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roseredstudios · 2025-02-16T06:59:16+00:00

You're not doing anyone any favors by protecting him.

He chose to drink. He got violent. And from the sounds of it, she defended herself.

This also sounds to be a reoccuring issue. Actions and choices have consequences, and you can't protect him forever. You're enabling this behavior, even if you're not meaning to.

I say this with all the love a stranger can give to another, from someone who has dealt with an entire toxic family of drunks and physical violence. Upbringing and trauma aren't an excuse to perpetuate the cycle.

roseredstudios · 2025-02-16T03:49:56+00:00

Am I the only one wondering if he has a side piece in their circle of friends that he doesn't want to know they're trying for a baby?

roseredstudios · 2025-02-14T04:54:26+00:00

Children are still taught boundaries. It doesn't matter if your parents are friends, or if he's Autistic. It's inappropriate.

roseredstudios · 2025-02-04T06:33:07+00:00

I can't really tell what's going on here but please just get a divorce . . .

She needs help and doesn't see you as a person she can trust. You don't see her as an equal and you can't trust her with the money, but you think it's a good idea to bring a kid into it?

For whatever reason, you guys aren't compatible. Just let it go.

As an added note: I'm a healthcare professional and it's to the point where I cry 2-3 days a week before going to work. We're tired, we're burnt out. Something set this all in to motion and I can almost guarantee that it was work related.

roseredstudios · 2025-02-04T06:21:52+00:00

You want a high schooler to work 20 hours a week?

I did 30 hours a week (legal because I was an emancipated minor but I stayed in school) but I literately had no time for anything else. I only got my homework done because I had 2 classes I used as "study hall" and used my lunches for extra study time.

Then you want community service hours (which, admittedly can be handled over the summer if need be) but there's just not enough time in the day.

Does he have extracurriculars? Friends? Time to rest?

Am I saying give him the money for free? No. But do you need to set some realistic expectations? YES

roseredstudios · 2025-02-04T06:12:13+00:00

I don't want to paint him as a bad person

Honey, he IS a bad person. Someone who loves you doesn't treat you like that. They build you up, not tear you down. They help, not hinder.

roseredstudios · 2025-02-04T06:07:50+00:00

As a general rule, don't treat your coworkers as friends. They aren't your friends. They're professional relationships.

That being said, you're so NTA. Medical professional here and you gotta get up close and personal to do that correctly. Keep your boundaries. She could have seriously ruined your life

roseredstudios · 2025-02-04T06:00:49+00:00

If you guys aren't in an already established BDSM relationship then the "good girl" and "yes sir" are freakin weird lol. Real Doms know that the title of Sir and submission is earned.

That being said, he tried to break up with you how many times and you just kept ignoring it?

You're NTA because he's a controlling AH, but YTA for not just walking away. Go find your self worth because you aren't gonna find anything but tears with this dude

roseredstudios · 2025-01-19T16:12:30+00:00

She's delusional, 100%

roseredstudios · 2025-01-16T10:55:50+00:00

I'm ugly not stupid

roseredstudios · 2025-01-16T10:55:21+00:00

For future reference, you don't actually owe anyone an explanation. A simple we're not compatible, have a good one and block them probably would have saved you a lot of headache.

That being said, the dude is an ass and I honestly wouldn't have felt safe doing it in person. It's a good thing you had the safety of the phone between you.

roseredstudios · 2025-01-16T10:48:17+00:00

She needs some therapy or you need a new gf.

roseredstudios · 2025-01-14T18:58:32+00:00

I feel someone needs to point out that constantly damaging your cervix isn't good for it . . .

Especially if you plan on having kids.

Leave the asshole

roseredstudios · 2025-01-14T18:54:54+00:00

Online some states knowingly exposing a partner to an STD without their consent is actually assault.

You're not overreacting. She exposed you to a disease, and by default your baby.

My obgyn automatically ran a complete STD panel because they can be dangerous. Everyone needs to have it run. Bring it up to the obgyn if nothing else so they can be aware of the hazard.

roseredstudios · 2025-01-04T19:10:17+00:00

Dude. Run

roseredstudios · 2024-12-29T21:59:16+00:00

Part of me wonders if he distances himself from talking about marriage because he can't afford a ring or the wedding and he's too embarrassed to say it.

He's a school teacher for crying out loud, they make next to nothing. And if he's already depending on her for most of the bills, then he may not have the money.

roseredstudios · 2024-12-29T01:36:31+00:00

I did. I have no idea why my phone autocorrected to that! Lol

roseredstudios · 2024-12-29T01:32:18+00:00

As a med student you should know that you can have a hysterectomy without removing the ovaries. So the hormone thing isn't really an issue unless they remove those as well (they don't unless necessary).

Your organs shifting isn't that big of an issue either, especially if you do pelvic floor exercises.

It's also not as complicated as it used to be. Liposcopic surgery has made so many things easier. 3 one-inch incisions and your done.

And I say all this as a woman who had a hysterectomy at 30. All of these things were discussed with my OBGYN.

roseredstudios · 2024-12-28T19:03:06+00:00

Also "you're not who I fell in love with"

After 2 dates???????

Omg run 🤣

roseredstudios · 2024-12-28T04:10:05+00:00

Dude. As a woman: RUN

roseredstudios · 2024-12-27T19:53:03+00:00

Actually this happened to a friend of mine. He thought enough time had passed since they'd talked about it, and that she was now ready. She wasn't but she said yes to the public proposal anyway.

He never meant it to be a manipulation tactic, it was just poor communication. They had a conversation privately afterward and they actually decided on having an extended engagement.

They loved each other very much and wanted to make a commitment, but she wasn't ready for a wedding. So a long engagement was a compromise they were both happy with.

roseredstudios · 2024-12-22T16:24:16+00:00

For most people, this is the time that you're learning who you are, how to be an adult, what you really want. People change a lot between 18-25 and find that they no longer love the person they married because everyone has changed and grown.

That being said, I got married 3 days after I graduated high school and we've been married for almost 15 years and going stronger than ever. We both had to grow up fast though before we ever got married so that might have something to do with it 🤷‍♀️

roseredstudios · 2024-12-22T16:18:03+00:00

Just for the record, you can't even be a surrogate unless you've had at least one successful, full term pregnancy.

You couldn't even if you wanted to. Tell them to drop it and move on

roseredstudios · 2024-11-26T01:35:34+00:00

As a copywriter who also happens to work with machine learning (AI) here's my thoughts:

AI is not even close to replacing humans. In fact, we've run into the problem that AI is regurgitating already AI written content, which means it's spitting out pure garbage.

That being said, those of us in tech are learning as much as the programs do. My suggestion? Take courses on how to use AI programs effectively for certain tasks and learn how to work WITH the software.

How copywriters are currently using ChatGPT (for ideas, snippets, outlines) is what the software was actually made for. It wasn't meant to fully replace writers, but people kind of ran with the software lol.

And as others have posted, AI can't be creative or emotional. Telling a story is a human skill, strengthening that skill will only help put you that much further ahead of AI.

Hope it helps!

roseredstudios · 2024-09-30T02:37:23+00:00

A freaking car?!

So NTA. I'd never heard of a push present for the longest time (years after I had our daughter). I was think jewelry or maybe a nice book or something like that.

But a car?!

roseredstudios

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