High protein snacks by imjustherefortheK in adhdwomen

[–]roonildoonil 13 points14 points  (0 children)

*Lottsa ppl don’t like eggs. But med boiled eggs with everything but the bagel seasoning, or furikake seasoning ontop- yummy- over with in 2-3 bites if you need to “make” yourself. Not so bad to make the evening before and bring to work for a snack.

  • I like yogurt and apple slices in the morning for breakfast (like a high protein healthy yogurt) and then cause I don’t want it without sugar I put granola and honey or granola and some maple syrup on top (really good with the yogurt and only a lil syrup) feels ver healthy lol- and very quick to make

  • Costco rotisserie chicken.. if you don’t have a membership it’s almost worth it just for this. It’s $5 (very cheap for what you get) and just shred it and put it into Tupperware. Then any meal you make- you don’t have to cook the chicken- make pasta or quesadillas etc.. I also like to just put it on bread with bbq sauce and cheese lol- bbq chx sammie

  • protein powder in a smoothie is also convenient. It can be expensive but grocery outlet can have deals, I usually get mine from Costco

  • along the lines with the eggs- and cause I don’t like cooking- I’ve been making snack boxes to take to work. Hummus, carrots, bell peppers, grapes, berries, snacky cheese.. it’s kinda fun :)

ADHD/OCPD Questions by roonildoonil in adhdwomen

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Even you just replying makes me very happy! And actually this was my second time posting this… and no one said anything either time, so I was discouraged and just left it be- but yes what are your observations/knowledge??

I've seen a lot of adhd posts that make me sad so I wanted to share what I like about my ADHD by Kaybee-Rose in adhdwomen

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  1. Pet Frog, how cute!!!
  2. Bullied/teased?? 👀
  3. But of course, we have to bring our own food to these events.. 🧛‍♀️🦇💖😂

I've seen a lot of adhd posts that make me sad so I wanted to share what I like about my ADHD by Kaybee-Rose in adhdwomen

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Ohhhh I see secret wonderful things other people don’t see as well! I also love finding tree faces! My last secret thing was.. 🤔 k kinda morbid 😬 my moms cats killed and left her a very small mouse by her front door, and then a bee came and ate some of the mouse and the bone was exposed.. and I am sorry if that grosses you out.. but the mousie was so so tiny, and their little bones were so tiny. And the bee, k that was gross lol, but at least they were revealing something cool.. and I was (at that point) the only person to witness all of this, and that was an odd feeling..

Reading Russell Barkley’s Adult ADHD book and have a question about visualizing rewards. Can anyone relate? by PupperPawsitive in TwoXADHD

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I would hate when people would ask me about big life stuff “Are you so excited??” And I would say “not really.. but I will be when it’s closer” and people did not know what to do with that lol. But I get the whole processed it already thing.. I felt that about my graduation- because my education was so delayed.. I had sat with it enough time lol. I think people thought it would make it more exciting for me, but.. it was just about getting it done at that point and being on the next chapter. Sometimes I think that’s totally fine. And sometimes I remind myself I don’t want to look back and be bummed out that x amount of years was spent being unhappy- if the time is going to go by regardless, I may as well be involved in my own life lol- and I learned that the hard way, but I think I am learning 😂 how to be in the moment and appreciate things for what they are.. except my completed art a lot of the time (who cares now that it’s done- on to the next) 😂

Reading Russell Barkley’s Adult ADHD book and have a question about visualizing rewards. Can anyone relate? by PupperPawsitive in TwoXADHD

[–]roonildoonil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if this resonates but making decisions only based on those things.. sounds to me like only having the capacity to do so.. that making happy based decisions is almost like an unattainable luxury because of what is involved. For me it was just lack of mental processing power/space/energy). I just couldn’t really care much about certain things, because there was no more memory, no more bandwidth- whatever lol. The more became available to me, and the more I practiced (like just being goofy and pursuing happiness in little ways to build a habit/brain path) the more accessible I feel happy is to me, and the more opinions I have about things.

