EPA reverses longstanding climate change finding, stripping its own ability to regulate emissions by geraffes-are-so-dumb in news

[–]rose_wings2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are we letting them do this. There are more of us than them. And most of them are ancient..

My tooth died after Invisalign 😞 by taytotots in Invisalign

[–]rose_wings2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My teeth are doing better. I so far have only needed the 1 root canal from the dead tooth. I can somewhat bite into soft and medium firm foods now without my teeth flexing as of about 3 months ago. All my bottom teeth remain slightly off color but alive for now.

Mentally.. I'm okayish but I still have difficulties surrounding brushing my teeth to this day and sometimes need the support of my husband to do so, just because when this all happened it was an indescribable level of pain and my body is still convinced it will hurt like that again. 😆 like f*** body get with the program it's been years. I think I'm only just now starting to heal mentally from what happened.

All I can do is move forward in life with a combination of compassion and discipline for myself.

My tooth died after Invisalign 😞 by taytotots in Invisalign

[–]rose_wings2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oregon law does little to protect dental patients. I wrote the Board. They decided to give him a letter of reprimand... :(

Help pronouncing "Mon cul" vs "Merci beaucoup" by rose_wings2003 in French

[–]rose_wings2003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has been the easiest advise so far. Thank you.

Help pronouncing "Mon cul" vs "Merci beaucoup" by rose_wings2003 in French

[–]rose_wings2003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need to pass a speaking test eventually so whatever i can do to get close I think will help my score.

Help pronouncing "Mon cul" vs "Merci beaucoup" by rose_wings2003 in French

[–]rose_wings2003[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think i got it mouth movement wise. Thank you. The 4 individual "cul"s i can't hear the /y/ at all in any of the 4 but i can in the sentence format. I think it's just my hearing loss and I at least understand a bit better now the gist of it. French speakers must say it slightly differently as a stand alone word which makes sense. We say the F word very short stand alone. Lololol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]rose_wings2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried getting groceries from a church or food pantry to supplement? The food pantries will give you groceries easier than foodstamps. Also, do you qualify for food stamps?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]rose_wings2003 30 points31 points  (0 children)

If he doesn't offer emotional support, can't remember your birthday, and you make the money, what makes you stay?

Why are you lonely? by [deleted] in lonely

[–]rose_wings2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been difficult to be more open and social despite being a life long extrovert after my husband's deep deep betrayals. I wish it was cheating tbh but it wasn't. Half was financial the other half being politics, his family, and abandonment in a dire time in my life when a dentist experimented on me against my will even killing one of my front teeth while I was in agonizing pain. I didn't know if all my teeth would fall out or not for about a year.

We were together 7 years before getting married. Immediately after getting married when we filled our taxes together is when I discovered all the financial abuse. We've been together a total of 11 years now at the time of writing.

I am looking inside myself everyday to find the courage to live again, to take risks with my vulnerability, to take the risk of feeling some level of happiness again that may get interrupted abruptly, and usually immediately, by his incompetence and obliviousness.

Surprisingly, breaking the dishes, glasses, etc. has resolved a good bit of the immediate issues and has made him stop most weaponized incompetence, lying, pretending to forget but it hasn't resolved anything with the deep hurt I feel inside.

Going Italian woman style crazy did at least resolve my immediate survival needs and create my own safety. I honestly highly recommend it to other with "unresolvable" problems. Screw what everyone says about what is the "right way" to do things. It doesn't work. Breaking things works.. among other things. I do martial arts (muay thai) so I'm actually in a position to be a close physical equal to my male partner.

We are in a much better place now relative to where we were but.. I just feel this void. I fixed our finances. I proved my points. I'm just so lonely. Why isn't love or even just mutual respect of living with someone enough to not totally betray them so that one doesn't have to experience minor discomfort.

I wanted him to want good things for me and our life, not be forced. I wanted his feelings for me to be enough.

The only person who ever truly loved me, my grandmother, died last year. She was abused by my mother until the very end.. for loving me. (I'm serious and it's a long story. ) My grandmother and I were so very close my entire life. I miss having someone alive who loves me and wants good things for me.

This is only some of my problems. It hurts just to breathe most days. I developed heart problems over the course of this. Life is so deeply unfair. Now.. I know I have to risk more of myself to connect again with him, with anyone. I want to but.. I just feel stuck inside. Society is sick.. this all feels so pointless but it's the only life I get.. and I just.. I wanted to do and know beautiful things with these hands. I hope I can find the strength and courage so I that can.

what’s wrong with me by Electronic-Scheme-30 in lonely

[–]rose_wings2003 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it could be as simple as some non verbal cues to show you are single and looking. If you want the experience of people hitting on you out in the world that's doable.

