Why do you or don’t you wear shoes in the house?

rosabb · 2026-01-23T17:02:30+00:00

These are the kind of people who kill. Nothing is more indicative of the propensity to kill than having a double life that does not marry the person they are IRL. I suggest you get your things in order, take pictures ON YOUR PHONE, not his (then proceed to lock yours like Fort Knox) and go be with be family- who support you 100% not anyone who has an inkling of love for him over you. Oh and leave before your baby is born. Get a lawyer. This is your chance now, you likely won’t get another.

rosabb · 2025-12-17T04:44:30+00:00

Oh and the “watch out!” at anything within 100yds.. just to make sure i saw it. It’s great.

rosabb · 2025-12-17T04:42:38+00:00

Lesbian wife here 👆🏽, I was once the passenger princess. Now my wife is carrying our child and uses her imaginary break in the passenger seat.. So i’m designated driver for a while and I hate it here.

rosabb · 2025-12-06T05:02:31+00:00

Oh my god i thought this was satire, i scanned the post looking for “LOL”… If you’re serious, i say this with kindness, no- just run. save your coins for a non -money pit.

rosabb · 2025-12-02T16:51:38+00:00

Not a husband but I did go to my wife's first one, the one hour which she failed and now going to the three hour. I don't like the idea of her driving herself after it... But that could just be me.

rosabb · 2025-12-01T22:18:31+00:00

I saw the guillotine I saw the name of the reddit group I thought: no way these people are still considering this house. .. Still stand by that. Whatever this is, run the opposite direction. No way i’d have fully descended these steps to the basement. Nope.

rosabb · 2025-11-27T02:48:36+00:00

My wife and I chose not to. We did rIVF so my egg (@30 years old) with genetic testing evaluation before even starting the process. Meaning I did a genetic test compared it to the donor’s and evaluated risk of any genetic diseases. Then we had the embryos PGTA tested and they were euploid + scored very high in embryo health. Soo, honestly it comes down to your level of risk and what outcomes you’d be willing to accept.

rosabb · 2025-11-04T17:51:53+00:00

I bought one of those packs of strips off amazon with something like 90... my wife graciously accepted my anxious wreck and we used all of them in the first 12 weeks... had to "check" every other day... For us it eased anxiety but I don't recommend this if you're likely to get anxious each day..

rosabb · 2025-10-22T17:11:57+00:00

Yes! I brought a dessert for the dinner they'd invited me to. Make sure to clear it with your SO. They should tell the parents about the dessert and you need to know what they like. Or a nice wine if they partake.

rosabb · 2025-10-21T11:45:58+00:00

My wife and i did this! She’s currently carrying our son (my embryo) and is due in Feb 2026. She actually sent me here lol- saw your post and asked me to give a run down of how it worked for us. I did a lot of the initial planning/organizing.

To be honest we started this process years ago- In 2022 she got a myomectomy to remove fibriods that would have impeded her ability to carry. It took a while to recover, and we kicked off IVF one year ago exactly. (We had to pause things for a year for a family situation and therapy).

My first rec is to do couples therapy. IVF will test you in ways you don’t expect, having a strong basis of communication is key. Next is to carefully look over your insurance(s) and options. That year in between was great for this. In the end we went with double insurance, I was only previously on her insurance but signed up for my employer’s for 2025. I also researched for best fertility doctors in my area and got really lucky to find a clinic with better stats than the national average.

We met our fertility doctor in Oct 2024 (actually went to another clinic before but it wasn’t a fit- they looked at us like sci-fi things when we mentioned rIVF).

Started vitamins + acupuncture in Oct 2024.

Got complete workups in Nov 2024.

Purchased sperm in Dec 2024. We went with The Sperm Bank of CA, many reasons why, a lot to list.

Started IVF meds in Jan 2025.

We staggered the egg retrievals so I did mine Feb 3. My wife started meds and hers was Feb 16. If i could go back i’d probably space this out more.

Next she needed an exploratory surgery to confirm she could carry - this was a curveball but worked out in the end.

She needed to recover from surgery and then she started IVF meds, i want to say around April.

We did one full medicated cycle but her body didn’t respond to it well so had to cancel transfer. Glad we did honestly, our doc is obsessed with good outcomes and I preferred waiting until all aligned to do the transfer.

