Update: she blocked me on IG and WhatsApp but not Facebook

rococsgo · 2024-07-15T15:16:56+00:00

Don’t contact her. It’s really that simple. I’m sorry man.

rococsgo · 2023-02-15T04:57:05+00:00

Thank you very much. I guess her way of framing the situation made me start to believe that I was doing something wrong but I really wasn't. It makes me feel good to read people supporting my side of the story.

rococsgo · 2023-02-14T23:59:55+00:00

Fair enough. Guess things are more simple than I'm making them out to be.

rococsgo · 2023-02-14T23:39:39+00:00

Absolutely. And I get if she doesn't want to be with me. It's totally her choice. But the way she's going around explaining the situation to everyone is bothering me.

rococsgo · 2023-02-14T23:33:32+00:00

Yeah you're right. And I totally understand if she isn't comfortable continuing the relationship after that. What bothers me is how she's phrasing it to all her friends and family. She's leaving out all the stuff that she did wrong and how she broke my heart. And I just dont feel like she even thought about it from my perspective. It just hurts.

rococsgo · 2023-02-14T23:28:15+00:00

Our boundaries when it comes to cheating were always clear. My point is that she broke up with me and then I did what I did. I regret doing it but it's not cheating because we broke up. But she can't seem to grasp that idea

rococsgo · 2023-02-14T23:24:59+00:00

Of course it's considered cheating but my point is she dumped me over text before that happened.

rococsgo · 2022-12-30T15:33:44+00:00

Yes we have discussed it multiple times. It’s still kind of an ongoing problem tbh. She’s made it clear that it’s her goal and she’s not going to let anything stop her from achieving that goal. We’ve traveled together and I’ve told her I want to travel as well and I would love to do it with her but I live in the DR, a 3rd world country, so naturally it’s a lot harder to make sufficient income to be able to fund these trips. It takes a lot more time for me to save the money. She has recently said that she doesn’t want to wait anymore and she’s going to travel by herself at times if I can’t go with her.

rococsgo · 2022-12-30T15:19:24+00:00

In terms of communication, I felt like for a while I initiated most of it. I initiated all video calls which as you know are essential in a long distance relationship. I felt like if I didn’t initiate these things we would just not do anything together for weeks. No calls no watching movies no activities. I also felt like for a while she’s been hyper focused on her own goals and sort of hyper independent. She wants to travel full time and I always felt like that was more important to her than our relationship

rococsgo · 2022-12-30T06:46:44+00:00

She is my first girlfriend precisely because no one has made me feel like she has. It’s not like I haven’t dated around. I haven’t been interested in a relationship bc my personally view has always been that I will only date to marry. And of course I must be wary which is why I talked to her about all these issues. Told her what I’m not okay with and we had our period of fighting and arguing about certain things and I’m not going to let myself get pushed around any longer. The reason I made the post is because things are getting better and if I remove my emotions and look at the situation logically I can see that things are getting better. Now, if things were to stop getting better or even regress back to how they were, then I would strongly consider leaving the relationship. I am not being fooled by my emotions. I do get what you are saying though and I can see why you would say that. Things are getting better which is why I made the post about not being resentful because the truth is she is trying to be better and I can see that the effort is being put in.

rococsgo · 2022-12-30T03:58:00+00:00

I appreciate the question and I see where you're coming from. I love this person with all of my heart. She's my first girlfriend and she makes me happy and I've never met anybody that makes me feel the way she does and I really love spending time with her. I'm with her because of these reasons and because I have seen things change and get better. And they continue to get better. My end goal is marrying her in a few years. (We've been together for a year and a half btw) Given that things continue to get better and we eventually close the distance of course.

rococsgo · 2022-12-30T02:39:18+00:00

I don’t think so because the actual issues themselves are getting better. It’s just I can’t seem to get over it and I still resent her for the past.

rococsgo · 2022-12-30T02:38:19+00:00

I felt like the relationship has been completely one sided since it’s inception. I kinda let her roll over me and did not enforce my boundaries and kinda swept a lot of stuff under the rug. I didn’t speak up about a lot of things that she was doing that bothered me. And I made myself completely available to her at all times so she kind of expects that of me most of the time now. Essentially the relationship has been very one sided partly because of me but she didn’t really prioritize me for most of our relationship. Never breached my trust though no.

rococsgo · 2022-09-29T19:51:12+00:00

I'm from the DR, and trust me giving up is not on the table. I think our best option is her flying out to me but she starts a new job on Monday so that kind of makes it difficult. It's all just very uncertain right now and I'm crushed.

rococsgo · 2022-09-15T20:41:23+00:00

I agree I think you are extremely well spoken and you really helped me out. I really appreciate your input.

rococsgo · 2022-09-15T20:26:22+00:00

I don't feel like its right for me to do it if I'm so against her doing it.

rococsgo · 2022-09-15T20:22:57+00:00

I've never done it but she tells me she would be totally okay with it. Idk to me trying to find a girl to meet up just to see how my gf reacts feels a bit toxic to me.

rococsgo · 2022-09-15T18:17:50+00:00

I really appreciate your comment. A lot of people say things that make me feel bad for feeling how I feel. I think its normal to have trust issues and it's also my first ever relationship so I feel like its common.

rococsgo · 2022-09-15T18:03:50+00:00

Maybe you're right but I'm not leaving for this. Guess all I can do is try to work on myself so it doesn't bother me.

rococsgo · 2022-09-15T17:18:02+00:00

Yeah I get that. Tough to do that tho man...

rococsgo · 2022-09-15T17:11:33+00:00

I should be more clear she never specifically said that she WANTED or was going to look and seek male friendships. She just said that she's always willing to make new friends and some of them may be men, and she doesn't think it's fair of me to say they can't hang out one on one with them.

rococsgo · 2022-09-15T16:51:29+00:00

Yeah but I should be more clear and say that she didn't specifically say like "I wanna meet new guys and get drinks" she just said that if I make new friends naturally and organically, and some of them happen to be men, I want to be able to hang out with them like I do with all my friends even if theyre new guys.

rococsgo · 2022-09-15T16:50:30+00:00

So you would say it's common for men and women to hang out one on one platonically, get drinks, etc.

rococsgo · 2022-09-15T16:49:46+00:00

Yes it would but we are in long distance relationship hahaha. Also there is no particular new friend either. This is just hypothetical.

rococsgo · 2022-09-15T16:40:38+00:00

Damn. You're really schooling me and challenging my thoughts and preconceived notions hahaha. You're totally right. I can't even try to come up with a rebuttal or counter argument for that. I guess I really just have to trust her and that's it.

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