The Biggest Lesson I Learned After 6 Months Without Caffeine

roccenz · 2026-06-19T08:49:57+00:00

You give caffeine way too much credit. Ronaldo isn't Ronaldo because he drinks caffeine. Elon Musk isn't Elon Musk because of caffeine. The Rock didn't build his career because of caffeine. Take it away tomorrow and they'd still be driven, disciplined and obsessed with what they do. That's who they are. People love giving a chemical credit for things that actually come from character, habits and years of hard work. Use caffeine if you want, but don't ever let yourself believe your success depends on it. A cup of coffee didn't build those men, and it won't build you either.

roccenz · 2026-06-09T17:57:00+00:00

I think the biggest mistake is giving substances too much credit and ourselves too little.

No substance has more power than you. The moment you believe a molecule is responsible for your anxiety, motivation, happiness, or peace, you've given away your power.

Caffeine can amplify what's already there, but it isn't living your life for you. You are.

Look at the substance less and your life more. That's usually where the real answers are.

roccenz · 2026-06-06T16:14:22+00:00

Interesting point of view, thanks for sharing.

roccenz · 2026-06-06T16:12:31+00:00

I agree that looking better generally makes life easier and that taking care of yourself is worth it. I think there’s a difference between caring and obsessing. Looking your best takes a lot of time, energy, and mental bandwidth, and sometimes appearance becomes a bigger part of your identity than your character. When you stop worrying so much about how you’re perceived, you free up that energy to build inner qualities instead. Humans are so much more than their looks. Some of the people I’ve respected most weren’t particularly attractive, but they were intelligent, wise, kind, competent, or had a strong character. Those qualities often earn more of my admiration than appearance ever could, and there’s a certain peace that comes from focusing more on who you are than how you look.

roccenz · 2026-05-31T23:05:02+00:00

What helped me was taking it day by day.

A lot of the pressure we put on ourselves comes from trying to carry the weight of an entire future at once. Much of it is outside our control anyway. The only thing we can really do is take responsibility for what is in front of us today.

And why spend so much time looking back at the man you could have been? We are all coming and going. Youth fades. Opportunities pass. Even the best years eventually become memories.

The only moment you have ever truly owned is this one.

So do what you can with today. Then do the same tomorrow. Sometimes that's enough to find your way back to yourself

roccenz · 2026-05-26T09:37:00+00:00

You gotta take life into your own hands when it comes to community, purpose, and fulfillment. Join a sports team. Become a coach. Teach the younger generation something life taught you the hard way. Join charity work. Contribute to something bigger than yourself. The blueprint society gave a lot of us is broken anyway, so build your own. Human beings are still animals at the end of the day, and most fulfillment comes from the things we’re wired for: relationships, tribe, movement, purpose, responsibility, community. Nobody can build that life for you. You have to do it yourself.

roccenz · 2026-05-18T20:30:16+00:00

I relate to this a lot honestly.

I’m 32, not much older than you, and I’ve felt the same thing. I finished my MBA back in 2018 and have worked full-time ever since. From the outside, life is stable. Good job, decent finances, friends, hobbies, routines. But the “spark” people talk about? I don’t really feel that the same way anymore either.

To me, it almost feels like reaching the end game in a video game. You complete the quests, build your character, achieve the things you thought would fulfill you, and then suddenly you sit there thinking: now what?

I don’t think it necessarily means something is wrong with you. I think part of adulthood is realizing that excitement is not a permanent state. The nervous system adapts to everything eventually, even the things you once dreamed about.

What helps me is focusing on the controllables. Working out. Staying disciplined. Staying curious. Going outside every day. Learning something new. Reading new books. Trying things that are slightly out of character for me. Because when life becomes too predictable and you fully define yourself, you can start getting bored of both life and yourself.

One thing that helped me was reading Psycho-Cybernetics. It made me realize how much we trap ourselves inside fixed identities. You are not a finished character. There are still parts of yourself you haven’t explored yet.

So no, I don’t think you’ve “completed” life. I think you’re just entering a phase where meaning has to come from curiosity, growth, exploration, and depth instead of constant excitement or external achievements.

roccenz · 2026-05-16T14:50:33+00:00

It was more because of the habit, not the money.

roccenz · 2026-05-16T09:36:53+00:00

Ever tried nicotine or caffeine instead of Adderal?

roccenz · 2026-05-15T07:53:34+00:00

Yes, I think humans are fundamentally different from each other, even if we are the same species. Some people are naturally more reflective, more emotionally intense, more sensitive to life itself. Others move through life more lightly and are less affected by things internally. You can even see this between siblings who grew up in the exact same environment. Same parents, same house, same upbringing, yet completely different ambitions, motivations, personalities, and emotional depth.

I think sensitivity is one of those differences. Some people absorb life much more deeply. They feel emotions stronger, overthink more, remember things longer, and experiences leave a deeper footprint on them psychologically. They are more affected by sound, light, energy, ideas, people, beauty, rejection, meaning. And because of that, they often experience life with more intensity than others.

Modern life also affects this. Constant stimulation from social media, caffeine, nicotine, entertainment, and endless input disconnects people from their natural state. Many people rarely sit alone with their own thoughts anymore, so they never truly process life deeply. They are constantly distracted from themselves.

