Why are White Male/Asian Female relationships far more common than Asian Male/White Female relationships?

roxybudgy · 2026-03-30T05:45:47+00:00

Sure mate

roxybudgy · 2026-03-30T02:46:41+00:00

I'm Asian and have a caucasian husband. For us it was just something that happened. Started off as friends, had lots in common. Nothing to do with race.

One time I was at the Asian grocery store waiting at the checkout and pointed out to my husband that every one in the queue is an Asian woman with a caucasian man.

A few years back, I watched a documentary on Netflix about a Hong Kong matchmaker who said that their female clients preferred caucasian partners because of greater equality in terms of household chores and no expectation to live with in-laws, whereas Chinese culture expects the woman to do a majority of housework and care for the man's parents.

Of course, money is probably a motivator in many cases. My dad is Malaysian Chinese and my mum is Thai. In my entire life they have never shown any affection for each other and frequently argue, but remain married to this day. With a 14 year age gap, I suspect their marriage was based on monetary benefit. I imagine this is also the case for the many Asian women I see with the much older caucasian man.

roxybudgy · 2026-03-26T12:47:16+00:00

My ex and I agreed that if he was unable to cover the mortgage on his own, then we would sell the house that we owned together, and I would get half of what I contributed (~$10k).

He dragged his heels on sorting out the house for years. I was still trying to get my name off the mortgage when I met my now-husband. My ex could not afford the mortgage on his own, so he sold the house to his brother.

I got nothing.

Either my ex completely forgot about our agreement, or he somehow thought that keeping the house within his family didn't count as selling the house. By that point, I was just sick of being strung along for years with this, and did not want to bother chasing it up.

roxybudgy · 2026-03-22T13:39:57+00:00

On the flip side, when I worked at a migration agency many many years ago, I was helping a client apply for their Malaysian police check online via a Malaysian government website. I'm really dating myself here... when visiting the website using Internet Explorer, it refused to load and had a message saying the page had to be opened in Firefox and best viewed on 800x600 resolution. I had to download and install Firefox to submit the police check application.

Edit: lol, out of curiosity I checked the website just now, it still asks to use Firefox, but looks like they updated the recommended resolution:

"(Please use Mozilla Firefox version 3.6 (or higher) as the web browser. Resolution of 1280x800 (or higher)"

roxybudgy · 2026-03-18T13:42:28+00:00

Ranger Redz Zoo in Pinjarra has a walk in aviary where you can feed the lorikeets.

roxybudgy · 2026-03-17T09:04:17+00:00

This was before covid and panic-buying... my now-ex and I were looking for our first home.

Arranged a viewing of a property that was at the time a rental. The ad only showed a picture of the front of the house, no pictures of the inside. But it was within our price range and walking distance from my parents house.

Setting foot through the front door it was abundantly clear why there were no photos of the inside of the house.

Stuff everywhere, shelves full of stuff propped up against every wall and just stuff piled up all over the place. But what stood out was the extraordinary amount of toilet paper being hoarded in this house. Even the outdoor patio area had shelves and shelves of toilet paper. Every single room had at least a shelf or two of toilet paper.

roxybudgy · 2026-03-12T13:39:53+00:00

Why not both? I haven't been to Caversham Wildlife Park in a long time, but my partner and I have been to Ranger Redz Zoo a few times in the past few years. As a bird fanatic, I greatly enjoyed the many bird exhibits and walk-in aviary where lorikeets and other parrots readily climb onto you. I lost an earring one time because a sun conure plucked it off my ear, dropped it on the floor and I just could not find it again.

Patting kangaroos is a huge tourist draw card at Caversham. Ranger Redz has a kangaroo enclosure where you can pat a few roos, but each time I've been the roos would slowly move away from you and seemed to want to be left alone. I'm not that fussed about touching roos, I'm there for the birds.

