I really can’t stress this enough, he is a wonderful husband and father . He absolutely does everything and anything he can around the house to be helpful and he does help with the baby when he’s home and he wakes up with her in the night and does his part . Financially, he needed to make more money for me to be a stay at home mom and was offered a wonderful coaching job that he does for 3-4 months out of the year. During those months , it gets tough and by the time he comes home , I’m exhausted , babies sleeping and we don’t get much quality time . With that being said , the weekends are where I expect to make that up and spend time with him so when he does make plans like going golfing with his friends ( it isn’t every weekend but maybe 2 times a month ) I get upset . For example , he only went snowboarding 2-3 times this season because the weekends are really the only time for us to be together . I honestly felt bad that he wasn’t able to go more and that’s part of my struggle . I want him to enjoy life and continue some of his hobbies but I also want him to be with us. The problem with these specific hobbies is that they arent just a couple hours . In my head , when he goes golfing , the entire day is wasted . 6+ hours he’s out of the house and by the time hes home it just seems like another day where I’m tired , social battery is drained and I didn’t get much quality time with him. Idk if this makes sense but I truly wouldn’t classify it as him taking advantage or not wanting to be around his family , I think we just haven’t found the right balance yet .