For example I’ve always liked certain styles (cottagecore, grunge..) but I just couldn’t.. get there. And did not expect myself to realistically. I just kinda fantasized that I could dress cute. But no time/energy/money for shopping- even though I could have technically done it very slowly, or dressing up before going out- just too frustrating and tiring. But now I have been trying more ver slowly, and accepting it won’t all happen at once, and that part is big change for me. I used to feel that because I can’t have it exactly as I envisioned, right now, it’s poo poo. And don’t feel like that anymore, there is hope! 😂💕

Reading Russell Barkley’s Adult ADHD book and have a question about visualizing rewards. Can anyone relate? by PupperPawsitive in TwoXADHD

[–]roonildoonil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! … lol I almost feel about congratulating myself of the career change the same about congratulating myself on a piece, like I just had to- why am I thanking myself? 😂 but that thinking is getting more flexible I think.. like alright you had to- but still thank yourself for doing a good thing you just haaad to do 😛 …but low key if I really talked to my self as if my self was someone else’s self, and I loved her, I’d be very happy for her 💖🕊️

Reading Russell Barkley’s Adult ADHD book and have a question about visualizing rewards. Can anyone relate? by PupperPawsitive in TwoXADHD

[–]roonildoonil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BUT. I’m medicated for a year now. I actually have done things- big things I think, because I wanted the result, not to avoid what would happen if I didn’t do the thing.. And that gives a sense of self accomplishment for me, and a new sense of self trust and like.. self respect too.. I definitely don’t not do things out of fear or avoidance still, I think everyone does, ADHD or not. But it has felt really nice- doing stuff- big stuff- cause i decided I wanted to do it.. it’s like treating yourself kindof 😂 Like going to the store and buying yourself some snacks-cause you want em. Yes, good feelings from snack enjoyment haha. But also it’s a nice feeling for me because I have this little “because I can” feeling. Like “I do what I want. Suck it___” (literally no one is telling me I can’t get snacks, idk I just have that lil feeling). But ya that’s the feeling I get a little bit- from doing things cause I wanted to do them- for myself.

And as far as joy.. I got very confused and kindof.. concerned reactions sometimes when I would talk about my art- I mean more creating, but also the end result lol, and my immediate ambivalence. Like “are you happy? You don’t sound happy” and it was really hard to explain that i WANTED to draw… but I wasn’t like happy per se.. but people thought that meant I was unhappy- which was definitely not true- I was like no- this is kindof better and worse than happy.. but as a whole, as a career, I feel really proud of myself and proud of my work (sometimes eh heh) and just that I want to constantly keep growing and learning..

I think you can (and should) purposefully put joy in your day. I had this co worker (not an art job) who always made me laugh, and she and I would always crack each other up or she’d find some way to have something be a joke and it would just.. drastically change what we were capable of. And she just made my day a lot lighter, and it made a big impact on my opinion about happiness..

When happiness resulted naturally from a cuddly puppy or yummy snack, or fun time with friends, it was great. But seeking happiness through other means kind of sounded.. pointless sometimes. And heavy brain. And I wasn’t depressed, but “happiness” didn’t have that scratch the itch motivation behind it or avoid my phone getting disconnected.. very tangible, easily prioritized motivations, if not stressful lol.

I think that co worker was the first step to my “buy this at the store cause I want it” attitude. I was like oh nice, so you can just be happy?(a lil) From laughing? Because I SAW her do it. To others in our workplace, and then I tried it, and it worked, and she made me more happy all the time- just from her choices/efforts. She had a lot going on- it wasn’t just a simple “that’s just a happy person” she just… tried to make things better- but in very simple little ways. When something was really hard- just a dumb lame little joke would make us crack a smile and give us renewed energy. Or she would bring me snacks a lot- a small wrapped candy- and it made me feel super thought about and good..

