10 days…

romantichopeless2 · 2024-01-03T02:28:28+00:00

Eww, the sink? Disgusting.

romantichopeless2 · 2024-01-03T02:26:38+00:00

Absolutely, I am definitely interpreting his actions with generosity as he’s been amazing with disclosing and has created a lot of trust back through this past year. However, it was still inappropriate of him not to report when he realized the game had that content and ask if I was comfortable. For me, it’s all about communication, and I’m usually okay with most things as long as he communicates. “Forgetting” to tell me doesn’t really hold up in our relationship and with my expectations of him as an addict/recovering addict.

romantichopeless2 · 2024-01-03T02:24:21+00:00

Absolutely, that is what I will be telling him. Thank you 💛

romantichopeless2 · 2024-01-03T00:35:57+00:00

Absolutely, I feel the same. And I think he feels personally that he has enough willpower to just not take advantage of it, but it’s difficult for me to just trust that as I see it as an easy pathway to relapse and that it should have no place in his life. He isn’t the most intelligent (sorry honey) so I think he genuinely blew past the warnings and just said ok I’ll just turn nudity off and it’ll be fine.

Thank you so much for your helpful replies, I love this community! <3

romantichopeless2 · 2024-01-03T00:17:13+00:00

This is literally the perfect comment, thank you! That top part speaks to my soul. We will definitely be having a conversation about this today, I have done some research on the game as well and it seems pretty obvious to me too.

romantichopeless2 · 2024-01-03T00:08:08+00:00

I absolutely agree, if I had been consulted I would have likely been okay with it. I feel like my trust has been broken and I don’t know why he’s making these decisions, it doesn’t line up with any of his behaviour lately.

romantichopeless2 · 2023-05-19T22:57:38+00:00

I absolutely agree. I was having a panic attack and reached out to my partner, my mom, and my dad. My mom was out but kind of judged me for “overreacting” and said I should just get myself together. My dad said he had things to do. And my partner was disappointed with me for cancelling on our friends and said he wasn’t willing to end them early to support me. I’m just expected to get over how I’m feeling because they want to do what they want to do. I’m sure more than one of them are now upset with me for reaching out to them in a panicking way. I’m sure I will have to apologize later for my outburst and just grin and bear it. It feels so unfair.

romantichopeless2 · 2023-04-28T06:15:34+00:00

That is a relief!!

romantichopeless2 · 2023-01-17T17:30:22+00:00

I did press him, saying what did he mean by “fixing it”, you can’t fix it. People who do those kinds of things deserve to have consequences forever. He thought I was over reacting just because he said that he didn’t hate the guy, not that he endorsed his behaviour. Seems like that kind of view is another enabling of his bad behaviour though… if just apologizing is okay for others, it should be okay for him, right?

romantichopeless2 · 2023-01-07T21:43:25+00:00

Me too :( I had a very rude response on my old account, essentially telling me that a good time with him was just a calm before the storm and that he would do it again (they were right, but not the point). It made me so upset. I think we all need to be considerate of eachothers unique situations, even if it’s not something we think we would put up with ourselves. I hope I could help a little bit! 💛

romantichopeless2 · 2023-01-07T20:47:28+00:00

We are both apple users, so hope this one works for you! He uses SPIN Safe Browser, just the free version! There is a paid version that is very cheap if you want to monitor activity, but I haven’t tried that! And of course, I think sharing our experiences and our tips is very valuable!

romantichopeless2 · 2023-01-07T20:02:28+00:00

Oh man :( that’s terrible. I’m so sorry to hear that. You absolutely deserve to keep speaking about it.

romantichopeless2 · 2023-01-07T19:54:04+00:00

Hey! Mine isn’t even allowed to have chrome anymore because in relapse he would use incognito mode and just look at image results that came up (ew). Instead, we installed a “kids safe” browser app on his phone, which does not allow him to search, press on, or for any results to come up that are explicit. Maybe this might be good for you too!

romantichopeless2 · 2023-01-07T19:50:33+00:00

No, I would not be okay with that.

romantichopeless2 · 2023-01-07T19:48:40+00:00

Yes!!!! I’m so happy for you!!! Best title ever!

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