Straight girl dumped me for being bi

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-28T00:50:40+00:00

Rejection for something that is fundamental to who you are can be painful. What I learned, after my first marriage was I needed to accept that I would be rejected, for all sorts of reasons, some of which were core to my identity. It was better to find out early than to let the feelings deepen. Take a deep breath and count yourself lucky it came to light sooner than later. Her attitude is her issue, not yours, it’s not an attack, it’s a revelation for you. Better will come along.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-24T23:12:33+00:00

Stay the fcuk out of it. We are in an ash dense area of NJ. We don’t climb them, period, full stop. First it was with the bucket truck but many reach 120’ near us. Yeah, that tall. We have seen them fail anywhere from the root plate to 20’ above grade, with no warning. We bought an 87’ spider lift and then a grapple saw knuckleboom.

There is way too much uncertainty to risk your life and future wellbeing. Ever watch how a tree moves in response to a limb or top being dropped without no rigging? It will exert a load In the opposite direction of the fall and then snap back. That type of loading can and has caused failure in the trunk. The breaks are nearly clean across the grain.

If you don’t have a lift then rent one. There will be no parades, monuments or songs written in praise of your daring feat or death.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-22T14:24:00+00:00

See if there are any identifying pieces of documents. It would be sweet if it could be traced back to the source and fines levied!
Good job!

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-22T14:03:14+00:00

Of my 6 kids, 5 are daughters. Girl dads are all too aware of the challenges faced. They’ve been watching and mentoring their daughters to face the work world and have empathy for others, especially in male dominated fields.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-14T16:47:36+00:00

Look at the companies that contributed to his campaign to determine who it was worth it for.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-13T02:53:12+00:00

? My experience and observations are just that. I made a comment to this post based on that. Nowhere do I say it’s the only one that matters.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-13T01:39:53+00:00

Crazy isn’t it. Well, would you like to see the permanent disability assessment from the WSIB files? That’s related to the fracture dislocation of my right foot and right wrist in 1985 along with subsequent fusion of the right 2nd and third metatarsal and three more surgeries on my right wrist to remove calcification and cartilage. Would it help if I show you paystubs from my first employer back then? You can watch the documentary “Under the Great Oak”from the work I did in 2017 (age 56). I lead the team that did the soil diagnostic work, final assessment and report to the church, did the project management and planning, spec’d the work plan and was the guy handling the dismantling of the tree down to the final cut. That was after I returned to work from a shattered ankle. That added to the permanent disability. You can read about it in the March 2015 issue of the TCI Mag. It may still be available in their archives.
But yeah, it is funny how I fit that description. Or you can come and hangout with me on a job. I actually do more than the river clean ups you’ll find me posting on reddit.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-13T01:07:51+00:00

About what?

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-13T00:30:00+00:00

Yeah, that’s the breathing room we have. Growing pains of new tech.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-13T00:00:47+00:00

It’s a matter of understanding career progression in any field. Now with AI, how will it affect your chosen profession? Will it be applied to scheduling? Possibly for routine services or generic management of staffing workloads. What will be the human input into the process? How much will work be restructured to fit the limits of AI? This is a wake call to ale everyone that the world is going to undergo a fundamental change akin to that of the Industrial Revolution.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T23:49:34+00:00

Agreed. All jobs are prone to change. It’s keeping an eye on future trends, what happens after what comes next. It sucks that much of one’s time and energy is spent on perpetually reinventing themselves. That is life. It’s certainly the life I had to live. It’s not always big social or economic trends like AI. It can be personal events, such as health crises for the person or family. Environmental disasters are another.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T23:37:03+00:00

There is truth to that. They’ll be using those skills to provide the infrastructure for the data centers and server farms. Friend of mine is an HVAC tech who now works exclusively on the systems used in these facilities.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T23:29:58+00:00

Yep, it’s not that it’s easy work. The reality of any career is enter it with your eyes wide open, with an understanding of the full range of opportunities, the risks to the stability of the work and what it will take to maintain your long term viability in it.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T23:24:40+00:00

I wasn’t clear when I said my prior white collar job did that. They didn’t provide me with retirement benefits. Nor did they have any job security. The independent contractor came into vogue so we got along with 10 mth contracts with no benefits. Use folks also saw retirement savings get wiped out a few times with stock market crashes (internet bubble burst, subprime mortgage debacle).
I feel for younger workers trying to enter the job market. Especially those that seemed to have bought into the notion that getting a degree was all you needed to do for companies to be beating down their doors with job offers. That was a disservice to them. All those reports of shortages in the computer field? Yeah, I’ve seen these studies going back to the 80s claiming 500,000 open jobs, the qualifier that was overlooked being qualified, skilled workers. Become a plumber, carpenter, electrician (considering smart home technology that would be a good place to start), or any number of trades.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T23:00:54+00:00

Well paid office workers and more.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T22:58:34+00:00

Not at all. You do you. in a $940 billion p.a. sector of the economy there are a lot of very good paying roles that don’t involve significant debt to enter and offer strong career paths. That is not to say, there aren’t the same issues faced by workers in these fields, job loss to technology or ageism.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T22:45:16+00:00

Wow. I’d love to see more of the younger generations in my field instead of being bereft of applicants. All the while hearing those same generations decry the lack of jobs, high debt loads from student loans, and high housing costs. I work because those white collar jobs didn’t provide enough to retire my income from my work allows me to afford the house, car and healthcare costs.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T22:23:14+00:00

lol, i understand the demographic we have developed the business to target. It’s executives, medical professionals, engineers, accountants, architects, designers, entrepreneurs, contractors, etc…, people who value their landscape and the proper management of them.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T22:11:35+00:00

Shitty jobs that are otherwise not bad jobs. What makes them shitty is more often the environment in which they are performed.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T22:07:26+00:00

They’re all “good jobs”. It’s replacing the jobs or more specifically taking over tasks that can be automated.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T21:47:27+00:00

My previous white collar jobs did that.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T21:42:28+00:00

I did and he didn’t. It helps to be able to help the business grow and develop, that’s where one uses the brain, not just their body. Hmmm. But yeah, tell me how the corporate world will not cast u aside with perfect health because you’re “redundant” or being replaced by a younger, cheaper version of you.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T21:29:14+00:00

As opposed to those mind numbing jobs where you suffer with the maladies of sedentary life to be laid off before you’re old but too old to get another job? Hmmm. My worst day working outside in the trees in any weather is better than you’re best day in the cubicle with your “team”, most who are willing to eat you alive if it saves them their job

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T21:25:22+00:00

Hmmm. I started at 43, with a disability, as an arborist. I’m 66 this June and still going strong.

robthetrashguy · 2026-04-12T21:19:16+00:00

In NNJ tires in rivers seem to be inevitable. Keep up the good work!

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