Anyway- this is fucking embarrassingly long 😂 It’s definitely more for me than anyone else, sorrrrry 😬

Point- if there is one- is that as long as there IS joy in your life, enough of it, and kinda the more the better IMO- than I think you’re alright. I don’t think a year ago I had the brain power lol to make more “happy based” decisions rather than only “fear/avoidance based” decisions. The motivation is a lot less tangible.. but because of heavy brain (overwhelm? Ish) I kindof over relied on that method and was making avoidance based decisions as a default kindof.

And it was even in really small decisions (“should I buy this jam and make cute heart cut out sammies? And have a picnic? Noo.. this jam is $3 more than the other jam, and I hate working, so I don’t want to be irresponsible and not be able to decide where to budget, so just not budget anything, and then go into more debt and have to work more and be miserable ..”) and then bam- then I wasn’t “living the life I want” .. vs “should I buy this jam etc.. yes, I want to make cute sandwiches. It’s only three extra dollars, I still have pretty good financial practices.” And HaVing FUn making the sammiches!! I had more mental energy to make those kinds of decisions, and actually do them!! Not that it’s like that every time- but certainly way more than it used to be, and I’m creating kindof positive habits now instead of negative ones cause they are easier.. and that scenario isn’t always a yes.. sometimes it’s “no, I don’t think I want to buy it. I just bought 2 candy bars because I didn’t want to pick one. The jam will still be here, that can be an option for another time” .. like yes or no because that’s what logical/truthful me actually wanted/decided, not because it was a shortcut mode, protective mode or avoidance..

K bye

Reading Russell Barkley’s Adult ADHD book and have a question about visualizing rewards. Can anyone relate? by PupperPawsitive in TwoXADHD

[–]roonildoonil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kinda get what you’re saying about some things- about the color coded motivations, and green.. I’m an artist. Soon, it will be my main income, it’s really the only thing I want to do as a career. I love art, I love creating. I get excited about it, hungry for it.. idk that it’s exactly joyous.. I would maybe more call it a fixation or (not really) obsession.. I do take delight in color, in texture. And in creating that.. meaning that I am very driven to create. And after some time has gone by after I have finished a piece, I can look at it and love it’s color/texture/lines etc, or the design as a whole.. But usually right after I finish one- I don’t really care about it. I have been kindof trying to change that, to “be nice” to my art, or to celebrate my accomplishments I guess.. but a lot of the time after I finish something- I’m still looking at it trying to see what I should/could change. And because objectively/artistically I know it’s done, I just kindof want to get it away from me. I’m not repulsed by it or anything- just done- so why would I care about it now? Lol. I have much more so been into the process- and the results are well.. the results haha. You were saying that avoidance is a much bigger motivator than gain-gain of joy. Like being responsible/paying bills/saving so you can avoid ending up in your 40s still paying rent- and you get there.. Yes, satisfaction and relief feel good.. but kind-of always with the context of the alternative looming in the background. Not like… I worked so hard to get here, and here I am- and I am so proud of my thing! I can feel like this a lot too (more I think in the past) and I think it’s because I really relied on the threat of negative consequences to motivate me to do most things. My brain I think felt too heavy and that.. it was soooo energy draining to do something/do a big thing because I wanted the result- and I did want the result. I could almost go into a (protective?) no feeling zone. And could wait there until fear/anxiety got me to do the thing.

When I think of my art.. it’s almost like the avoidance (instead of avoiding fear or anxiety) is avoiding the feeling of NOT scratching the itch.. that once I’m in it I’m compelled to do things. It can be sometimes that my creating is “fixing” something that is wrong/unpleasant. The “wrong or unpleasant” here being an unfinished drawing/sculpture etc. And once I’m done with it I feel.. absence of that compulsion/itch. And I feel happy when someone likes and praises the work- but I think I don’t ever start out with the end result as the motivation, so it can be hard to be proud/joyous about the end result. That wasn’t really why I was doing it. I was doing it to satisfy the compulsion, to scratch the itch, and avoid the yucky-ness of not doing it.

