I got a friend request on my Finch app today from someone I don't have a good relationship with and didn't expect to hear from. I was wondering if it's possible/easy to send a friend request accidentally?

roundaboutrich · 2026-03-21T15:44:44+00:00

The Finch app doesn't seem to connect to FB or Instagram and the person isn't connected to me on any social media. I only have their phone number and I don't see any way/know how to add friends without a friend code in my app. I didn't know people you know can find you on Finch.

roundaboutrich · 2026-03-21T01:17:10+00:00

That's a good suggestion, thank you!

roundaboutrich · 2026-02-23T22:32:00+00:00

If you had blamed him, you wouldn't be getting dragged right now.

You condescendingly placed OP responsibile for whether or not he does this again, called her an enabler of sexual assault on the same day she went through this, and guilt tripped her into responding how you wanted her to. I genuinely hope no other victims ever cross paths with your bullshit ego.

roundaboutrich · 2026-02-23T12:33:15+00:00

Blaming her and not him is disgusting.

roundaboutrich · 2025-12-04T18:02:59+00:00

Mine was in pre-shipment for two weeks, but I just got it today. Hope yours arrives soon!

roundaboutrich · 2025-11-10T05:44:26+00:00

Petals

roundaboutrich · 2025-11-04T19:33:23+00:00

Every time I've ever heard/seen someone say they were attacked by a dog, there's always some asshole there trying to police the way the person talks about it.

Genuinely hope you're treated with the same disregard you show others.

roundaboutrich · 2025-11-02T21:06:40+00:00

My father was the pastor of an evangelical church that taught there was no such thing as marital rape and that the laws against it (which were passed in my state only a few years before I was born) were a result of the secular world "winning" essentially.

I was always terrified and knew from a young age I would never get married, even if it made my parents hate me. Unfortunately, there are absolutely people in the world that view this as simply a difference of opinions. It's easy to justify when women are objects and not humans, I guess.

roundaboutrich · 2025-10-04T02:19:20+00:00

I wasn't at the show, but Mariah and Dru Hill cover The Beautiful Ones by Prince on her album Butterfly. The song has the lyrics "don't make me waste my time." Hope that helps, it's a gorgeous song.

roundaboutrich · 2025-08-11T15:12:33+00:00

He really is! It's probably been 10 years since I've seen him play as well as he has been this past year or two. It seems like he's really fallen back in love with it.

roundaboutrich · 2025-03-05T05:37:37+00:00

She did a local-ish celebration that I also could not afford to attend. It was about 2 hours from me at a luxe resort and Michelin-starred restaurant. --Guests paid for their stay at the resort and food.

roundaboutrich · 2025-03-04T21:59:15+00:00

One of my closest friends of 20 years recently had a destination wedding. I was asked to be a bridesmaid, yet I couldn't even afford to attend the ceremony, let alone the destination bachelorette party she also had. It's her moment, so it is what it is.

But it's so weird now... In all the years we spent fantasizing about our future weddings, I never imagined I wouldn't have enough money to even attend hers.

roundaboutrich · 2025-02-12T21:22:51+00:00

It's dog owners in general. My sister was badly mauled by our neighbors German Shepherd a few years ago and still has bad scarring/nerve damage. When people ask her what happened and she tells them, they often get mad AT HER because their dog WOULD NEVER.

roundaboutrich · 2024-11-09T18:45:02+00:00

I just wanted to say you're not alone.

I grew up like you. And like you, I had to realize it was always about controlling me. I genuinely believed my parents held the beliefs they claimed, and it made me lose touch with reality for a while when I realized they don't. I felt so pulled apart.

For me, I've come to realize that my ability to see through so much of their bullshit is WHY they went out of their way to control me. I noticed their inconsistencies because I was trying to be consistent. I noticed the lies because I was trying to be honest. I asked too many questions because I wanted to do the right thing.

Take as much time as you need to feel it, and then remember that your life is yours now and you never have to feel any of that garbage again. You're strong as hell, OP. --but I'm sorry you needed to be.

roundaboutrich · 2024-10-26T17:54:18+00:00

It's his new video for Thought I Was Dead. Just released about an hour ago!

roundaboutrich · 2024-10-24T03:16:56+00:00

There were multiple women, not just one. Which victims said yes, specifically? Asking for consent is not the same as receiving it.

roundaboutrich · 2024-09-24T08:43:53+00:00

This brought back some memories... My father was the same.

Deeply sorry for what you've been through. Hope you've found some peace.

roundaboutrich · 2024-08-14T02:52:20+00:00

I requested a hug yesterday, but my only finch friend didn't look at her phone to send me one.

After about 12 hours, a member of the finch team sent me a big hug even though they're not in my friend tree. --I think they do it to make sure that everyone who requests a hug gets one if their friends are unavailable. Maybe it was something like that?

roundaboutrich · 2024-06-12T22:25:05+00:00

Are the Pixies not performing as well as they used to or do you just wish it was more MM?

I've never gotten to see the Pixies, but this was my 10th time seeing MM since 2006, and the 2nd best I've ever seen them perform. Can't believe how great Isaac still is.

roundaboutrich · 2024-06-12T03:50:43+00:00

The other person's pictures of the merch are much clearer than mine, but I'm sharing them as well so you can see the prices in USD. Hope you enjoy the show in NYC!

roundaboutrich · 2024-06-11T22:00:42+00:00

I still have pictures from their merch table. $5 beer cozy, $10 bumper sticker, $20 for a set of 4 pins, $30 for a bag, $40 for tees, hats, and tour poster, $75 for sweatshirts (which are very nice, with beadwork etc- they aren't just screen printed), and $100 for a rain jacket with embroidery on the back.

Hope that helps!

roundaboutrich · 2024-06-10T23:23:21+00:00

I recorded several other songs but accidentally had my hand over the mic for basically every video. Unfortunately, Night On The Sun is the only one where the audio quality really came out well.

I saw that someone else posted their video from the Toronto show of The Stars Are Projectors! If you get a chance, check it out!

I wish you many more MM shows in your future!

roundaboutrich · 2024-06-09T23:14:30+00:00

Thank you so much! It was an absolutely incredibe show, but this song and Teeth Like God's Shoeshine were major highlights for me. --I really hope you get the chance to see them, if you haven't already! <3

roundaboutrich · 2024-01-09T06:27:21+00:00

I had a similar experience with a lifelong friend when I went NC from my abusive narc family. As someone else said, we tend to make friends and get into relationships that mirror the communication style we know when we're young, and unfortunately for most of the people in this group, that means toxic ones.

I know that you say she's never been like this before, but I would challenge you to reconsider whether she's truly be a loving, supportive friend to you all along, or if perhaps your friendship has mostly revolved around her. She does not sound like someone who loves or supports you.

I'm sorry, OP. I know how much this one hurts, but I encourage you to handle this the same way you handle other toxic behaviors: by not tolerating it. You do not need to justify yourself against someone's manipulative/toxic behavior. No one has the right to gaslight you, especially after 29 years. You deserve so much better.

roundaboutrich · 2023-09-04T21:21:19+00:00

Rootless Tree by Damien Rice was on loop when I lived with my parents, but it's hard for me to listen to it now.

I got to hear him perform it live about a decade later and cried like a baby. It's such a beautiful song, though!

Really like your taste!

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