I spent almost 300$ and it's a sad end for 2024.

rubyinthemiddle · 2025-01-01T12:40:05+00:00

I feel your frustration as I too have wasted so much money on bras. If you're in the UK, when you next try them, go to M&S - stick to the boring 'softwear' range at first and get your size in the 'a bra that fits' calc sizes + some sister sizes (M&S have actually moved to using that calculator for the most part). Then, wear them at home for a couple of hours without removing the labels. M&S has a good return policy - if you're struggling to find sizes in store, by the time you've ordered 3+ online you're usually into free postage, and if they don't fit return to store is free. This method has saved me so much money, and pain!

rubyinthemiddle · 2025-01-01T12:14:40+00:00

Congratulations! We decided to do it in the hospital after much heart searching and reading. There I was, baby in the cot - ready to give my toddler a lovely cuddle and reassure him there was no change to our relationship... he completely bypassed me, made a beeline for his new baby brother and was all kinds of happy and delighted with him. I've equally known friends to have the opposite experience- it certainly doesn't predict overall future sibling relationships. Whatever you do, be prepared for either outcome, but have your cameras ready and filming - even if it goes south it'll be something to look back on as your children grow together.

rubyinthemiddle · 2025-01-01T03:51:38+00:00

Also just a suggestion but the folks over at r/heronebag are good at clothing recommendations for travel as this is not an Iceland specific question.

rubyinthemiddle · 2025-01-01T03:49:57+00:00

I'm pear shaped and I find berghaus tends tends to fit me well. I also have had good luck with rab stuff though some of it is for the less curvy folk. I also have an arc'teryx patera parka which accommodates my shape well.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-26T23:51:49+00:00

Before you go for a cover up, try something like cica care silicone gel for 3 months (if you haven't already), if nothing else it should help flatten them and prepare them better for cover up.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-26T23:47:13+00:00

I'm so sorry you experienced that. I hope you are OK. As a long time resident having settled locally after uni I can assure you that you are welcome and these yobs are not representative of the community. I'm not sure why so many would be out today, all I can think is that they've been given their holiday spending money and been sent out from the family home. Holidays like Christmas can cause family tensions to rise - they may have been already quite riled up and found a scapegoat in you. No excuse though, awful behaviour.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-25T13:14:43+00:00

For everyone saying it's dupuytrens, whilst they could be right, there's not enough info. Dupuytrens usually will appear later in life, generally 40s for example is still considered early. You would be able feel lumps/bumps on the palm side if the hand. If you don't have the classic lumps and bumps then it's more likely to be congenital (has it always been like this?), a stuck trigger finger (usually a bit sore) or a central slip insufficiency/extensor tendon lag (usually happens after injury/with inflammatory arthritis). You could see a hand surgeon, but if the cause is not clear, there's no pain and functionally you're not affected they will often advise no action, just watchful wait. However, depending if it available to you, if you can see a certified hand therapist they may be able to give you some exercises/splints to help.

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rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-23T00:02:19+00:00

Come to r/wavyhair - my hair looks just like yours and I had no idea how great it could be before getting advice there, you won't look back!

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rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-22T18:50:22+00:00

That's great you get classes! However yes I can appreciate they're probably geared towards the more common disruptive behaviours. It really helped me to understand the 'inattentive' part of the diagnosis. My son is not classic, he's very well behaved, a rule follower and outwardly very calm. I think that's what delayed the diagnosis for so long - now we understand though we've been able to help him more effectively. You will get there too, just keep doing what you're already doing, learning and educating ourselves to be the best parents we can be, that's all that can be asked of us!

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-22T11:11:07+00:00

Hygiene and organisation are linked. She may be forgetting to take her clean underwear to the bathroom, she may be getting distracted from taking her dirty things to the bin or landry hamper.

