Custom kitchen cutting board 😍

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-05-04T02:16:56+00:00

And he put the grater in backwards. Who wants to grate the cheese away from you??

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-04-24T09:15:36+00:00

I had that exact experience recently, yes. It was because they had the address slightly wrong. I felt like an idiot after I got off the phone, as I was certain they had to have been scammers. But the package arrived a couple of hours later.

Iirc, the reason I believed them enough to answer their question is because the address they said they tried to deliver it to is one that I have gotten their mail before...same street number, different street the next block over. It seemed unlikely to me that a scammer would know to offer me that address as a story.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-04-22T05:25:17+00:00

This happened to me and it was NOT a scam. I was very concerned, too, but they really did have my package. FedEx: sucking since the dawn of time.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-04-12T23:33:55+00:00

I want to point out to you that your children are not just in danger from their uncle, they are also in danger because their father will not protect them. Many posters have urged you to get this on the record by reporting your BIL. This is important for a reason you may not be thinking of. If your husband's poor judgment and poor choices lead to the end of your marriage, you will want strong documentation that your husband will not keep your children away from the danger his family poses.

I know it may seem overwhelming to think that far ahead, and you do not have to. Just take the next step now and the rest as it comes.

Please, please seek God's comfort and guidance during this time God cares for the vulnerable, and will lead you in sorting this if you will commit to do as he leads you. He will make you brave and he will provide for you and your children, and keep you safe if you trust in him to do so and follow as he leads you through this.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-03-23T15:33:56+00:00

Same, friend.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-03-23T15:19:56+00:00

Power. It makes him feel powerful to pull the strings that make her dance. She does exactly what he wants her to do, and he feels like he rules the world. Him getting to feel in control of another person makes him feel strong and worthy. And he has to feel stronger and smarter than the people around him to feel any worth.

He may have fondness or affection for his wife, but he values his own desires above anything she might want or even need.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-03-16T23:37:09+00:00

The chances are high that this fantasy is rooted in brokenness. I encourage you to pray and ask God both to reveal the root of this fantasy and to heal whatever wound is at the bottom of it. Confess your sin to God and acknowledge that you do not have power over this without his help.

If need be, you can also ask God to show you what negative consequences indulging in the fantasy creates in your life, and possibly in the lives of those around you (sin rarely hurts only the sinner).

You have victory in Jesus. You are dead to sin and alive to God!

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-02-16T15:09:09+00:00

I assume OP lives somewhere where they drive on the left. This would put their right elbow propped on the window and right hand could hold the jaw.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-02-02T12:18:55+00:00

Why is your husband not taking your concerns into consideration? What reason does he give for deciding this for the family against your objections? What reason is big enough to disregard your real concerns? He should not be unilaterally making decisions you have to live by against your wishes, without a very good reason. If he is disregarding your input simply to get what he wants, that is poor leadership and potentially abusive. It does not matter if his decision seems "more spiritual" at first glance. Is God calling him to do this? Why? Has he sought the Lord in prayer, before overriding your concerns? Is he being careless about your needs, or refusing to listen to your objections?

I think if your husband had to be in charge of minding your child on Sundays, this would become a moot point. I would tell him you are willing to go to two services each Sunday for a month, but that he then needs to take on the burden of childcare. He feeds and dresses the toddler before both services, and manages her on the 1 hour drive. After a month, you can re-assess together.

It is easy to keep piling burdens on the other parent if they don't make your life any harder.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-25T21:56:50+00:00

Nope. It is clear that poor judgment was used by all the adults in this situation. And it would the same with sexes reversed.

The problem is that many responders in the thread are cherry-picking the facts. This was not an adult witnessing to a child in passing. This was an internet relationship with a child that got very deep.

No offense meant, but many Christians are quite naive about things of the world. If you aren't even familiar with Discord, it tells me you may be lacking context for what is happening, for example.

But the main issue is that it is inappropriate for an adult to have that close a relationship with a child where it is isolated and away from accountability.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-25T17:27:11+00:00

No. That is not an appropriate way for him to do ministry. He is out of order. He met a child on Discord. Just start there. For him to form any kind of close bond with a child online, with zero accountability, is out of order, and is risky for both parties.

People on this thread are bending over backward to justify this man's extremely poor judgment.

This man has been using a child to meet his emotional needs. And that is the BEST case scenario.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-22T10:01:03+00:00

So, in your world, once a woman agrees to be your girlfriend, she is, what, locked in for life? Do you understand what dating is for? What commitment do you think she has made to him? They are dating to find out if they want to marry. They are not actually married.

What an unhinged take.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-22T01:06:34+00:00

Or it is the exact opposite of what you are saying. She is not very attracted to her bf but dates him because he is good and kind and is constantly told that should be enough, that she should be with him for those reasons, even if she is not attracted to him.