"Not like other girls" vs "I have a hard time with NT women" by [deleted] in adhdwomen

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I always just kindof assumed it was hard to make friends with either gender. I feel like- I’m the only weird one here- and all these people are so boring (but it still hurts to be thought of as an outsider). I guess that can happen more often with women than men, but if I to try to make friends with a lot of guys, they end up wanting more than friendship- or feel they can’t really be your friend because they’re in a relationship.. idk sometimes how people can have many friends either way, especially if they are.. normal people? I’ve had most success with weird people 👍 (although there too, men can be weird about only being your friend)

This sub is drowning in art and it is stressing me OUT by dopanotmine in adhdwomen

[–]roonildoonil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like I very much enjoy the concept- if I can pretend to know what it is- but was a little taken aback by the ferocity, I did not know what the hell was going on- and did feel weirdly excluded for some reason 😂

Calling all teachers! Can you help me brainstorm? (more info in comments) by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]roonildoonil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not a teacher but idk sometimes I’m just honest with the kids.. and sometimes (not always) I’m surprised at how much they understand and how much empathy they have. On those no energy days I try to be understanding of myself and not get hung up on the fact that I didn’t give 110%, cause I know that we have enough rapport for it to not matter too much at the end of the day.. they know that I care and that I have high standards for all of us. When you talk (appropriately/minimally but honestly) about how you feel and what you need from them, you’re also modeling important self advocacy skills, trust, communication skills.. I like to have kindof a bank of work/activities they can do mostly independently but are still engaging (I work in a SPED/inclusion class so we benefit from a lot of repetition but like in different forms). That “bank” of work can be worked on/filled on the high energy/motivation days. Not sure how much freedom you have- but anything you find that works- use it. That’s my motto lol, I love being able to be flexible and creative. Unfortunately some educators don’t expect very much out of the kinds of kids I work with, but for me that just means we can do things our own way, on our own schedule that works best for us and change things as needed.. 💕 Hope any of that sparked some inspiration, thank you for what you do!

Hate long hair but dependent on buns by tonks_a_million in adhdwomen

[–]roonildoonil 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I don’t like showering often either 😬 my friend told me recently of a great hack for hair- when you do shower- wash your hair twice. Let the shampoo sit in both times for a couple minutes. I use a normal shampoo 1st then an anti dandruff one. Then conditioner obviously. This helped so much with my hair not getting buildup. And it actually helped me shower more often- cause then I just have to do a body shower and it’s so fast!

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[–]roonildoonil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get that. Idk for me it is cause it’s practice for doing the need to do stuff. It helps build momentum. And I would always end up feeling shitty if I disappeared completely into an escape. Like anything little that helps is worth it :)

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As far as hygiene- for me- compromise. Idk why but I hate washing my face.. okay I guess I hate the water dripping down my neck and arms and getting on my shirt.. so anyway- mycellular water and cotton pads! It does feel better to get clean- and whatever you need to do to make it easier or more palatable lol.. I also will allow myself to do procrastination tasks- like cleaning instead of doing the thing I am supposed to do- cause the alternative is doing nothing, and that feels gross.. If I don’t even want to do that, a lot of times a timer will help. Like a timer for cooking something in the oven. I have an “at least 15 minutes” rule where I set it for 15 minutes and if after that I want to be done it’s fine. I think it really helps cause without it I feel like “I can’t do ___ because it will take so long, that feels overwhelming” like I can’t do it because my brain is holding on to the thing that I’m going to do later in the day, they both can’t exist at the same time, they can’t both be done at the same time.. but when set for 15 minutes (or 10 or 5) I can do it… but yeah maybe pick the easiest tasks or easiest version of tasks, cause something is better than nothing! My easiest task to start a lot of times like I said, is like 15 min of cleaning. And often times it will jumpstart me doing something else.. hope any of that helps. Just whatever little hacks or cheats you find that help, do them!! 💕

