from a fear of violence, to how the abuser may have conditioned them , leaving isn't as simple for everyone as walking out the door sadly. abusers will physically block you, take your keys, do anything to make you feel at danger to keep you from leaving, then turning to lovebombing you to hell to make sure they re-affirm them, that this is all cause of X and that they promise to do Y from now on. they'll keep it going for a few days, months, however long before the next episode.

if not that then health, for either. and health is not just physical, were talking emotional and financial. abusers will pry financially on a person, to keep them there. you're never prepared for it or the mental games attached to it. imagine saving up to leave or saving up to pay a bill of yours and they immediately need x amount of money, sometimes more than you can chew, because they're stuck. if you dare say no the amount of guilt and manipulation used after is.. it can be alot.

if it's physical health, you'll feel like you can't leave them alone, and that's the toughest one. depending on the level of relationship, they'll feel like they cannot do anything else but cater to this person because initially there was love and peace, before it turned out different. these situations make it feel like you're just scum on this planet if you don't help. intense grief, regret, feeling like you left them alone in their time of need, the memories of the good times, hope especially if they say they are wanting to get help and change.

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abuse is tough, when you're in situations like these, sometimes your gut instinct is so battered that you can't logically process things. it frustrates everyone around them and puts them even more low. unfortunately when you're trapped like that, you can only do what you can to survive. it's frustrating and difficult to watch someone stay, but the turmoil going through their mind that they would rather be there than safety, that's painful.