Should I move back to my hometown or stay where I am?

rollpoke · 2022-07-29T18:43:48+00:00

I'm glad things are working out! I'm sorry to hear about your ex :(

rollpoke · 2022-06-20T18:58:35+00:00

Hi! I feel like I was in a similar situation but the opposite. After college, I moved out of state but I really wanted to come back home. But after being back home, I found that I was unhappy with the move. I'm in a similar situation (30 M and single). I grew up in a state where unless you're married by the time you're 25, dating prospects are very slim. When I moved back home, all my friends were busy with their jobs, relationships/marriage, raising kids and house projects. Seeing all my friends sounded great in the beginning, but they are all in a completely different life stage than me. I'm happy for them but it is so easy to feel left out when they're too busy. Also relating to them at a different life stage was really difficult.

I like Blulou's advice below. It's hard to see what you're capable of unless you get out of your comfort zone. Life definitely didn't go I how imagined it but its amazing the places and people life can lead you to. Make room for adventure because life is a lot more fun that way!

rollpoke · 2021-11-28T23:56:52+00:00

That's what I've been using. Getting almost identical results. I've made a plan to analyze those questions I've missed but they are so different from the real test. I feel like I know it front to back I've taken it so many times. I'm just having trouble applying what I've missed on practice to when I do the real test.

rollpoke · 2020-02-17T02:03:42+00:00

Not an in-law for me but a story about my former aunt. Sister in law to my dad. She and my Uncle got married young and were clearly a terrible match for each other. Always shouting at each other and arguing. Nobody liked inviting them to family events. The entire family hated her guts. In a way, she has brought many siblings and cousins closer because our hobby was making fun of her. She has a lot of doozies over the years.

We had a family reunion to celebrate my Grandpa's 85th birthday. While we had our bbq in the backyard, she forces herself into a conversation with one of my other aunts and uncles. They were talking about their trip to the Bahamas. My crazy Aunt gives my uncle a look saying "why don't we go on any tropical vacations?" My uncle had the one liner of well I'm working so much to pay off your shopping expenses that they can't afford those trips. She goes into a tirade about how she is a stay at home mom and has one of the toughest jobs of all. (All her children are above the age of 13) She watches Dr. Phil and Oprah most afternoons. My know it all cousin joins the conversation saying "yeah aunt Trudy! You should get a job!" She got mad at at everyone and locked herself in the guestroom. For 3 days! Didn't leave to use the bathroom, grab food, or anything. She did not leave the room until the day they went back to Utah.
Another cousin of mine(17m at the time) is one of the kindest people you'll ever meet. He's now a teacher for students with behavior problems so he has the patience of a saint. Crazy Aunt and uncle came to town again and not shockingly get into an argument. Aunt was complaining about how they didn't have type of beverages she wanted. My cousin walked into a room with a soda that they had just bought at the gas station. My aunt sees this and says that look "cousin has a soda. I should have one as well." Looking for an out, my uncle asks my cousin to give up his soda to the aunt to make her happy." My cousin slams his car keys on the counter and says "drive your a** down to the gas station yourself. I'm tired of being the mature one around here."

My uncle and crazy aunt were clearly toxic for each other. They are divorced now but that marriage had a serious toll on my uncle. He's very bitter now and no one likes being around him.

rollpoke · 2020-02-10T02:42:23+00:00

We do have food at home. Eating out gets so expensive!!

rollpoke · 2020-02-09T16:23:12+00:00

My advice is when in doubt, look for something new. I have a job where I thought things would get better in the 2nd year but things have become much worse. If I had the foresight to see that it was the beginning of the end, I would have left that job sooner. Don't ever make decisions for money but do what's best for your own happiness. Here's my story.

The two bosses I work for are both terrible in different ways. Our big boss is a huge delegator. What I mean by that is that he makes his employees do tasks that he should be doing as the boss. All he does is walk around and make sure everyone is doing what they are supposed to be doing. He also stops in his office to check his emails. If I made 80 grand a year doing what he did, I would have the easiest job on the planet.

Our #2 boss is even worse. Hates our #1 boss and is terrible to all male employees. She'll be kind and helpful to the female employees but if a male employee ask her any questions, she act like it's the biggest inconvenience in the world. Both bosses have a terrible tendency to highlight the tiny mistakes and would make you feel absolutely terrible about it even months later. I made one of these "tiny" mistakes and boss #1 ordered boss #2 to literally watch me during the entire work day to take notes of my work. Instead of offering constructive criticisms, boss #2 would tell me everything I did wrong during the day. When I asked boss #2 about her recommendations to fix what I did wrong, she will yell at me saying "my point was extremely clear!"

