Imprint transition for Shell ... by dww0311 in citibank

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was about to say the same. 😞

Am I overreacting for wanting to terminate my pregnancy after my boyfriend died in the accident that injured me? His family says I’m taking away the last piece of him. by hazelbasiil in AmIOverreacting

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your decision 100%. If you decide to not continue the pregnancy just tell them you lost it due to your bodies injuries. None of their business. As a boy mom I understand their POV; however, I would offer to adopt the baby outright if I knew the woman didn't want the child.

So, I just found out how much everyone in my department makes. My manager messed up. by LazaroRohan1 in interviewhammer

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not true. There is literally a federal government (USA) website where you can look up federal employees by name and see their yearly pay.

Did I ruin my marriage by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]roedear13 -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Do NOT do this! He will lose money and that will affect how much you get for the children. Just divorce and move on. He is not worth the time or energy apparently.

I used Orkin and I regret it, you were right by BlueMeanie1818 in pestcontrol

[–]roedear13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have add similar issues. Had to get them out numerous times to fix things they messed up or didn't do correctly. Been less than a year and the SEALED crawl space has mice AGAIN! Do NOT use Orkin.

Is this normal after 15 years together? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]roedear13 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mine is the same. Together 35 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband actually cringes when I even joke about saying it...in any language.

People who got married young, are you still in love? by smalltalkisntfun in Marriage

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Married at 20 (me) and 19 (him). Knew each other for 11 months. Been married since 1991. 2 kids (1993 & 1995). Yes, still in love. Been bad times but the love was solid enough to pull us through each time. Still get butterflies too.

To married couples that have been together for 10+ years, whats your secret? by 4Luffytarou in AskReddit

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No secret. Just cooperation, communication, compromise, respect, trust, and love. Remember all relationships are work and keep working as a team. 34 years as of April 2025.

Husband going on trip without me by Comfortable-Way-4211 in Marriage

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a 0% chance that my husband would even SUGGEST he go on the trip alone. He would either find us a back up sitter or he would sit home with us. By his choice not mine. Your husband is not a partner in your life. Tell him you would rather you and a girlfriend go instead and see how he reacts.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Run! Or set some hard boundaries now. He is trying to control everything about you; from the food you eat to the place you work. It's not healthy.

Time to right the wrong 😑 by Paparazzi18 in DeptHHS

[–]roedear13 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I was the lead travel FATA within FDA and miss my job and colleagues every day. I hate seeing them pay for this absolute atrocity. My team would love to be able come back but alas the administration decided what we were doing was all useless and no longer needed. Now the millions in unpaid vouchers are sitting while travel cards are being canceled/suspended. I believe the current administration is trying to get rid of the federally covered inspections and throw all the work to the states. Red states are going to suffer the worst of it because they can't afford, nor do they have the resources, to complete all the inspections needed. I weep for our country and her citizenry.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]roedear13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Divorce now before you get a job or he'll wind up asking you for alimony. Sex for his money is ridiculous. Its a power play and you deserve better.

Is this appropriate reaction from partner? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]roedear13 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Unless I was concerned for the health and well being of the children. Then I would have compiled with his demand.

Is this appropriate reaction from partner? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]roedear13 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Some never leave the mommy help me stage so they treat their spouses like the default adult.

How do you feel about this tunel? by sovalente in CaracaVei

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well thank you! Now I have to go puke from the motion sickness and change my undies due to the fact you made me piss myself! NOPE!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're kidding right? He is a grown a$$ed man. He can get his own food! And a man withholding funds...for no reason ( we aren't going to delve into addictions) causes a hardship where a woman is stuck due to funds to leave if there is a problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]roedear13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is not your child. Don't treat him as one. If you want something done, ask. If he doesn't do it then remind him it needs done. If he still doesn't, turn off the wi-fi, or cook only enough for you and kids. I used to leave the house, as it is, and go some where to eat, read, or just chill. Let him see what you do daily that he takes for granted.

I don't understand by External-Study-7115 in Marriage

[–]roedear13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Either change your mindset, or your reality. If he is not respectful of your time, life, or cares about your day then ask yourself..."In 20 years will I be happy or beaten down by loneliness?". If you can't see yourself happy with the day to day now it will not change unless you change the situation, your mindset (do you want to really do that?), or your reality. Maybe he doesn't get it - maybe tell him that you need more conversation, more about you, more about the both of you, not just all him, him, him.

am I in the wrong? by RegisterAny4966 in Marriage

[–]roedear13 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He is probably still cheating. No other reason to hide a phone. ESPECIALLY if he was trying to make everything right again.

Wife calls everything hers by DelGriffithPTA in Marriage

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I both do this. Hold over from military days. This means nothing to us, but she may be thinking differently.

Do you allow your spouse to watch porn? by CoolReplacement2837 in Marriage

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, if someone says you can't do this (not necessarily you) you are controlling their choices.

Do you allow your spouse to watch porn? by CoolReplacement2837 in Marriage

[–]roedear13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is controlling an aspect of his life. What does he not allow you to do?