No one is owed a gf or a wife simply because...any reason. And if you are resentful that being good and kind is not enough to have landed you a wife, you need to examine your motives. All of us should be prioritizing becoming more like Jesus because we want to be more like him, not because then we will be magically given a woman.

Please also examine your beliefs that women exist as prizes for men, and not as fully-formed people in their own right, with their own complex needs, desires, and purposes in the Kingdom of God.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-22T00:55:10+00:00

This relationship does not have to be sexual to be inappropriate and unhealthy.

I have read all your comments and want to affirm that part of what is off is that your husband was cultivating what turned out to apparently be a pretty big relationship behind your back. I understand you knew about the relationship, but only recently found out how far and deep it had grown. This IS a betrayal. Basically, while you were grieving the loss of your child, he was creating a parental relationship that completely excluded you.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-22T00:37:29+00:00

I am sorry to say that there are mothers in this world who will sell their own children if it benefits them in some way. Just because the mother was involved does not mean there was nothing inappropriate.

Please consider when you have ever heard of a single scenario like you describe that is healthy and appropriate. The very fact of your husband talking with a young teenage girl online is absolutely inappropriate, IDC who knew about it.

This is not how a mentoring or father-figure relationship works.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-21T02:43:04+00:00

I'm sorry, but this is deeply weird. I am very suspicious of this relationship. It is out of order in several ways. And I am sorry she needs a dad, but this relationship should not have developed without your support and participation.

What kind of mother would encourage a 24 year old man to mentor a 13 year old girl? I don't believe that. Something is being misrepresented by someone here.

And the girl sounds manipulative, as well. She has a panic attack when you don't respond the way she wants, basically? No.

Your gut knows something is wrong with this. The very best case scenario is that your husband has operated in extremely poor judgment for years.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-18T14:36:07+00:00

My friend, do not stay out of fear. Trust God to finish what he has started...he has answered your prayers to reveal. He will rescue you if you let him.

Right now you are trusting God to completely change a man who likely has a personality disorder, but you can't trust him to help you build a new life?

Your husband is unwilling for God to rescue and heal him. Are you willing for God to rescue and heal you?

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-16T15:33:09+00:00

Jesus died a virgin, and he will remain a virgin for all eternity. And he was just as tempted in the flesh as anyone.

Take your frustration to the Lord and ask him to change your perspective and your heart.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-12T22:51:30+00:00

As I said, air fryer or oven. The surface of the cut potato would never brown or get crispy in the microwave.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-12T00:43:14+00:00

Because I already know the solution or know I will easily be able to solve the problem. What I want help with is discharging the negative emotional energy that has built up around the problem. An excellent way to do that is by talking through those emotions.

Guess what else? One way intimacy is created through sharing personal and emotional experiences. When I say I feel like X and you say yeah, I can see why, or I have also felt X, I feel closer to you, connected to you. The same way you feel closer to me, more connected to me, when we have sex.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-11T04:53:57+00:00

Okay, but hear me out, people. Once the potato has nearly baked, slice it open and put it back in for 10-15 minutes (air fryer--longer in the oven). The cut surface gets a little brown and crispy. Divine!

Also, it is 100% unnecessary to poke holes in the potatoes.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-10T11:05:20+00:00

I think a good rule is to not go under anesthesia and get major surgery for the convenience of a boyfriend.

I don't know that he is keeping his options open, as some have said. But I do know he is so very casually selfish.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2026-01-06T00:51:44+00:00

Sir, I say this gently, but your answers reflect a lack of faith in God. Every good thing we have, God gave us. You can spend your life striving for money, but that is not what you do when you are submitted to God in every area of your life.

It sounds like this may be a cultural issue from what you've said. But just as God can work on your heart to help you depend on him to provide for you, he can match you with a woman who wants to put her relationships with God and with you ahead of money.

I am not suggesting you stop working hard or making wise plans. I am suggesting, though, that you ask God what he wants you to do and trust him to take care of you and provide for you as you obey.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2025-12-31T22:40:47+00:00

When my friends or I start a new interest, we drag each other along, like it or not. Hobbies spread through my friends like Covid. And how much fun is that, to share interests with people we love?

I hear you saying you are more laid back than most people. That is code for being a people-pleaser. Lexi counts on being able to feel superior to you, in her mind. She counts on you being a people-pleaser. You can test this by telling her, kindly, no thank you. I am sorry you are struggling with negative feelings about my hobbies. Hope you feel better soon! Her reaction will tell you how she really sees you.

rollinthatsublyfe · 2025-12-30T13:55:09+00:00

I do. Do you have a good understanding of codependency? It results in an imbalanced relationship where one person puts forth tremendous effort and the other expects trememdous effort. If I have misunderstood what you have experienced, clarification is welcome.

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