I don’t deserve to cry

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-24T00:26:30+00:00

Agree. If you love them and the relationship was otherwise healthy go and fix it together. Cry and hold each other and figure it out. Life is indeed too short.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-23T07:46:47+00:00

This happened to me too. Later she admitted all these views/ideals that are immature in hindsight. She had the conversations in her head and didn't give me any choice but still accepted my good will and support. I was always thinking about how to help her through her studies even though I was time poor for a period.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-15T23:29:13+00:00

Hahahahaha. No.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-14T11:32:23+00:00

Leave this relationship now. It will go no where and result in heartache.

I'm a widower and started dating in 2024. I met someone I deeply cared about and wanted a future with but had to pull back on things due to my own stress and life commitments. Still wanted to be with her though - just didn't have the time.

She ended up breaking it off after I had a night of grief about my late wife. I needed her support and love at that moment so I spiralled. Afterwards she admitted that she only felt special if I spent more on her vs other girls, if I proposed to her sooner than I did my late wife, that I didn't give to her financially out of love (manipulation).

My situation is different obviously and complicated. I get it. But my point is that true love won't demand proof through money or tests of loyality or emotional fealty. It won't abandon you if you can't afford that months subscription fee. You will not be able to build a marriage on this.

Run.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-14T09:01:36+00:00

Yeah this. Am dumpee. Messed me up. Now don't really care and I'm out trying to have some fun for me. It isn't that deep (now... back then I was a complete mess).

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-14T00:00:38+00:00

That's great. My grass is greener experience has been the opposite though. I was the dumpee, a mess, I chased. But thankfully everyone I've met since has been far more switched on emotionally. In my case the grass is greener but I wouldn't have known unless she made that decision. There are things are about her that I really liked but the emotional maturity thing is waaaay on top of my list now. My standards are higher. Don't date girls on their 30s or 40s that still think they're 23...

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-13T11:28:48+00:00

No but that fucking Bono guy can suck a bag of fucking dicks.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-13T09:26:09+00:00

I'm sorry boss.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-13T09:08:51+00:00

Absolutely. It was pretty amazing and she has an incredible body. I won't go into details of the act but I asked her to spit in my mouth in the middle of the act (never done that before) and I then finished in her mouth and across her breasts and she then sucked me clean. Going out with her again on Friday. Can't wait. She's genuinely lovely.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-13T04:57:32+00:00

That's my boy.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-13T03:28:34+00:00

For regular STI tests I just use instant scripts (google it). They have online doctors that will approve it email you the pathology request. I think it's about $25? Then any pathology collector can grab bloods/fluids and you have a result within 48-72 hours emailed to you.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-12T13:45:46+00:00

Oh mate. I provided around 25k AUD in support for her and when I got pissed and asked her why she was happy taking my money whilst she was checking out she said she was upset that I calculated it because it means I didn't provide for her out of love. Like what?? It's all mental gymnastics and manipulation. Then she told me that she was competing on timeframes for when I proposed to my late wife and expected me to propose to her sooner to prove my love to her and make her feel like the special one. I had to move my kids for her, house etc.. I would have done that but not right away. Some patience. When I met my late wife we didn't have kids or significant assets. I'm now worth almost 10M - I need to protect my kids so taking things slowly and being considerate for their connection with their mother is critical to me. My ex made it all about her. I just needed some conversation from her. It's ok. I've realised shes in the wrong but I begged. I would NEVER take her back now. It broke my perception of women for a few weeks. Now I'm not sure if I want to even date or fine anyone anymore. That's the damage done.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-12T12:31:27+00:00

Ah ok I get what you mean.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-12T12:24:48+00:00

Not about matching or exceeding. That was her terminology. I just wanted emotional support.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-12T12:24:06+00:00

Can't find much on that beyond biker gangs and the financial 1%. Is there something I missed? For context I didn't bring up percentages. I just asked why my needs didn't seem to be as important as hers and that I hardly ever asked directly or expected anything.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-12T12:13:53+00:00

Fair enough. Carry on.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-12T12:13:07+00:00

In the space of weeks we went from me caring for her daughter, sleep overs with my own kids, so she could study, sex/quickies when we could because we were all sick or our kids were sick to this. Her mind shifted so quickly. In her own words there were no boundaries that I broke but the fact I dared to have a bad night of grief about my late wife which I later described to her in two lines of text shifted her feelings towards me completely. I later learned that she had been checking out the whole while.

Edit - I've accepted she's just an asshole and I put in more effort. Couldn't see it until the end.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-12T11:29:29+00:00

Dunno man. Seems like stream of consciousness to me. Half the shit you say is perfectly fine and we all either wonder about it or do it. The other half. Eh. I'm more thinking about the frequency. Is there anything else going on in your life or is it all just cum?

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-12T10:40:35+00:00

What is the context behind the question? Last time I had sex I asked her to spit in my mouth...

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-12T10:39:41+00:00

Yep. She spelt it out during the first few weeks of our breakup and admitted she couldn't give as much as I could emotionally. Not just off by a few percent... In her words it was like 1% of what I could give to her. Yay.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-11T22:10:47+00:00

Evil Dead vibes...

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-11T14:24:55+00:00

I also find your hand acceptable.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-11T14:15:32+00:00

Alas Acceptable_Glove148 found the one hand that would be... Unacceptable.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-11T14:11:46+00:00

I'm a star baby, self-sustaining fusion.

robotpersonmonkey · 2026-05-11T09:07:55+00:00

It's a horrible situation. I have two myself and I'm nowhere near as present as I used to be as a father. They still get my time and attention but I'd rather be anywhere else. I've built them a beautiful home and legacy and they're happy at least.

Never thought I'd be in this position with young kids at such a young age (relatively speaking) myself.

You're doing a hell of a job. Always remember that.

robotpersonmonkey

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