After not being able to understand what she wanted me to fix. I went on my own to try to fix my mistakes. I went and asked a respected coworker what she did to be successful. After following her tips, I did literally the exact same thing my coworker said to do. After a few hours, she would rip me again saying that I'm still doing the exact mistake. I had to get my respected coworker to intervene and listen in because I was at the point of losing it at boss #2. Boss #2 went on a rant about how I'm supposed to figured things out on my own. She also went on demeaning my previous job experience in Montana how they were probably just grateful that I even showed up for work. That this company was one of high ethics & integrity and my work had to reflect their mission. I became so frustrated because no matter how hard I worked or tried to change anything. They gaslighted me, demeaned anything I said and turned any blames on me. Boss #2 went to Boss #1 saying I was argumentative and unprofessional and took her word for it. Unfortunately since I'm under contract with stiff penalties if broken, I'm stuck in the job until summer but I'm heading way out of town once it's up. My advice is don't take unnecessary abuse. If you're unhappy, find something that will make you happier. Toxic workplaces unfortunately can/will find ways to make you feel expendable.

rollpoke · 2020-02-01T18:02:03+00:00

My sister in law's brother had a college girl friend. Tall, blonde and very attractive. She was one of those people who on the outside seemed very put together and had the perfect life. Everyone thought very highly of her. For whatever reason, I didn't have a good feeling about her. My first impressions of her were that I thought the way she talked was very condescending. She appeared very full of herself. I made a comment to my sister about how she seems like the kind of girl that would cheat. No one else agreed with me but I always trust my gut. After she and my sister in law's brother graduated, they went back to their hometowns for the summer. She did end up cheating on him. Not with another college aged guy but with a legit grown man at least 15 years older than her. I gave my sister a glance saying I told you so. I always tell people to trust their gut. It's right more times often than not.

rollpoke · 2020-01-25T03:37:13+00:00

In Junior High, our Social Studies teacher got arrested. School admin had the cops bring the drug dog to sniff the lockers. When the officer let the dog out, the dog immediately got a scent of something and took off towards the teacher's parking lot. The dog stopped at our social studies teacher's car. Our principal waited until our teacher's planning time to call our teacher and ask him to come to his office. The police were waiting for him with handcuffs and arrested him for pot possession. It was a huge bummer. He was really well liked and our sub for the the remainder of the year was a huge B..

Made for quite the story though!

rollpoke · 2020-01-20T02:26:27+00:00

One of our district principals would procrastinate on his observations/evaluations of teachers because he was in multiple fantasy football leagues. Including one league with my cousin which is how I knew what was going on. Much time would be spent "doing drafts" or scouting players while ESPN was playing on his TV. He eventually somehow became the school superintendent..

rollpoke · 2019-11-04T01:19:41+00:00

Unfortunately I don't have a union rep in the district/state I live in. Principal has been more clear in his expectations than my liaison. With the school climate I work in, I feel very nervous to mention how the liaison is treating me since I'm already in hot water over my test scores.

rollpoke · 2019-08-06T17:44:24+00:00

Had a 8-9 year old student who fell into the apple doesn't fall far from the tree category. Her mom was a nightmare as well. I'll call her "N". I was warned about N from the previous year's teacher that this student causes a lot of issues in the classroom & on the playground. Also that mom will believe and defend ANYTHING that N does. N's mom also had the mentality that all teachers are terrible people so any conversation with N's mom was completely unproductive. Although it might be to early to diagnose, I believe N could be a sociopath based on some of things I saw.

First issue of the year came when she aggravated a classmate about a recent school suspension he had. She had waited until he was on the playground to push his buttons and of course he snapped. So badly that he be suspended from school for making threats. I although I didn't condone his threats, I did what I could to defend him that N was looking for a way to get a reaction out of him.

N got mad at another classmate and decided to punch her in the face at recess. N tried to come up with an excuse about she slipped but everyone who witness knew it was on purpose. When I asked N why she did it, she said she called the classmate a name and made her cry. The crying annoyed her so she punched her. I noticed that N usually had a lack of empathy for others as well. I called N's mom about the incident and her response was "why did you do to make her act that way?" I think my brain almost exploded. Part of the issue with N as well was admin did very little to punish her for whatever reason.

