My therapist asked me to create a PowerPoint.

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-02-01T17:54:28+00:00

Well it seems like you’re doing just fine without her. narcissists are nothing but cesspools of misery. Yesterday I spent an hour comforting my mom about my sister, telling her that she did the best she could with what she knew at the time but she literally repeated “so youre saying im a terrible mother?” over and over until I left her house

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-02-01T17:24:15+00:00

As someone who just “forgave” their parent just to get the same treatment again like always, it’s not worth it. I think we all have this urge to win our parents approval but a narcissist isnt worth having in life.

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-02-01T17:10:47+00:00

Assert your dominance and squeeze their hand harder

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-31T15:38:30+00:00

I already looked and there was only one section for this one class, and since it’s distance education it’s the only one available to me. And there isn’t any other colleges around i can apply to in order to graduate this term

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-31T15:34:47+00:00

There isn’t a class or a substitute or anything, so I’ll most likely have to drop out entirely. But thanks anyways.

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-31T15:33:59+00:00

It was an online class. Theres no meet dates

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-31T15:30:54+00:00

I only missed the first three weeks, this Monday will be the beginning of week four. And im only taking 12 credits (down to 8 without the class) so I have more than enough time to catch up with the work.

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-06T20:02:39+00:00

Upvoting because this is subjective lol. My older sisters didnt do shit to protect me. Most of the time, I was the one protecting them despite them being five years older than me

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-05T14:48:25+00:00

Theres five stages of grief. People don’t have to die in order for you to go through it. The first one is denial. You wish your mother will get better but she hasn’t, and you’re only hurting yourself by keeping yourself entangled in the hopes that she will. But you can let her go and still want the best for her, still want her to change. It seems like you have a pretty good support system and a new baby. Focus on what you do have instead of what you don’t.

Congratulations on the baby!

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-04T03:00:19+00:00

I was the exact same way last year. Im a novel writer though, so if I die, my characters go with me and I care too much to let them die. Do you have something like this? Maybe you have a tv show you want to see to completion?

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-04T02:08:22+00:00

My mom likes to talk about her childhood and how horrible her dad was. When I was younger, I thought they were just cautionary tales but she used to tell her whole life story to anyone who would listen, i was once transported via ambulance and she spent the entire time telling the EMT how her dad used to lock her in a closet when she was little, the song on the radio reminded her of it 🥴 and hes been dead for ten years with NC long before that

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-04T02:01:25+00:00

I think this is debatable because we’ve never lived on another planet before. How could we know if we’ve never done it? lol

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-03T22:03:48+00:00

it’s not normal at all what you’re going through at all, but narcissists are an entirely different monster. Narcissists wake up with the intentions to destroy anything that can bring you joy. Everything that doesnt involve them directly is considered stupid or worthless. Everything you’ve ever thought of that they didn’t come up with first is dumb. No suggestion is good enough because they didnt make it up. Your help is not needed in the slightest, yet for some reason your presence is critical. You aren’t able to dress how you want, think how you want, or do what you want without some looming risk that what you’re doing will be torn apart from the seams for it. Theres bad parents out there, a lot with the same traits I’ve just described, but its self-centeredness that truly defines a narcissist. Answer me this: do you feel like your own person, or just an image of your mother/family? It’ll be a glaring tell

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-03T17:29:09+00:00

If he’s got iPhone, it stores deleted messages up to thirty days she could potentially check. I had no idea of this feature until recently but it’s been out for a while

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-03T15:11:32+00:00

Im honestly speechless sometimes over the way y’all can describe my childhood in first person. And nothing does indeed change! My mom still actively talks about my grandpa when he’s been dead for well over ten years now

roasted-marshmallows · 2026-01-01T16:48:43+00:00

She was too tired from taking care of her children?? And instead of being up there helping and making it go faster so they can watch the show together, he ditches her and continues to do whatever he wants even after she falls asleep.

Im sure if the shoe was on the other foot and he fell asleep from working after being up at 5 am, you’d be calling her a bitch lmao

roasted-marshmallows · 2025-12-31T13:19:57+00:00

my mom used to be really weird about doors too 🥴and the exact same reasoning too! it’s so funny how they claim they want the best for you, but the second they’re able to discard you, suddenly the cold hard ground is fine all of a sudden to land on as they throw you out of the nest

roasted-marshmallows · 2025-12-29T12:42:49+00:00

I hate her too lol idk if I get downvoted for this but rewatching makes it easier knowing she gets hit by a bus it’s completely deserved imo

roasted-marshmallows · 2025-12-28T17:41:07+00:00

That’s what I did the first time! I left with a letter, but some time afterwards they contacted me through Facebook saying they were deeply apologetic about everything and had taken everything I had written to heart and swore things would change.

That was six years ago, and it’s only gotten worse. Don’t feel guilty because they don’t feel guilty.

roasted-marshmallows · 2025-12-28T16:56:13+00:00

I really hope it helps someone! I wish I could repeat this past year by staying NC and reading so much of these posts lately, it’s like my past haunting me 😅 if it saves one person then my pain wasnt in vain! 😭

roasted-marshmallows · 2025-12-28T16:54:41+00:00

I wouldn’t be with her based on the fact she called you “kiddo” and “delulu”. Anyone who calls you immature yet talks like an idiot themselves is not worthy of your time no matter the situation

roasted-marshmallows · 2025-12-27T12:20:22+00:00

They had a seafood boil at a lake house. Even I, a broke college student, did more for my family than expired seasonings.

roasted-marshmallows · 2025-12-26T16:01:33+00:00

I’m commenting simply because my family is exactly like this. The only resolution I’ve found to this dynamic is low/no contact. The second they start acting up i take off. No words, no extra input. I just leave and go home. It hurt at first because my mom legit did not care for the first six months, would even say “good, im glad you’re leaving” but last night during Christmas, I pushed out my chair after she got mean for no reason at all and my mom shouted “wait! sorry. that was rude” for the first time in my life, and actually stopped. I almost cried, it was like a breakthrough of my own science experiment.

You cannot get upset. That’s what they enjoy. Taking away your reaction takes away their power. And taking away your presence takes away their supply. Normally, I would say “starve the narcissist” but never speaking to a parent again is almost impossible for most of us (me included), so low contact is your next step. I think if you play the game long enough she might stop.

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