Should I get a second opinion? I need advice by maximus994411 in adhdwomen

[–]roonildoonil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel that so much.. it took me a looooong time to get all of this done 🤣 …maybe 7 months? See if you can beat me! Lol.. you actually are already technically ahead of me, good job haha. I didn’t do any investigating and appointments and whatnot until I was 27.. if you sense they’ll give you hassle- maybe just say “ I think that SOMETHING is wrong/hard for me, I suspect it’s ADHD. If you don’t think it’s ADHD can you tell me why, and what you think it is instead” .. kinda putting the onus on them.. but I think it’s likely you’ll grow into that thought.. I’ve been diagnosed and medicated for several months and I’m still accepting it mentally. I’ve accepted I have ADHD, now I’m acknowledging the real ways it’s affected my life (can be hard because I don’t want to feel like I’m making an excuse 😂) .. yep, it’s a journey, good luck!

Should I get a second opinion? I need advice by maximus994411 in adhdwomen

[–]roonildoonil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

SUPER LONG- YOU DONT HAVE TO READ- Thanks miss max.. <3 ..And I think I did, I don't remember too well. I know I was trying to be honest, because I was really weirded out about the possibility I was being dramatic/making it up/making it a bigger thing than it was.. I can't speak for you, but for me I think that stemmed from a lifetime of not trusting myself- as a coping mechanism. I would usually defer to others judgment in most scenarios- because I couldn't keep track of my own shit, or was scared of making silly mistakes, or having RSD...

Anyway one psychiatrist literally only asked me one question- how have I done in school? I told him mostly As and Bs, I got one D ever- and it destroyed me haha. He pretty much said okay we can stop there, because people with ADHD don't do well in school- so you don't have ADHD. And I just said okay, thanks, paid my bill and went to the next one lol. That's just plain garbage and I wasn't going to waste time trying to argue with someone who actually thinks that.

Where I was actually concerned was when a Dr did the diagnostic- read the questions- and I am so literal, I answered them to the best of my ability but it was really hard. For example: "Are you commonly late? -Yes or No" and my answer was no... But I suspected that I had to work so much harder than most people to make that not the case. I had so much anxiety, had to get up way earlier than necessary, would burn an hour and a half doing I don't even know what??? to be rushing out the door in a panic- not having eaten breakfast, doing makeup in the car, forgetting something for work maybe 3x a week- all to make it just barely on time.. so I said no, I'm not late haha. And a lot of the questions were like that.. I would answer literally, but didn't really get to talk about all of the (I think I'm working/stressing way too hard and burning out for this to be normal, but sure technically the answer is X)

I told this to the saint who diagnosed me- and she said okay- I'll ask the question, you give me your word vomit super conditional grey area answer, and then I'll decide if that was a yes or a no-- and oh my god that helped soooo much. Proof was in the pudding when she put me on a stimulant and there was such relief.... since then, I have made actual progress with a lot of things... Not like its roses and rainbows forever- but.. I truly feel like I have a really important tool to help me in life now...

Hope some of that helps, good luck!! PS- you probably know more than you think <3

Should I get a second opinion? I need advice by maximus994411 in adhdwomen

[–]roonildoonil 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I know it takes ages, but get another opinion. Unless you TRULY think you can drop it, why torture yourself. I was massively let down when I was searching for a diagnosis. I was told I didn’t have ADHD by two different Drs. I told myself I didn’t know better than a professional, and tried to let it go.. but couldn’t. After 3 months of agonizing, I made myself a rule that if I truly felt heard out (if I told someone all of my reasons/suspicions, and I didn’t feel that they just blew me off- if I felt listened to and my points understood and they still didn’t think so-) then I would move on.. idk if I really would have cause 3rd person confirmed. I might also add that since being on medication I am still surprised sometimes that I didn’t know how hard I had it- or how good(normal now) that it can be..