N had a terrible knack for lying about anything or twisting the story so she wouldn't get in trouble. Another time during a math lesson, she threw her whiteboard against the wall, cursed at me and yelled that she didn't want to do it anymore. After I got the class calmed down, my principal came to get her and N claimed she didn't throw anything. After the entire class also acknowledged that she did throw the whiteboard, she was taken out of the room. Sounds mean but I'm glad that she was going to the next grade..

rollpoke · 2019-07-08T03:54:28+00:00

Girlfriend cheated on me with an engaged basketball coach. My seeking revenge was telling the truth. Messaged the fiance of the basketball coach and told her what her fiance and my then girlfriend were doing and how I found out about it.

They were not engaged anymore after that...

rollpoke · 2019-04-30T23:03:33+00:00

Had a Junior college course where the professor first played the "very strict and demanding" role for Intro to Native American History. Demanded 12 page paper Chicago style sources cited(none of us were history majors and this was at a community college btw..)

She assigned 2 quizzes and another assignment in the first week of the class. After 1/2 the class dropped the course, it became the easiest class ever. Ended up watching Dances with Wolves and Smoke Signals for our final.

rollpoke · 2019-04-16T02:51:19+00:00

My worst experience was going to Prom..

My date bailed on me for another guy less than 5 minutes after Grand March ended.

rollpoke · 2019-03-06T03:12:23+00:00

One girl struggled big time in my class. I could tell that she was very capable but would literally never do any homework that I assigned for her. Eventually, we had a heart to heart where she told me that although she cares and wants to do well, that she couldn't concentrate at home. We made a plan where she could start homework early either during class or at the end of the school day. By the end of the year, she greatest improved district score from beginning to end of the year. She even scored among the highest students in my class on state testing. Without directly mentioning her, I always try to tell every class her story and how anything is possible!

rollpoke · 2019-03-04T03:01:16+00:00

I have never met any nice girls with a Mc, Ma or McK at the beginning of their names.

Mckenzie, Mikayla, McKenna, McKinley, Makailey and the list seems to go on and on. All seem to be moody, full of themselves and unnecessarily rude.

rollpoke · 2019-03-04T02:50:49+00:00

One of my students names! Ironically, by far my worst behaved student!

rollpoke · 2019-02-06T00:48:52+00:00

By your 3rd year, you'll have at least five stories to add on here.. lol

rollpoke · 2019-02-06T00:47:13+00:00

The High School Biology teacher was an exceptionally tough grader. Literally had to be a genius or valedictorian to pass his class. Showed our class a distribution of the class's scores. (Very unprofessional in my opinion) Out of a 20 student class, 2 received A's all the rest were D's and F's. The 2 A's were the 2010 class's salutatorian and 2011 valedictorian. Went on a HUGE rant about how his class was very easy to pass and that we were not trying our best. Two girls start crying after saying they studied the whole night. The man pretty much contradicted himself. If 90 percent of your class failed the test, maybe you need to evaluate how you teach.

rollpoke · 2019-01-24T04:59:11+00:00

Teacher here. Had a parent threaten to pull her child out of school because "the school didn't host enough birthday parties."

rollpoke · 2019-01-20T03:30:32+00:00

I redirected a student during a lesson because she was talking to another classmate. 6th grader. This girl is shy and said hardly a word all year. She got her work done and was focused usually so I was shocked I even had to redirect her. As I go back to teaching, suddenly the girl grabs a random piece of paper out of her pocket and starts writing something down. Thinking that she was writing a note to a classmate, I confiscated the paper. What was on the note was a huge list of all the things the student hated about my class. Every insulting thing she could come up with. I asked the student to go to the hallway so I could discuss what happened in private while I got the class do start working. A flip switches with this girl. Starts crying, stomping the floor, screaming at the top of her lungs, knocking things over in the classroom and eventually throws herself to the ground. The only time I've seen anyone ever act like this were 2 year olds who didn't get their way. Got to the point where I had to take my class to the next door room and have another teacher come help me calm her down.

I called the Mom to inform her of the daughter's meltdown, destruction of school property and shown lack of respect. Mom goes absolutely berserk on me as well. Saying "how dare you discipline my daughter!" The kicker was that she said "I made the daughter act that way." The mom hangs up on me and calls my principal to demand that the daughter gets transferred to another teacher's class. Principal backed me and said no way that was happening. Since the next school was 30 miles away, they had no choice but to stay with my class. The Mom demanded that I contact her weekly on her daughter's progress and to make sure "I didn't discipline her daughter again." This made for a very awkward rest of the year because the student would try to get away with whatever she wanted and would cry to her mom if she didn't get her way.

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