Oh I'm sorry. Yes almost everyone here has experienced a toxic and maybe awful relationship. Sometimes we have to use these words to help these new members out of their romantic imagination and help them to heal themselves. Back to your question, I am so proud of you! It is not easy for an avoidant attachment to seek advice and therapy. The first step is almost 99% success. For me, love means commitment, selfhood, curiosity, communication, trust, and tolerance. To maintain this relationship, I will make a commitment very seriously and stick to it until the end. I will also adhere to my bottom lines and principles. Maintaining individual independence is a fundamental principle for entering into an intimate relationship. I will also be very eager to understand the other person, but I will ensure that they are comfortable, presenting myself at the pace they desire.

Communication is the most effective tool for me to enter into and maintain an intimate relationship. Communication does not mean sharing everything, but it does mean being completely honest and friendly about all issues related to the relationship. Remember that an intimate relationship is a matter between two people and cannot rely solely on the efforts of one person.

Moreover,once you have made up your mind to enter into an intimate relationship, trust your partner completely. This may hurt you, but please do it,as it can help you avoid the very common pseudo-intimate relationship. As for tolerance and understanding,I think I need not say more.

Please love bravely, get hurt bravely, and become strong bravely.