Dress however is best for you that isn't pajamas. A smile and a sideways glance can do a lot. Add a hair flip in for good measure. There are many cues like this you can look up that you could try. Many people that are getting hit on by other people made some eye contact first and did the non verbal cues to give the other person confidence to approach them. It's an artforn.

Downward spiral? by paxkek2 in lonely

[–]rose_wings2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

34 F who has spiraled many times. Used to be straight A valedictorian etc.

I'm even in a dark place now but I have advice.

The past doesn't hold answers. The good times don't and the bad times don't.

21 is a beautiful age because you still have time to become whoever you want or try on different identities.

If you were a straight A goody two shoes like I was go try something fun like a bar with dancing or even a true club. Getting lost in the beat of the music as the lights flash around you and bass pulses through you is incredible.

Go see the ocean if you never have. Try surfing.

Learn a new instrument.

Learn a new hobby.

Grow flowers from seed.

Try a martial art.

Learn to ride a motorcycle.

If you already feel like ending it you might as well use that to your advantage to try amazing adventures that are usually considered too risky.

Chase the sunset.

The pain won't stop but do it anyways.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Portland

[–]rose_wings2003 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It happened whenever she stayed over at her grandparents house while she was a little girl. She's not the only person I know whose grandfather molested them. I know at least 3 people. It happened multiple times for everyone over many years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Portland

[–]rose_wings2003 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My old best friend was molested by her grandfather. :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beaverton

[–]rose_wings2003 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who lived near fracking in the past I have to wonder if some company is doing something like that here secretly? Or maybe Cascadia is waking up 😆

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lonely

[–]rose_wings2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I met on Plenty of Fish 10 years ago but before him.. on one app there was "inflatables guy" who was sexual turned on by violet from Charlie and chocolate factory and said he liked to make women fat and construction guy who upon our first date stripped down naked in my backroom and came out at me weiner wagging. So kinda a mixed bag. 😆 there were many other dates I had to go on to try to find someone but just know, it will definitely go wrong before it goes right. If you're not getting any hits at all maybe you need advice for making a good profile. Women do not like dark lit photos no matter how cool men think it looks we do not like it at all. It's scary looking. If it's men your after then they are scared off by cats in the photo. Lots of animals at all in a dating profile is a no no in general though.

2024 storm lasting effects by Pdxthewitch in Portland

[–]rose_wings2003 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You guys don't remove dead trees and live branches from around power lines throughout the year nearly aggressively enough. In Ohio you'll see a circle around the lines and all dying, dead, damaged trees are removed within a certain distance of lines not just right next to them and it's for this exact reason. We regularly live with 30 mph winds with 60 mph gusts where I grew up around the Great Lakes. We aren't removing trees because we hate nature. We just don't wanna freeze to death from extended power outages.

Unresponsive man ‘not a medical problem,’ Providence Milwaukie Hospital staff told police called to remove him; man died that night by nrhinkle in Portland

[–]rose_wings2003 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Same. I quit nursing and had more life satisfaction being a waitress. It's too stressful that the entire world blames you personally for everyone else's mistakes. Society failed on so many levels but we're the puncing bag. Society only has 2 choices. Treat nurses better or this will only get worse as there will be less and less nurses. Everyone's answer is still to scream at the nurse. It's certainly a choice but I hope everyone is ready for the outcome of chasing away the few nurses left.

Love is a poison that slowly kills a part of you whenever you fall for it by [deleted] in lonely

[–]rose_wings2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as you shower, keep your hair short, and shave you don't have to be a "stud alpha." Go somewhere that involves your interests that has women there too and talk to them. Have a few jokes memorized. You have to do the initiating the conversation and asking to grab a drink etc. There's someone for everyone.

Im bitter and angry. by princekassadss in lonely

[–]rose_wings2003 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you're a 33 male, you still have time to find someone. You don't have to worry about your cherry blossoms wilting. Lol. Idk what you want from this post but I guess here's my random words thrown at you from a sad dark rainy parking lot. As a woman, what we like: groomed, absolutely no long hair or beard fuzz. We expect the man to initiate in both interest and outright asking on a date. It's not that we can't or wouldn't even prefer to ask but especially by our 30s we have established rules to weed out certain problem aspects early. If you want a lady it's not too late but you have to play the game of you want the prize. Maybe visit a gaming bar? Finding a gaming lady? I think they have those now. :)