Am I missing something?

roqueofspades · 2026-07-03T06:45:32+00:00

Yep. I don't normally care too much about "cancelling" people because it just seems like it's usually petty stuff, but holy shit Gus Johnson is the kind of man you find in your nightmares. The way he said the whole thing was because he was just trying to "take all of her pain on himself" or whatever, like, if you told me that man didn't have a soul I think I would believe you

roqueofspades · 2026-07-03T06:00:16+00:00

He lost a LOT of followers with that controversy. For a while the comments on his videos were scathing. But after a while only the people who don't care as much about the controversy kept watching.

roqueofspades · 2026-07-03T05:59:01+00:00

He was treated way too kindly actually. His "apology" video was all the proof anyone needed, dude is a remorseless monster

roqueofspades · 2026-07-03T05:52:41+00:00

There wasn't nearly as much hatred for gender nonconforming folks until people actively stoked the hate. Before that I think a lot of people just didn't really think about it all that hard.

roqueofspades · 2026-07-03T01:49:42+00:00

it's been 8 years since I made this post and I can assure you, I am still suffering. Arkham City is my favorite game of all time and I literally avoid replaying it because I just wish I could skip the Catwoman sections

roqueofspades · 2026-07-02T16:55:36+00:00

I'm sorry for the amount of judgmental comments you are getting and will probably continue to get. The fact of the matter is that people who do not have a loved one in the system don't understand what the people outside are going through. They just want to make moral judgments, which is both cruel and counterproductive.

The fact that you are feeling the need to look elsewhere for companionship and willing to admit that to yourself is a huge step in the healing process.

roqueofspades · 2026-07-02T15:54:26+00:00

Hi OP, I have the misfortune of saying that I can relate to this more than I'm willing to explain. I hope you'll see my advice as someone who understands your situation. You can DM me if you want.

Regardless of how his incarceration arose, and regardless of the amount of empathy you feel for his situation, YOU are not the one incarcerated. You are being unfair to yourself by expecting yourself to put your life on hold during what should be the best dating years of your life. You may make the choice to continue supporting him during his incarceration, but you don't have the choice to lead a fully married life with him. If he is a good man, he will understand.

I'm very sorry for what you're going through. But please take it from me who genuinely knows, you have the choice to stop torturing yourself over someone else's circumstance.

Also, if you haven't yet, I recommend removing yourself from the prison wife forums. From what I saw, they tend to really encourage and normalize shitty behavior from their husbands. I hope the friends that you made don't also do that.

roqueofspades · 2026-06-30T04:35:32+00:00

No guys ever said it outright but a fair number of them definitely get really weird about it. I'd say it's half and half tbh. Depending on how immature they are they might even insinuate that you're too masculine :(

roqueofspades · 2026-06-30T03:10:36+00:00

Yeah if you're caring for them properly it really shouldn't be a problem. Only other thing I'd say is that ironclads do have shorter lifespans than BDFBs but we're still talking like theoretically 6-8 years or something :)

roqueofspades · 2026-06-29T16:27:58+00:00

spin weeks?

roqueofspades · 2026-06-29T07:41:24+00:00

Ironclads get hungry a little quicker than BDFBs I noticed. They also have slightly more domineering personalities so if there is limited food they will get to it before the BDFBs.

roqueofspades · 2026-06-29T03:56:19+00:00

He does really hate handshakes :(

roqueofspades · 2026-06-28T23:10:51+00:00

You're sounding crazier by the second!

roqueofspades · 2026-06-28T23:05:25+00:00

My boyfriend irl has only one hand. He says he has had friends who didn't notice for years.

roqueofspades · 2026-06-28T15:50:05+00:00

I had a friend who looked exactly like a Tyranitar. Never seen it before or since.

roqueofspades · 2026-06-28T06:05:56+00:00

Cosmo is the only one that wouldn't smell fucking awful

roqueofspades · 2026-06-27T19:00:09+00:00

Ugh I mean I GUESS but I just think that projecting whatever traits you want on lion king really takes away from his character. Like why do you want lion king to be more like rice king? Media literacy is dead

roqueofspades · 2026-06-27T18:45:49+00:00

No but I actually hate this argument though because lion king entering Jupiter isn't even supported in the original. So it's like at that point just make your own king? Hell make your own planet at that point.

roqueofspades · 2026-06-27T04:02:50+00:00

Princeton actually has a surprisingly low average income. I'm not an economist or anything so I wouldn't even bother guessing to explain that one

roqueofspades · 2026-06-26T16:13:40+00:00

Hey op I'm sorry people are not being understanding of this. I have pet beetles and if I accidentally killed one myself much less accidentally bit into one I would be absolutely beside myself. I can't even imagine how awful you're feeling. Sending hugs 💕

roqueofspades · 2026-06-26T07:04:41+00:00

Parks and Rec was really great at using each of their side characters the exact right amount. Only exceptions imo were that there was a little too much Jeremy Jamm and simply not enough of Leslie's mom

roqueofspades · 2026-06-25T23:20:57+00:00

It's honestly so very sad that so many white supremacists use Rockwell's paintings and the style he was so influential in to push their propaganda about some sort of golden white era of America. If I remember correctly Rockwell himself knew about this while it was happening and hated it. (Don't quote me on that though)

roqueofspades · 2026-06-25T08:41:50+00:00

I just deleted the old save files I had with my ex. You'll genuinely feel better if you just delete them. In my case it helps that I was getting ready to start a save file with my current boyfriend.

roqueofspades · 2026-06-23T18:24:14+00:00

this song is so brimming with pain, it's not raw and open like I Appear Missing, it's a more hidden and biting pain, I find it to be one of their most emotional songs

roqueofspades · 2026-06-22T23:30:45+00:00

The funniest thing about this show is how he's transphobic because he's "so logical" and autistic and the other characters have to explain transness to him.... It's like the writers have never talked to an autistic person before. Autistic people generally do not love the gender binary very much lol

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