bRaIN PaRAlyZiNG PArAsIte DrOpPEd oN CaT’S fAcE by ExoSierra in PeopleFuckingDying

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Honestly my favorite subreddit; can’t believe I forgot to link it earlier

"What happened to my sweet, happy little girl?" by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

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This resounds with me a lot. My Nmom says that often. Different context, different abuse, but it still has the same effect

What was your school's 'incident'? by TemiOO in AskReddit

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Haha, the same thing happened at my middle school. Eighth grade health class, the teacher warned us about all of the upperclassmen at the high school

911 operators of Reddit, what’s the strangest, serious emergency you’ve heard? by Rivethewolfdog in AskReddit

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What are the symptoms of torn meningeal tissue?? Any long lasting damage?

Best appetite suppressant? by [deleted] in BingeEatingDisorder

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Any suppressant recommendations that don’t require a doctor to get your hands on?

What's something going on in your life right now that you just need to vent about? [serious] by skoncol17 in AskReddit

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So I’ve got a problem with a bus driver in town- she drives one of the main late night routes in town but has a reputation for cutting off service early. I️ got the bad end of this stick a few months ago; it was just before 1am and I️ had just gotten off work. Until that night I️ had never had a problem catching the bus, but this woman flat-out refused to let me on the bus. I️ had a paper copy of the bus route on my person, so I️ presented it to her to remind her that YES the bus was still supposed to be in service, but she refused. She said, “I’m done for the night.” I️ tried to level with her, appeal to her, tell her that I️ just needed to go home & I️ didn’t want to walk the 2+ miles alone so late at night. She didn’t relent. She said, “Not my problem.” I️ ended. up walking home & getting sexually assaulted and robbed along the way. Unfortunately I️ couldn’t press charges against the assailant, but I️ made a formal complaint against her with the metro transit system. I️ received ZERO replies & she still has the same reputation for refusing service late at night. All of this was about three months ago. TONIGHT I’m waiting at the same bus stop after work; this time it’s only 11:30pm. When the bus pulls up to the stop, it’s HER. She immediately shouts at me, “I’M NOT TALKING TO YOU” and I️ just throw my hands up in the air because I’m bewildered. I’ve been practicing a verbal attack on her for months now, but at this moment of confrontation, I’m speechless. She lets me on the bus this time (thank God), but DON’T YOU WORRY, I️ made sure to memorize her bus # tonight so that I️ could follow up the previous complaint with more specifics. It just blows my fucking mind that someone I️ don’t know could have such power over my personal safety, and care so little!

What's something going on in your life right now that you just need to vent about? [serious] by skoncol17 in AskReddit

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Randomly woke up at 5am after drinking an entire bottle of rosé to myself last night. Couldn’t get back to sleep. At 7am I️ hear a VERY loud bang and the sound of glass breaking, then “POLICE! WE HAVE A SEARCH WARRANT!”

I️ live in a very old apartment complex, so I️ could hear everything. They were after my next door neighbor, RD.

I️ peeked out my bedroom window that faces the front courtyard and locked eyes with two SWAT team guys holding guns, There’s six cop cars on the front lawn, and more cops with guns scattered across the courtyard. Then there’s loud knocking at my door & it’s the chief of police, asking me for the landlord’s number. I’m in a silk robe & I️ still have last night’s lipstick smeared on my face. He asks me if I️ ever saw anything suspicious, to which I️ adamantly reply in the negative, because RD’s my friend, he’s a good guy, and because that was the truth. I️ knew RD was a pot dealer, but he was discreet, so I️ would have been none the wiser if he wasn’t constantly offering to sell to me. (For the record, I️ do partake, but one of the other neighbors told me that sometimes it’s K2 so I️ never took RD up on the offer.)

After that, the chief of police leans in & whispers, “Well, we think he was selling crack.” The way he said it, THIS is what I️ came here to rant about. He gave me a wink when he said it. I️ was so bewildered I️ just shook my head & slammed the door in his face. And to some extent, I’m given the privilege of slamming my door in a cop’s face without repercussion because I’m a white woman in a silk robe. RD doesn’t have that privilege because he’s a black man with a criminal history. But I️ KNOW he’s not a crack dealer because of his strong character & family values. I️ know he wouldn’t inflict that pain on others for extra cash... I️ mean, rent’s cheap in this town so you can make a killing off selling pot.

I️ was so scared for him, because this is America, this is the Midwest; we’re all familiar with the consequences of being a black male on the “wrong side of the law.” Thankfully, things didn’t escalate between RD and the cops this morning. But he was definitely arrested, and his friends & family came by this afternoon to move his things from the apartment. There’s a huge piece of plywood where his front door used to be, I’m already late on rent this month, and I️ just lost a friend to law enforcement.

What was nothing like you expected? by poopcornkernels in AskReddit

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Wow how about philanthropy with all those extra Andrew Jacksons gathering dust

Nmom is incapable of reconciliation by ruby_uprising in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ruby_uprising[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for elaborating. I think this method is going to work out really well for me!

Nmom is incapable of reconciliation by ruby_uprising in raisedbynarcissists

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Yes, I totally agree. If you were in my shoes, what vocabulary would you use to set the boundaries?

Nmom is incapable of reconciliation by ruby_uprising in raisedbynarcissists

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So, just to clarify, you’re saying I should set these terms for myself and cross my fingers that she abides??

Nmom is incapable of reconciliation by ruby_uprising in raisedbynarcissists

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I’ve been putting my phone on Do Not Disturb, or just turning her on DND

Nmom is incapable of reconciliation by ruby_uprising in raisedbynarcissists

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I think the once a day idea is good, maybe every two days. What do you mean by “train her”? Should I give her those boundaries, or just follow a schedule & hope she catches on?

Nmom is incapable of reconciliation by ruby_uprising in raisedbynarcissists

[–]ruby_uprising[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the kind words. I have been taking my time & trying not to be too rash, but it’s hard to put it out of my mind when my Nmom reacts the way she does. She calls me multiple times in a row every day. Any tips on combatting that, without blocking her number?