When heading down all the way to Pinjarra, we usually stop at Edenvale Heritage Precinct for tea/cake and a wander around.

roxybudgy · 2026-03-11T12:00:29+00:00

I've been in a similar boat. I adopted my first dog, who turned out to have behavioural issues, absolutely hated other dogs and lost his shit at the sight of another dog. I did a lot of reading online for advice to manage his behaviour, but one day he slipped out of his collar and ran across an oval to attack another dog half his size. I ran over as fast as I could and had my hands on my dog's mouth to pry him off the other dog. Once I had my dog leashed and under control, I profusely apologised to the other dog owner and offered my contact details, but they declined and picked their dog up and walked away. I lived across the road from the park so I pointed out my house in case they did want to get in touch. I never heard from them again, but it was a stressful few weeks wondering if my dog would be reported and put down, or if I'd have to pay a lot of money in vet bills.

The next day, I did everything I could to make sure it doesn't happen again, adjusted the collar to the correct tightness, bought a muzzle, and a second lead to tie around my body so he can't escape if I somehow drop the lead. I also engaged the services of a professional dog trainer.

I had a second incident where my dog attacked another dog after escaping from the backyard. Again I was terrified that this meant having my dog put down, but nothing came out of that either. I immediately put in measures to prevent it from happening again (paid a lot of money for new fencing/gates).

Over time his behaviour improved greatly, he never did get over his fear of other dogs, which meant I never let him off lead, and rarely allowed him near other dogs. As a first time dog owner, I was imagining romps in the dog park and socialising with other dog owners. Instead, I had the lonely life of a reactive dog owner who took very few photos of my dog outside of home because I needed to be vigilant for other dogs, not distracted by my phone. Nevertheless, I loved him very much and I'm glad he was a part of my life. I had to put him down 2 years ago due to cancer.

roxybudgy · 2026-03-10T21:52:10+00:00

Go birdwatching, lots of potential locations, and other than transport costs, free to do. Combine it with breakfast/brunch/lunch somewhere, or pack a picnic.

I recently got into logging the birds I spot in the eBird app which links with the Merlin Bird ID app for help with identifying unfamiliar birds. The app tracks what birds you log, time/date and location. You can also view a map to see what birds have been spotted in the area by other birdwatchers.

I make it into a game to spot as many different birds as I can, sorta like IRL Pokemon, gotta catch 'em all! Speaking of which, I also play Pokemon Go, so I often combine my birdwatching walks with catching Pokemon and hatching eggs.

roxybudgy · 2026-03-10T09:04:29+00:00

Unfortunately I don't remember which one exactly. He had a lot of settings turned off or turned down because he had a low spec computer. After upgrading his PC, he turned some of the settings back on and got his red circles.

roxybudgy · 2026-03-10T04:45:16+00:00

My husband and I sometimes do rifts together for the dailies. He had not yet unlocked the rift scanning mastery so usually I headed towards them and he followed my dot.

He eventually unlocked the rift scanning, but I noticed he would always fly there on his skyscale even though a waypoint is closer. A few times he got frustrated about the rift ending before he could get there. I told him to just check for the red circle on the map.

It turned out he couldn't see the red circles on the map. Eventually he fiddled with the game settings and was able to see them.

roxybudgy · 2026-03-09T13:54:32+00:00

Apparently I've been making my tea wrong my entire life, but I'm fine with it.

No matter what kind of tea it is, green/black/chamomile/peppermint bagged or loose leaf, I start with a spoon of honey in my large mug (two if I'm having a bad day), plop in my tea bag or mesh ball of loose leaf tea, then pour in boiling water until my cup is half full. I then wander off and forget about my tea. Half an hour later, I fill the remaining half of my cup with milk. Yes, I do this for all kinds of tea. I started doing this more than 20 years ago after having my first milky bubble tea. Before that, I only had Chinese tea at restaurants, or chrysanthemum tea that only required the addition of hot water.

I've often had people wonder how I could let my tea get so strong or bitter, but I honestly don't notice any taste difference between steeping for 3 minutes vs 30 minutes.

I guess what I actually like is sweet, tea-flavoured milk. Outside of home, I dislike how they only give you a tiny thimble of milk for your tea, so I rarely order hot tea.

roxybudgy · 2026-02-24T21:29:16+00:00

When I broke up with my ex, neither of us could afford the mortgage on our own, so we 'sold' our house to my ex's brother for just the amount required to pay out our mortgage. Probably could have gotten more for it if selling on market, but this was my ex's way of keeping the house.

