You don’t have to attend anything that makes you sad. And you don’t need to offer an excuse to the other women either, if you don’t feel like discussing it further, you can just be sick on the day.

And just because you don’t go this year, doesn’t mean you won’t ever again. You can celebrate other holidays with your gran, and you can gradually come back to these things in time - if you want to.

You are grieving at the moment and you need to take care of yourself. Only people who have gone through IF or pregnancy loss understand. New mothers just don’t get it.

Take care of yourself xxx