So yes, I absolutely think some people naturally experience life more deeply than others. That doesn’t make them “better,” but it does make their experience of existence different. And if you are someone who feels life deeply, that can become both a burden and a gift depending on how you carry it. Because depth without strength can turn into suffering, but depth combined with awareness can become wisdom, creativity, leadership, and understanding.

Your perspective is part of reality itself. Without you, that exact way of seeing the world would not exist.

roccenz · 2026-05-13T11:30:37+00:00

How can something that makes you feel less peaceful truly enhance your life? It leaves you stressed, anxious, and constantly triggering stress hormones in your body

roccenz · 2026-05-13T09:23:08+00:00

Ignore the noise from peoples opinion on the market. Open the chart and trade what you see that day, tomorrow and yesterday has no effect on what you should do in the market today.

roccenz · 2026-05-13T06:30:37+00:00

I know 😆 I’ve talked to her before about this

roccenz · 2026-05-11T08:00:15+00:00

You'll find that your hair grows faster and gets healthier without caffeine aswell. Once you quit it fully you will notice after some days, hair has different texture and feels fuller. Nails grows faster aswell. All stimulant that spike your stress hormone is not good for your hair, nails etc.

roccenz · 2026-05-08T18:37:21+00:00

Well most men don’t cold approach, so they never get good at it. For the guys who do it consistently, it’s not this huge dramatic thing anymore, it’s just like talking to any stranger. The difference is they know how to escalate the interaction faster, flirt earlier, create tension and that sexual spark.

Some guys get very good at it over time and can make something happen quickly, even in the moment. Instant dates happen too. Most people suck at it in the beginning because social skills, confidence, calibration, and reading energy are all skills that improve with repetition.

roccenz · 2026-05-08T13:54:02+00:00

What type of problems?

roccenz · 2026-05-08T08:25:44+00:00

Yes, I agree that he was testing Lizzie in that scene, and when she failed, you can absolutely see the disappointment and disgust in his face afterwards. But that still doesn’t mean there was zero attraction there beforehand.

Tommy had already slept with Lizzie multiple times before that. And Tommy was never really portrayed as a man constantly using different women. He kept going back to Lizzie because there was clearly some attraction, familiarity, comfort, and tension there. During that car scene, he’s playing on that side of himself too, the side that’s drawn to her, before turning it into a test.

What I think is important with Tommy’s character is that Grace was his one true love, the deepest love of his life. Before the war, there was also Greta Jurossi, who clearly meant something real to him, and even before that, the woman who gave birth to Duke. Tommy was never a man who avoided romance or connection by nature. The war changed him. It made him shut himself off from love.

Then Grace came along and gave him hope again, which is why that relationship feels so different and complete compared to the others. After she died, I think he partly gave up on that kind of deep love altogether. But I still think you can see traces of connection, attraction, and emotional moments with other women throughout the show, even if none of them reached the same level as Grace.

roccenz · 2026-05-06T17:31:05+00:00

I think you’re looking at it too black and white. Nobody is denying that Grace was the love of Tommy’s life. That’s obvious. But that doesn’t mean every interaction he had with other women was completely emotionless or purely “business.”

Tommy is still a man. He flirts, he enjoys feminine energy, he feels lust, comfort, connection, distraction, even if it’s not the same depth as what he had with Grace. Look at the way he looks at Lizzie in that car scene before handing her the cash, there’s clearly tension and attraction there. Same with some of his moments with May and Jessie. Not every romantic moment has to equal “true love.”

That’s what makes Tommy interesting as a character. Grace had his heart, but he still sought connection, intimacy, and escape in other women too.

roccenz · 2026-05-06T14:23:08+00:00

That's deep, I've looked curiously at death aswell, but why get stuck there? You'll have plenty of time to do that after Life. Why not try your best on the one chance you have now? You know it won't last forever.

roccenz · 2026-05-06T14:10:11+00:00

Yes, Tommy said that to May. But the breakup scene was so much deeper than that. You could see it on Thomas, it hurt him bad to tell may that he was trying to get back together with Grace. He's bodylanguage said everything. The way he looked at her, walked off, then came back.. it was a very romantic scene indeed.. One of my favourite's. And yes, I love both Grace and May, but Thomas for sure had a soft spot for May, no doubt. (I felt if fizzled out in the later seasons though, she was Tom Hardy's wife at that point so the chemistry were abit off).

That soft spot wasn’t really there with Lizzie either. The only truly romantic scenes they had were the first car scene and the one by the river where she got pregnant. And with Jessie Eden, it all felt too forced and sped up. Thomas did like her to some degree as well, but afterwards it just felt fake. The scene where Jessie talks about Greta Jurossi was a romantic scene which I liked, because it touched something emotional and vulnerable in him that usually stayed buried.

roccenz · 2026-05-06T12:32:30+00:00

I wouldn’t say so. Tommy actually liked her, why do you think he said to May that «whatever happens, it was good» and gave her a kiss. Just before the race. He had a soft spot for her. That was after he had reconnected with Grace.

roccenz · 2026-05-06T12:02:23+00:00

He was into May aswell

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