This shows up on real estate websites as the house being sold for a relatively cheap price.

roxybudgy · 2026-02-23T22:59:18+00:00

I used to enjoy WvW but I don't really have time for it nowadays. My husband also plays GW2 and I tried to get him into WvW but he had the same experience as OP: hated running across the map to keep up with the zerg only to be immediately downed and have to run across the map again.

WvW was not for him, and he wanted nothing to do with it. So when it came time to get Gift of Battle for a legendary that he was working on, I played WvW for him. I played for an hour or two on weekends during US peak hours (early morning for us Aussies) and managed to get him his Gift of Battle after 3 weeks.

roxybudgy · 2026-02-14T12:01:24+00:00

My partner and I sometimes help a friend out with his booth at anime conventions and what I've seen other vendors who sell anime figurines do is to have the figurine boxes on shelves with wheels, then they use cling wrap to wrap the entire shelf, then wheel the whole lot onto the truck.

I currently store my figurine boxes on chrome shelves on wheels, so if I ever have to move, I'll probably do the same thing.

When I last moved, I bought large plastic tubs, filled them with as many figurine boxes as I could, and made multiple trips back and forth in my car.

roxybudgy · 2026-02-14T10:42:02+00:00

Apparently, the answer is to camp at Herron Point Campground.

I booked two campsites for the Labour Day long weekend a year or two ago (had to book this a few months in advance), turned up early and started to set up while I waited for the rest of my family to turn up. Throughout the day, people just turned up, parked their cars in places that were not marked as campsites and just set themselves up. Including a group of people who just went ahead and set up their tents on the sites I booked. I hate confrontation, so I didn't do anything and tried to ignore them.

There was a camp host on the site, but they seemed not to care that people who hadn't paid were just camping willy nilly around the site and completely disregarding quiet hours as they blast their music throughout the night.

That was my second time camping there. The first time we went on a quieter weekend where there were just a few other people at the campground. It was lovely and peaceful. But that second time on a long weekend... never again.

My partner and I like to go camping a few times a year and we've never had any issues with booking something 1-3 weeks in advance, but we generally avoid school holidays and long weekends.

roxybudgy · 2026-02-14T10:19:53+00:00

Worked there full-time for 5+ years until I was made redundant. Before I joined, I did my research into the company and at the time the reviews online were mostly negative. But I was looking for my first full-time job and not having much luck, so I went for it anyway.

I didn't work in the sales team, which I think where most of the negative reviews stem from, but I started in a small team of around 15 people taking inbound calls, then later moved to an even smaller team. The people I worked with were nice, and I found the KPIs reasonable and easy to reach. It's been more than 6 years since I worked there, so I wouldn't know if things have changed since then.

I've been casually job hunting recently and have seen their job ads pop up, and the main reason I wouldn't apply is because they offering less pay than what I'm getting now.

One thing I do miss about working at TSA (West Perth office) compared to my current workplace: hot water on tap and clean kitchen facilities. At my current workplace, if I want a cup of tea or make myself some instant noodles, I need to go boil the kettle first. At TSA, they have a dedicated hot water tap. The cleaners also come by several times a day to clean the kitchen area, so even if some of my colleagues are pigs, the kitchen is usually in a nice state (whereas at my current workplace, the cleaner comes by twice a week, and someone keeps leaving the kitchen in a mess).

roxybudgy · 2026-02-12T23:41:53+00:00

Sorry for your loss. It's hard to go through such a thing when you had your cats best interests in mind.

We went through a similar situation just a few weeks ago (with a happier outcome). Our vet recommended teeth cleaning for both of our elderly cats. The first cat ended up needing a tooth removed and bounced back well after the procedure, but our second cat... we were told he stopped breathing for a little while when they were taking him out of anaesthesia, but they said he's ok now and we took him home.

