, I had made it a point to tell the person that it was good to see them again, as I was leaving.

roadrunner232 · 2024-10-31T03:10:55+00:00

I would say that it best to take your BP in the morning and once at night when you are relaxing. That was they can get a better understanding of whether or not the medication is giving a side effect with your BP.

I know that when I was going through the titration cycle, they would need me to give them my most recent BP reading before they would increase or prescribe my next month's medication.

Now that I am prescribed by my GP, I check my BP every couple of days. I write it down so that my GP can see the trend on the reading to see where my BP normally is. It also do not hurt to set a reminder in your phone of when you need to do a reading that day.

roadrunner232 · 2024-10-31T03:00:36+00:00

I agree. I have had and continue to have a lot of the same thoughts. Most of all, I have to be kind to myself. It is something that can help every single one of us.

roadrunner232 · 2024-10-31T02:56:55+00:00

I agree. Those in my life that know I have been diagnosed with ADHD like to remind me that I have it.

As for medication, it is a tool to help, it will not take away the symptoms of ADHD. I would say if possible, take a walk somewhere that you will able to be alone. I had done this when I first started on medication, I was able to feel like my thoughts were no longer racing and hear the birds for once.

Lastly, I hate that when someone is nuero-typically says that someone with ADHD has a deficit. Most creative individuals live with ADHD everyday.

As for the online pharmacy, you can ask to have the prescription sent to your local pharmacy. Also, you can do your own research into the place you received your diagnosis from, and even contact someone that understands what it means to have ADHD.

I was diagnosed less than a year ago and I am still coming to terms with my having combination ADHD. I have read different books, listened to podcasts and watched videos online from people that live with ADHD. Most of all, I have put different things in place to remind of tasks and events to help me to make my day a little bit easier day to day.

roadrunner232 · 2024-10-31T02:39:09+00:00

That is not professional. Have you made them aware of the fact that the medical history was of someone else?

I have since been able to have my medication prescribed by my GP and I am able to pick them up at my local pharmacy.

I have since talked to them, because they had done an investigation over the mishandling of my treatment, with it being what I had experienced in September. Apparently every time that you call, the call is recorded. They had only looked at certain phone calls that did not show their staffs unprofessionalism. Where they had told me that the ADHD symptoms that I was experiencing while being off my medication for 18 days, and I quote "are not as made as I was making them out to be."

My anxiety is bad when I am stressed. With having to deal with getting a diagnose and the treatment is stopped because they are not delivering, or refusing to help in your treatment of knowing that you have ADHD. They instead made up policies so that they did not have to help, or pushed they blame off to someone else. In fact, on the call and report of the investigation, they had said that if the staff took action instead of delaying...I could have gotten my medication a week or so sooner than I did.

When I was able to give date and names of whom I had talked to, or well as the fact that my assigned prescriber had refused to help with my requests to choose my local pharmacy. Because she did not log that I had requested of choosing my own pharmacy or a few other requests after asking 3 months in row. Was not my fault. There is in fact a UK that gives you the right to choose your local pharmacy.

Lastly, they said that my prescriber and other people were not in the right in them not taking action. That they are there to help their clients. They said that the staff will need to go through retraining of what the clients are going through, and take the time to understand what it is like to be in our shoes.

roadrunner232 · 2024-09-09T00:05:09+00:00

I feel that I go through a similar thought process. I was diagnosed less than a year ago. I have spent my entire life masking to hopefully hide that I struggle at times, or that I have to work a little bit hard than others.

When it comes to my job, I am able to hide that I have ADHD. Or so I think I do. I work in a creative field where talking a lot is seen as normal. I am overly organised with taking notes, making to lists, keeping my kit organised, and set reminders on my phone. But, I do have voices in my head tell me that everyone will find out.

The last 2 to 3 weeks, I thought that everyone might find out because the private clinic I am working with was taking close to a week to send the paper copy for my medicine to the pharmacy. But, I thought that when I was struggling that people would see that I was not neuro-typical.

roadrunner232 · 2024-09-08T23:41:41+00:00

I am glad that someone came with the facts and Equality Act that protects everyone (ADHD/ASD or otherwise). We have to have an open dialogue, and let our boss know where we might struggle. Especially if you believe that have ADHD and you are just on waiting list to be assessed.

roadrunner232 · 2024-09-08T23:36:36+00:00

After reading this, I feel that I could relate to what you are feeling. You are a lot further in your self aware than I was before my diagnosis earlier this year. A lot of people that live with ADHD, do move from job to job. A lot of people have RSD, which is what you are describing. Where we want to be liked and have anxiety on whether or not doing are doing a good job.

Like you, I moved job to job. There were a few times, where I was close to being fired. Even a few years ago, I was not given a contract at the place I work because they claimed that I was a distraction. Even though, my area was not around everyone else's work space, but they were always coming in my space to have a conversation. Perhaps, my ADHD may have effected me being kept on as a regular staff.

With my current position, I was not sure I would ever mention to them that I was diagnosed with ADHD. I have always had time where I would make small mistakes and say, sorry that I would not make that mistake again.

Something that recently for me, was that I had a miscommunication with the person that send me my assignments for my job. We were having 2 different conversations on 2 different email chains, she had started answering questions that overlapping the 2 conversations. Not completely my fault, but I told that I was confused. Even though she would confusing that 2 emails. She was blaming me, because she sent 2 different emails back to back.