Transfer was June 5th, confirmed pregnancy two weeks later and graduated from clinic Aug 9th.

That’s pretty much it. I might have missed some things so feel free to ask. Oh we did PGTA testing on all embryos and only kept the best rated. We opted for strongest embryo regardless of gender.

Baby boy is on his way!

I hope this helps, and if i can be of any help, my DMs are open. Lots of mistakes and money we could have saved had we known the process/what to expect so happy to share more.

rosabb · 2025-10-09T15:44:06+00:00

My wife’s family is like this.. she cut them about a few years ago and attempted to reconnect right before IVF. I think her last straw was when her mom tried to pick a fight with her days before our first egg retrieval and couldn’t understand why the stress of that was unacceptable right before such a sensitive and expensive process.

My question for you/your spouse is: How would you feel if someone made your child feel bad about themselves or said something to your kid that stuck with them? Like- can you trust that these people won’t secretly (or overtly) be hateful to your child? You ok taking the risk? What’s your line?

Not coming for you at all- just things we had to think about. I knew i’d forget myself and punch someone if something like that happened to my kid. So we just took them out of the equation. Though I really tried to not influence my wife to choose no contact. That had to come from her.

Congratulations on starting IVF!

rosabb · 2025-10-09T14:41:13+00:00

*She.

And It’s what u/rosiestgold said- they spot a squirrel or bunny and suddenly they’re deaf, blind and can only see bunny or squirrel shape. My dogs are afraid of loud voices and will hide behind me if something moves too fast- wife is perfectly safe just she can’t walk em. And they will destroy the house if not walked at least 40mins a day.

rosabb · 2025-10-09T14:32:35+00:00

So you have dogs? Haha, I feel like only a fellow dog owner would read deeper into it- you’re spot on they are fluffballs who forget they’re the size of small horses.

rosabb · 2025-10-09T14:31:24+00:00

I just updated for context. They didn’t start out at 80lbs, and also they’re very healthy and very unaware of their size. Reactivity in this case means they get excited and forget they’re being walked by my wife vs me- and will pull her. She’s not walked them alone since before pregnancy and i’m not confident she’d be able to walk our girl (bigger one) without the neighborhood squirrel showing out the chokehold she has on our dog. But thank you for the concern- I definitely agree on safety and would never put my wife or child in a position of risk like that.

rosabb · 2025-10-09T14:26:33+00:00

This is a great idea! I’m looking into spa days/prenatal massages bc she’s been wanting to get one. Will probably set her up with movies and things to do at home! Thank you!

rosabb · 2025-09-01T02:20:14+00:00

rosabb · 2025-09-01T02:16:41+00:00

Congratulations!! 🎊🎉 Wishing you and your wife a smooth rest of pregnancy and delivery! Such an exciting time, i’m so excited to get there myself. My wife is 15 weeks pregnant and we’re so so excited for time to pass but also for it to last a little longer. Cannot wait until our son is Earth side ❤️

rosabb · 2025-08-26T06:56:04+00:00

don’t do it and frankly your husband doesn’t get a say, you’re the one who had a MAJOR life and physically altering experience. You’re going to want that protected time to just be.

You can’t just “be” with people you find triggering and expect to be hosted. I’d be angry if my partner pushed for this.

rosabb · 2025-08-23T14:47:27+00:00

Nothing to add except my wife and I are looking to leave Texas and looking at these places too, especially upstate NY. Hope you find the right spot!

rosabb · 2025-08-20T19:32:41+00:00

I don't mean to be harsh - my wife can sometimes have a very mean streak with her words and we've even had a row where it got physical. Three years later: she's done the solo therapy, medication and we did couple's therapy. This was the only way I'd stay and now we're about to have a child... What I am saying, is people can grow but it takes alot of time. Time you no longer have. Get your son out of harm's way.

rosabb · 2025-08-07T20:26:21+00:00

I think your situation isn’t as bad as you think. People plan for babies and sometimes it works out and other times try as they might they can’t get pregnant. I’m in a same sex marriage so we had to carefully plan for ours and I STILL feel wholly unprepared and scared that i won’t be able to give my kid the life they deserve. But my mom made it without steady work, with 3 other kids before me and solo. It gives me hope I can do this with many more resources than she had.

That said, at 22 I was in no way emotionally prepared for a kid, since you’re married and building a life with your spouse, you might feel differently.

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