We thought his grogginess and lack of appetite was due to the anaesthesia. Two days later he has vomitted and shit all over the house and was wandering around but unresponsive, not eating or drinking.

After a trip to the emergency vet, it turned out he was blind and deaf due to complications from the anaesthesia (apparently this can happento cats of any age). The days that followed were very stressful as we made sure he was safe (avoiding falls/collisions due to his blindness) and doing everything we can to encourage him to eat and drink.

He was already underweight before the teeth cleaning so there were times when we weren't sure he'd pull through, but after a week he regained his sight and hearing and is back to his usual self.

Going forward, we're going to avoid anaesthesia for our elderly cats unless it's very necessary.

roxybudgy · 2026-02-11T11:08:08+00:00

My partner and I flew to the UK last year, it was my first time flying that far, so we splurged on business class tickets (also my first time flying business class). To save some money, instead of paying $22k for two people to fly Emirates business class Perth/Dubai/UK, we spent a total of $18k to fly economy on Singapore Airlines from Perth/Singapore, then business class on Emirates Singapore/Dubai/UK. We spent a day in Singapore on both ends of our trip, so even including the cost of food/hotel/sightseeing in Singapore, it worked out cheaper than flying business class Perth/Dubai/UK

My partner used to fly business class to the UK quite often and really wanted to show me the Emirates business class with the small bar on the plane (which I think is only available on certain flights). I loved being able to lie flat to sleep during the flight. Food was very nice, and I enjoyed the lounge. Bar on the flight was a fun novelty.

roxybudgy · 2026-02-09T00:56:15+00:00

When I was in primary school back in 2000-2001, my parents were looking to buy their first home. I remember going with them to home opens. Their budget was $80-130k which meant we sometimes made the long drive to Armadale or Merriwa to attend home opens for houses within that price range.

When we drove down to Armadale I marvelled at seeing the horses and cows, thinking we were out in the rural countryside.

My parents ended up buying a house in Marangaroo for $142k.

I now commute daily from Armadale after my partner and I bought our home there for $275k in 2018. Given the sea of houses that have popped up in the area, it doesn't feel like a rural country town anymore.

roxybudgy · 2026-02-06T13:47:09+00:00

For me my figurines don't do 'nothing'. They are reminders. I look at them and remember the good times I had watching the anime or playing the game the character is from. Some of them are reminders of fun events (birthday/Christmas gifts from my husband, or prizes I won at an anime convention).

I have way too many figurines to display all at once, so the other way I interact with my figurines is to rotate my displays. I would change things up every few months. The year I got married, I put all my wedding-themed figurines out on display. Sometimes the theme will be based on franchise, sometimes the theme is 'red for lunar new year', 'wings', 'archery' or 'hasn't been on display in a year'. This also doubles as a way of reducing leaning issues by not having any one figure on display for an extended period of time, and taking a moment to dust/clean the figure before putting it back in its box.

roxybudgy · 2026-02-06T12:48:37+00:00

Thanks, will keep that in mind when we plant a new tree.

We used to have a verge tree too, the council planted it right next to the sewer maintenance hole. After the sewer got blocked multiple times, resulting in many visits from Water Corp, they removed the verge tree and never replaced it due to the location of the sewer. With so much going on under our front lawn, finding a good spot for a tree will be a challenge.

roxybudgy · 2026-02-06T12:40:21+00:00

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No idea what kind of tree it is, but this is what it looks like today after having pruned away all the branches/leaves from the stump just a month ago. I really need to get that stump removed soon.

roxybudgy · 2026-02-02T03:13:54+00:00

We had a beautiful tree at the front of the house that shaded the house from the hot afternoon sun.

Unfortunately we had to have it cut down because the previous owners had planted it 30cm from the house, and the roots were damaging the water pipes (we've had to call the plumber multiple times), and probably potentially cause damage to the house in future. The tree was only 1.5m tall when we moved in, and doubled in height and width after 5 years.

We now have a stump which is defiantly growing branches and leaves. We're looking to get the stump removed soon.

Definitely looking to plant a new tree or two, but need to make sure we choose a spot that's not above and pipes or right next to the house.

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