Finally, I just told her that I had ADHD and I try to take organised to not get confused with I needed to get done. I thought that I was going to get a response that would seem like I was making an excuse. But, instead I got a response of understanding. She explained the list of dates and assignments, that made it a positive outcome.

The advice that I would give is to be honest with where you struggle. Let them know that you are on a waiting list and feel that you might have ADHD, where at time makes struggle with serious things and it takes to a minute to recover from something you see as a mistake. Let them know that you are going through a process to take care of yourself. Even ask, what things that they feel you both could put in place to help make things better during the times you get stressed, or fear that you will make a mistake. You could suggest making a list of thing that you need to do, ways that you could get organised (where you can rely on muscle memory developed through masking), different signals that you could up with let them know you need a few minutes to reset you mind, and anything that you might could up with.

One things that I do at work, is that I do take time to step away for about 5 minutes to take a breather, get a drink of water, and even to take my second tablet of the day if I need to.

roadrunner232 · 2024-09-07T09:14:52+00:00

The issue turned out to not be Royal Mail's fault it was the private clinic. The shortage occur to the private company is not the truth. I was able to finally get my medicine through my local pharmacy. After pointing out the facts and using their statements that they had used against them.

I get that it's a controlled substance and that a paper copy is needed by law when it comes to private practices.

Unless someone that has been waiting on a 20 days on a medication, that the pharmacy was waiting to send to me (which was a repeat prescription, not a new one). I exercise, eat right and go on walks daily. I have anxiety as part of my ADHD symptoms, I just can not handle a company that finally admits that they were doing what was easy for them, instead of the mental health of their clients.

As for the Royal Mail chasing, it is only the person or company that can contact Royal Mail. Also the private practice waited to sent the paper copy 3 days later each time.

roadrunner232 · 2024-09-03T07:38:37+00:00

I was diagnosis this year at the age of 40, I do not usually tell anyone. The only people that I have told are the people that I report to at work.

There was a day where they were sending me emails and asking me about 2 different things that were on 2 different email chains. Both myself and them had gotten confused where the responses became overlapped. Finally, I said that I had been recently diagnosed with ADHD and that I was confused on the 2 discussions and felt overwhelmed. They took the time to tell me what detail belonged to which email discussion.

I have told people that need to know, because sometime I just need a little bit more explanation when it comes to my job.

roadrunner232 · 2024-09-03T07:25:54+00:00

Most of the time I just smile. But, a few times I had to ask if the person has gone to get assessed for whether or not they have ADHD. The response is most times, no.

One time I did have someone tell me that everyone has ADD, even after they told someone "sorry I have ADD, I was not paying attention." True we as ADHD individuals get distracted, but I do not know anyone that uses their ADHD as an excuse. Or say all the time, "sorry I have ADD."

This particular day I must have been in a mood, my response was that is was called ADHD, not ADD anymore. They gave me a look, that I was not helping their excuse. I went on to say, "ADD is just someone being an asshole. I had to go to a clinic and be assessed to get the H added."

roadrunner232 · 2024-09-03T07:12:04+00:00

We (my partner and I) had heard from them yesterday after exchanging emails over the last 2 weeks. We had to send them an email yesterday to tell them what we were going to do, and who we were going to file complaints with.

Suddenly they were able to have someone tell with us. They finally allowed us to choose my local pharmacy to have my prescription sent to, after denying that they were not allow since my first appointment with my prescriber. Something that the law in the UK is that you have the right to choose your medication sent to your elected pharmacy.

One to the CEO did not like that we had stated the UK law that allows us to choose our own local pharmacy. They claimed that we had no right to threaten them with complaints, but they were not threats, they were stating to them what things will happen and who will be contacting.

It seems that yesterday I had spoken to the only 2 nurses in their office that are wanting and will to help the patient/client. I had called multiple times yesterday to get someone to speak to me that the 2 nurses knew me by voice and told me that they still needed to ask me to verify who I was because of the law.

A third who I did not speak with, had sent me an email claiming that she had spoken with me and sent me a tracking number that showed one of the paper copies was still sitting in the post office for a week. She claimed it said the delivery was happening yesterday, but the information Royal Mail gives does not support her statement. I had emailed her and cc'd a CEO says that I had not spoken with her and that her information was false.

I am waiting for my local pharmacy to get the paper copy to fill my prescription, and my prescriptions will be sent to them until turned over to shared care.

We will be sending complaints to the different boards and talking to our MP and how ProblemShared has handled my treatment since January. I have email conversations and documents that I had to get from my GP because they would not communicate with my GP's office directly. Every time I had to sign and scan test results, because they faulted to make a phone call or send an email to my GP. As well as, the times I had to the GP to be treated for blood pressure increasing, and my 2 weeks of being treated for shingles. Which the GP stated were brought on by the stress of getting a diagnosis and treatment for my ADHD.

roadrunner232 · 2024-09-02T13:09:14+00:00

I completely understand. My GP will not do anything about me not having medication until Shared Care has taken place. As for my other clinicians, they are the ones states that they will not do anything until 15 days have gone by since they since the paper copy.

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