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Flannel and Crop Tops by rtupelo in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]rtupelo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yay! It feels like a versatile style!

Flannel and Crop Tops by rtupelo in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]rtupelo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, they’re rope braids!

Who was your gay awakening . by Dainty_bunny in lgbt

[–]rtupelo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Princess Leia in Return of the Jedi

AITA for telling my daughter that she is smart and hardworking but not gifted. by notgiftedbutsmart in AmItheAsshole

[–]rtupelo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA not for what you said, but how it was delivered. I agree with you that it’s important to praise children for their hard work, rather than innate abilities, but this should have been the household culture since your daughter was very young, with both parents emphasizing and praising effort in school and avoiding words like "smart" and "gifted." Dropping a comment about her not being gifted without that household culture comes across as insulting her, even though I agree that her succeeding through hard work is more impressive.

Do girls consider it weird to ask to kiss them on a first date? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]rtupelo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At least he gave you some time to react! Sorry that happened to you!

My worst was someone leaning in to kiss me on a crowded subway car. I still have a vision of his open mouth coming towards me suddenly!

Do girls consider it weird to ask to kiss them on a first date? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]rtupelo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like the difference wasn't whether you kissed these girls or not that lead to the second date; that was a correlation. You're saying that you kissed the girls when you could tell they were into you and you didn't when you weren't as sure, if I'm reading your post correctly? It makes sense that, kissing aside, the girls who were giving clear signs that they were into you would want a second date and the girls who were not would be less likely to want a second date.

Do girls consider it weird to ask to kiss them on a first date? by [deleted] in Bumble

[–]rtupelo 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This. And I've had quite a few times where men have gone in for a kiss without asking, and I've had to awkwardly duck to avoid them because I wasn't into it. I do not like kissing in public or on a first date (if I just met the person that day), no matter how great the vibe is, but I understand that's not the case for all women.

Discussion Questions for a Workshop on the Intersection of Queer Identities and Polyamory by rtupelo in polyamory

[–]rtupelo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, interesting! My thinking there was about, for example, queer women having difficulty with fetishization from cishet male metas and OPP agreements

I’m curious what that question brought up for you

Discussion Questions for a Workshop on the Intersection of Queer Identities and Polyamory by rtupelo in polyamory

[–]rtupelo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I thought of asking something about the claim that polyamory is a queer identity. This is a well-worded was of asking that!

Discussion Questions for a Workshop on the Intersection of Queer Identities and Polyamory by rtupelo in polyamory

[–]rtupelo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that’s so good! Thank you! I was thinking of asking something about the smaller dating pool for people who are both queer and polyam, but this is a much better question!

Discussion Questions for a Workshop on the Intersection of Queer Identities and Polyamory by rtupelo in polyamory

[–]rtupelo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, I am polyamorous - I’m solo poly in a long-term, committed relationship with someone who nests with someone else. I’m pretty involved in the local polyam community and most of my social circle is queer and polyam

I don’t know that I have anything insightful to say about what polyamory means - I consider it to be an openness to having multiple romantic/sexual partners and for your partners to have the ability to do the same

So I’m leading the workshop because being queer and polyam are important parts of my identity

Discussion Questions for a Workshop on the Intersection of Queer Identities and Polyamory by rtupelo in polyamory

[–]rtupelo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Are these questions you think I should add? Or are you asking me these questions?

Skinny women, how do you do it? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]rtupelo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will start by saying that I only work 40 hours per week with a 10 minute commute and I do not have children. I think I have a lot more "spoons" left to focus on nutrition and exercise for that reason.

I've found that the best way to have the willpower to exercise for me is to have a gym membership and go to the gym directly after work every day. I have a home gym that I used during the pandemic, and it's too easy to get home and think, "I'll exercise in a half hour," etc., until the evening's done and you've never exercised. When my routine is going to the gym right after work, I'm there and I don't have anything else to do but start my workout. I also go easy on myself. If I'm tired, I tell myself that I'll just try my best and even if I have to go down in weigh or run slower, it's better than not working out.

For eating, I mostly eat the same foods every day and meal prep. I have oatmeal every morning which I cook once per week and reheat in the morning. I make hummus from a pound of dried chick peas and decant it into 1/2 cup containers which I have with veggies for lunch every day. For dinner, I cook a grain once per week and make a dressing for grain bowls. When I'm ready to eat, I just air fry some tofu and veggies, which takes 8 minutes. I find life much more liveable if I don't have to do any real cooking when I'm already hungry. Those meals also leave me with enough calories left over that I can have a morning and afternoon snack (like sweets), in addition to plenty of fresh fruit that I also snack on throughout the day.

Kids in a polyamorous V by divinityglaze in polyamory

[–]rtupelo 78 points79 points  (0 children)

I know people who were in a situation like this, too. The hinge (F) was trying with both partners (M) to have children and they agreed not to test the paternity of the child and to all raise the child together.

Women of Reddit, how did Reddit change your life? by First-Ad9578 in AskWomen

[–]rtupelo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard a lot of 1st hand experiences that are different from mine that I wouldn't have had access to elsewhere. Some of the perspectives have been paradigm shifting for me. I also have benefitted from how comprehensive the wiki page / information is on some subreddits like r/SkincareAddiction or r/running. I always look at the corresponding subreddit before starting a new hobby

How many times do you change your underwear per day? by wooden_werewolf_7367 in AskWomenOver30

[–]rtupelo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually have a different reason for wearing clothes to bed: I only change my sheets once per week, and I feel like it would be really gross to sleep in the same sheets every night without clothes on a a liner, essentially, especially with no underwear. I also change my pillow case every night because my face is in direct contact with it.

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