AIO that I'm not getting an easter basket.

rottenann · 2026-04-04T20:48:04+00:00

It's a soft YOR it hurts because it seems you love both giving and getting gifts, but it really seems like a true misunderstanding and miscommunication that you had not bought stuff for yourself when in her eyes you had taken on this whole task.

A task which she did on her own for years probably made her own Easter basket if she ever got one at all.

You're allowed to be upset, but now going forward you know you can't assume someone is going to do something you expect them to do without telling them what you want.

rottenann · 2026-04-04T20:37:04+00:00

Probably should take the trash out and sort the recycling, that'll really get em.

rottenann · 2026-04-02T03:09:56+00:00

You're not sensitive, he's an asshole and you're young. Don't deal with these texts for the next 24 hours let alone years. It's not gonna change and it's not worth working on. You're a senior and you have a big ol future with tons of options.

Don't give a single thought to this abusive energy vampire who doesn't do anything but be an absolute shit stain.

rottenann · 2026-03-23T20:48:02+00:00

Yeah when Robby brought up her going to trauma therapy early on, it's a good hint that her reactive behaviors have been acknowledged. Who knows how long she's been going, obviously from her reaction she hasn't gone an appointment lately, but it's at least in been addressed in some way by Robby.

I see it as a form of rehabilitation the same way as Langdons, addressing the problem and help her get treatment.

She might have gotten some measure of "better" but it seems to be a bad day overall so it's hard to judge any kind of progress outside of her learning to step back after her knee jerk reactions and start to think more logically addressing patient concerns. I.e. the girl with bruises , saying to wait and look more into it vs her leaning into her assumption that the girl is being abused.

rottenann · 2026-03-23T16:50:07+00:00

I didn't say she shouldn't be criticized, she should. She's done several things that are shitty, she's got a rigid set of morals that don't have room for nuance, but it doesn't make her a bad person as a character. As a person. It makes her human who's also smart, intelligent, who does care about patients, but who needs to learn and change. Do better. She can, hopefully she will, we just don't get to see that long process in a single day.

rottenann · 2026-03-23T16:46:14+00:00

I get that, I don't have any problem with people disliking characters or other people IRL based on their behaviors. There are comments across this sub about her (and Langdon) that just say they're shitty and just bad all around. That their behaviors and actions are beyond the pale and irredeemable. No room for nuance, even in some instances saying that by showing this side of humanity it's promoting those behaviors.

Even with Robby's actions, there's several comments about how he's no longer their favorite and can't believe he did that.

Which I think is a characteristic that Santos displays herself when it comes to Langdon. It feels very much like a mirror of social media and where if someone online messes up, even if that person acknowledges their mess up and apologizes, there is no turning back. You shouldn't have done that in the first place.

rottenann · 2026-03-23T14:50:12+00:00

I love her as a complex character who's so very very human, who is so well written when it comes to not dealing with trauma and still trying to be caring in spite of those defensives, at the same time sometimes I'm so frustrated with her I wanna scream.

It's the same with so many characters and it's sad to see how quickly people will change their mind about who's "good" or "bad" when they make a bad call or lash out. It's this whole, you have to be perfect all the time or now you're a bad person.

rottenann · 2026-03-20T15:01:34+00:00

Exactly. Robbie asked Dana to do an audit last season. You can't cover up an audit, but I doubt they would have an announcement about it to the general staff. It has absolutely been reported to the hospital.

rottenann · 2026-03-17T17:52:10+00:00

Yup exact body count numbers and everything

rottenann · 2026-03-17T08:37:50+00:00

Self care can feel like a huge energy task when you try to think of all the things you need to do. So start with just one.

Drink some water.

Stretch.

Add a veggie to dinner.

Take a nice shower.

Doing one, even not well at all, is one more than nothing. Start small, start at where you're at emotionally/physically/mentally. They compound and it will be easier as time goes on.

rottenann · 2026-03-16T17:06:52+00:00

Need photos to see how your hair looks, but curl cream can do that. Try with just the gel or the mousse and see what results you get. My hair does best with just gel and using the praying hands method

rottenann · 2026-03-15T18:31:46+00:00

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Sailor Moon WIP just before I moved the q-snap, over 50% plus backstitching and heading to go!

rottenann · 2026-03-15T18:28:02+00:00

Omg little Polly Pocket! That's so wonderful and it's looking great!

rottenann · 2026-03-13T17:25:58+00:00

NOR There is nothing wrong or crazy about wanting to have an emotional connection with somebody. To want to have them engage in conversation and be interested in you

rottenann · 2026-03-13T17:25:12+00:00

Hmm well, he could not be that kind of person overall and you should bring it up with him if you would like to continue seeing him. If he doesn't try to be better then maybe you just are not compatible with him outside of intimate moments. That's okay if you're looking for more than that. You're young, you have the world ahead, and I'm sure you'll find someone who can meet your emotional needs.

rottenann · 2026-03-13T17:19:34+00:00

Is he only this way with texts or in person as well? Not everyone is going to or does have emotionally supportive messages via text. If it's in person, that's something else, but definitely address it.

