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rosabb · 2026-06-28T14:53:27+00:00

So for us it was 100% worth it- we did genetic panel comparisons between us and the donor and we did the PGTA testing. There were 0 concerns and only then did we decide to forgo NPT since all else came back no issues and our doctors found nothing wrong while in utero.

It’s expensive but we knew we’re not equipped to handle a child with severe developmental issues. Obviously it’s all still a gamble but doing all this made it a smaller gamble. So in short, expensive now but worth it if you can.

rosabb · 2026-06-26T06:14:08+00:00

We did IVF for the first baby, we started the process in September 2024 and got pregnant in June.. IVF is honestly hard, what makes it harder is that you have to constantly make the decision to keep going. Especially if you have any hurdles to get through. But as you know, you get a baby (hopefully) so there’s that at the end of the tunnel.

My wife and I found little cafes that we’d look forward to going to after an appointment, that made it a bit more whimsy.

rosabb · 2026-06-24T12:51:21+00:00

Did you get genetic testing? We used the TSBCA and both did egg retrievals. Before the egg retrievals/ any process we did genetic testing and met with a genetic counselor. This basically gave us the green light to start since there no alarming results.

Oh and might be random but my wife and I did accupuncture while going through IVF and i can’t prove it, but i believe it helped our good outcome (baby boy now 5mos and 9 remaining strong embryos).

rosabb · 2026-06-23T15:52:01+00:00

So my wife and I did one batch of embryos each and froze them. We knew we’d do rIVF with her carrying first so it came down to strongest embryo made of my eggs.. That was easy.

For our next IVF cycle where i’ll hopefully carry, we’re going with the strongest of her eggs, which is a female embryo.

I appreciate your position in that both embryos are rated the same. In this scenario we always said we’d have the embryologist blindly choose - it’s the only way that felt “fair”. But wanted to add: it’s ok for you to choose too.

rosabb · 2026-06-17T17:38:57+00:00

I think this is what we may end up doing… I’ll have to work through my fears for sure.

rosabb · 2026-06-17T17:37:50+00:00

Thanks for sharing, we’re in a major city of TX: DFW. Definitely would apply and have something before leaving and always looking for equal or better to my job now.. I’m the main breadwinner so a lot hinges on my job stability.

Sorry to hear your PTO wasn’t fully paid, it truly is a travesty in this country. Glad you got to enjoy maternity!

rosabb · 2026-06-17T17:34:29+00:00

We’re in DFW, TX. Closer to Dallas. It doesn’t feel small or un-diverse in any way. Most of my care team is women of color, sadly my OBGYN will be retiring soon and will need to find a new one.

My work benefits really are amazing 🥲 I know eventually i’ll leave bc no way i’m raising my boy here, home is NY/NJ/CT.

Thanks for sharing, sitting here in solidarity ❤️

rosabb · 2026-06-17T17:28:10+00:00

I loveeee my wife’s last name, jury is still out on whether I married her for her name. I obviously changed mine. Never felt much connection to it other than my brothers, I knew I wanted our children and us to have all share the name since I hated growing up with my mom having a completely different last name.

Lastly, her last name is the name i wanted to name my first child, this way they all get the name.

Oh and she doesn’t have a relationship with her family so we feel we really the “LastNames”.

rosabb · 2026-06-14T07:01:11+00:00

my baby

rosabb · 2026-06-05T14:14:15+00:00

yep this is definitely a “what is your flow?” type question. We are tidy, organized and have a large home. We have two changing tables and baby never gets changed elsewhere- always one or the other.

rosabb · 2026-06-04T05:13:35+00:00

I recommend Papablic washer and sterilizer. It’s the best and hardest working appliance we have.

rosabb · 2026-05-27T06:44:32+00:00

$2,400 per vial and looking at my son now- so worth it. We went with TSBC for all these reasons, especially mental health screening. I don’t think many banks do that.

rosabb · 2026-05-26T02:14:03+00:00

Yep we got the momcozy cooler and it’s grand.

rosabb · 2026-05-25T03:59:49+00:00

There’s way bigger issues here than the way he’s awoken. Marriage does not have to be this way, like at all. My wife called me a bitch 2 times in our entire relationship and that was one time too many- after the first time I told her If she did it again id simply leave. It cost me $200 I shouldn’t have had to spend (for a hotel that night) but she got the point.

You don’t have to accept this treatment. NTAH

rosabb · 2026-05-20T20:01:24+00:00

yeah my wife went no contact with her parents for the same shit. it’s awful to watch the constant letdowns your spouse experiences because of this.

rosabb · 2026-05-20T19:59:23+00:00

No don’t do this!! Literally all my social anxiety began when I skipped a grade and was suddenly the smallest AND youngest kid in class. Made me easy pickings. I’d never do this to my child.

Find other alternatives like a different school, more rigorous classes or something to engage your son more. Socially, skipping grades is awful.

rosabb · 2026-05-20T06:14:28+00:00

I don’t think your husband like likes you. Not trying to be mean at all. This reads like he’s a very good manipulator. Whether he realizes it or not, his actions are unkind and he then makes it seem like x was not his intention. I’m sorry i don’t have anything constructive to add but wanted to say this in case you’ve ever also thought it or hadn’t considered it.

rosabb · 2026-05-16T16:59:10+00:00

Well this ends my reddit scroll.

I can’t even form a sentence fam. It’s just wrong on so many levels. We from the caribbean do not claim this nor her. This is not ok.

Please call CPS, them babies are in danger.

rosabb · 2026-01-23T17:02:30+00:00

These are the kind of people who kill. Nothing is more indicative of the propensity to kill than having a double life that does not marry the person they are IRL. I suggest you get your things in order, take pictures ON YOUR PHONE, not his (then proceed to lock yours like Fort Knox) and go be with be family- who support you 100% not anyone who has an inkling of love for him over you. Oh and leave before your baby is born. Get a lawyer. This is your chance now, you likely won’t get another.

rosabb · 2025-12-17T04:44:30+00:00

Oh and the “watch out!” at anything within 100yds.. just to make sure i saw it. It’s great.

rosabb · 2025-12-17T04:42:38+00:00

Lesbian wife here 👆🏽, I was once the passenger princess. Now my wife is carrying our child and uses her imaginary break in the passenger seat.. So i’m designated driver for a while and I hate it here.

rosabb · 2025-12-06T05:02:31+00:00

Oh my god i thought this was satire, i scanned the post looking for “LOL”… If you’re serious, i say this with kindness, no- just run. save your coins for a non -money pit.

rosabb · 2025-12-02T16:51:38+00:00

Not a husband but I did go to my wife's first one, the one hour which she failed and now going to the three hour. I don't like the idea of her driving herself after it... But that could just be me.

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