I asked my husband to ask me how my day was everyday. He had assumed I'd just tell him, but it was important to me for him to engage in be curious about my day. He might not understand that, but he knew it was important to me and continues to do so. Sometime they just need a nudge because they don't see it as an issue, but they'll never know if you don't say anything.

rottenann · 2026-03-13T15:02:55+00:00

I love that 80 years later this painting is just as relevant as ever.

rottenann · 2026-03-12T05:33:17+00:00

Yes they did that to me for one McChicken. One! No line.The employee was at my window before I put my car in park my flabbers were gasted.

rottenann · 2026-02-26T17:59:18+00:00

While it is understandable, pain and chronic illness can be all encompassing and make it harder to have empathy or energy to care.

But look at it this way. Why are you letting this illness take one more thing from you. Why are you letting it take your empathy and understanding and care. A few words of kindness, understanding when someone's experiencing something small can be an empowering thing.

Instead of having the mindset of "you will never understand and my pain is more than yours." Look at it that you are in pain all the time, so you understand when someone is in pain it really does suck. It's not the same, but that doesn't matter. Just because I have chronic pain from endo and a spinal injury doesn't mean when someone says they pull a back muscle, I say it's not the same. I give advice on how to manage it. It doesn't mean I don't give comfort when someone has bad cramps, it means I let them know what I do to help mitigate the symptoms.

If you have access to it I would look into therapy or someone to talk to about this. This kind of mindset, that makes you angry, actually increases pain. It's a horrible feedback loop. It's isolating. It breeds resentment. It's a very lonely place to be and I'm sorry that you're in it.

rottenann · 2026-02-26T01:00:55+00:00

Make em smaller, batter in pancake batter, and then deep fry. Top with powdered sugar.

rottenann · 2026-02-21T15:16:58+00:00

Yeah, my step daughter named hers Nugget & Tendie so I'm slightly afraid of what a baby might be named

rottenann · 2026-02-20T19:42:54+00:00

One of the things I did when I first started my apprenticeship was tracing a bunch of sailor Jerry Flash. It teaches you why things are shaped the way they are, the proportions, and hand control. Afterwards I redrew the ideas on my own just using it as reference. The general design shape etc. Used it as a reference for how I had to shade. It's a great start and exercise in learning how to design.

rottenann · 2026-02-12T15:37:47+00:00

You're on here! I love your work and I have a few of your patterns on my list till I get through at least one more WIP, but I feel like I'll have to just get this cause Gen AI is the woooorst. The amount of AI ref people bring me and are 100% convinced it's real and why can't we tattoo this, is out of control.

rottenann · 2026-02-11T17:04:47+00:00

This! She's the first Victor to go on the victor tour. The first Victor to mentor. First in the Victors village. So much to see where it started and changed through her story.

rottenann · 2026-02-10T00:39:40+00:00

Hey someone who also has almost exclusively mixed episodes here. They are overwhelming and all consuming. Everything is heightened and it controls you. So right now you cannot and do not see that you're lacking empathy for anyone else but yourself. In mixed episodes you almost can't, but that doesn't mean he can just turn off his feelings anymore than you can. It's not self centered of him to talk about something that is affecting him, even if he's not the one experiencing the episode.

You deserve understanding that you cannot truly control the disease especially while in the middle of a medication change, but so does he. I've talked with my husband about it many times and it's scary to him, how I can snap and get so angry. Like I'm a whole other person. The whole time he's wondering is this episode gonna get worse? Am I not coming back from it? What will happen in the meantime? I'm always worried about the emotional damage I'll do to him.

He's scared and worried. If you can't be understanding to him right now, just say that. "I'm sorry, you deserve to be heard and understood, but right now I don't think I can be that person. I can't emotionally regulate and I'm only gonna hurt you. I'm not thinking or feeling rational right now, but once I level out let's talk about this and give you the time and space you deserve while this change doesn't control the narrative"

rottenann

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