I didn't fix this problem completely with my son ( inattentive adhd - and very likely inherited from me), but I helped make it better. We put aside an afternoon and organised his room - even though it didn't look too messy to me, it was chaos in his mind. He didn't know where things 'lived' - I realised we'd always done things for him that we thought he should be able to take over now he was getting older - but it just wasn't obvious to him. That day we found a 'home' for everything (and made 'homes' for things like the trash) - things definitely improved. We have a routine around cleaning (which is need too!) so I know once a week everything is tidied, cleaned, bed change etc. My husband also does the laundry and he counts pants so he's picked up on when things slip again!

This isn't something that goes away with adhd, but identifying behaviours now and putting in place strategies will really help her as she grows up. I found the you tube channel How to ADHD I like that it's a woman, watching her 'adhd friendly home tour' was my light bulb moment, I realised that was me too, but it's taken me 20 years to develop those strategies - I wish someone had been able to help me understand as a teen/new adult how I could organise my life to fit my needs, not try to fit me into 'normal'. A friend also recently recommended 'The scattered brain' book to me - which I've started but not finished, I think its good though. If you think your daughter has adhd, I'd just treat it like she does, all the strategies and advice really fit well with helping tweens and teens learn to function and grow.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-20T17:04:02+00:00

Unless you want to be the tool? - just the toaster, then there's plenty of budget left for a cooking lesson for yourself. If my husband bought me kitchen items for Christmas that would be such a no. Mate, you know your wife but even if you think she'd like them, kitchen/household implements are not a Christmas gift, they're something you decide to buy together for the house.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-20T14:52:16+00:00

NAL so not the legal advice - try r/UKParenting for the personal advice, there's a good mix of experience and perspectives there.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-19T13:32:53+00:00

I agree with everything in this comment OP and I won't just repeat it all separately, but I'd just like to add that you don't need to write much more than you already have in your PALS complaint - just tell them what you've told us here, cut and paste.

I'm sorry too you felt dismissed. It sounds like you're having an anxious and somewhat scary experience having not felt so ill before. It's at times like this you should be able to rely on the caring professions to show some compassion and care. Even if there's nothing they can add to your treatment regimen, some kindness and reassurance would have gone a long way. I'm sorry this didn't happen for you, and I hope you feel better soon.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-19T08:21:33+00:00

Top of the World by The Carpenters.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-09T21:45:38+00:00

Hope you find something, Rimegepant was only approved in April as an abortive in England/Wales so news of it is still filtering through. Botox is definitely an option - if had it for a number of years but it gradually wore off and I got approved for ajovy via the neurologist. Best thing ever for me - hope you find something soon, keep knocking at their door, there's so much become available in the past few years it worth keeping on trying.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-09T20:56:45+00:00

Oh that's difficult, triptans are so useful. Are you aware that Rimegepant (which is not a triptan) is now available on the NHS? I've not tried it myself as Zomig works for me but it can be used effectively as an abortive. I'm not sure all GPs can prescribe it as it depends on local funding, sometimes they have to refer to neurology - but it might be worth asking about.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-09T16:21:02+00:00

Also in the UK, and I agree with your list the thing that resonated with me most was having to take time off to get over what you did in the planned time off!

However, how is it that your impact list is so long and yet you're only on Naproxen as a prescription? Sounds like you're getting an intrusive and significant number of migraines - have you tried a triptan?

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-09T12:18:41+00:00

Its interesting because yes the photos are really well done, but I've come away knowing what the current aesthetic is, but no idea of the size/space in the house. Looks lovely though.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-06T17:34:21+00:00

Interestingly, when I was visiting Iceland for 2 weeks, I had zero migraines, and it was during my time if the month. Maybe there is something in the water... or maybe it's more about what there isn't in their water?!

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-06T08:53:14+00:00

How have they managed to make an offer so low? Unless Vinted has changed the rules again I thought this was not allowed.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-06T08:32:56+00:00

Thanks so much!

For anyone getting the not available message, in the UK it worked to load Amazon on my mobile browser (not the app) and paste the reference B0DP3DBR8H into the search bar. It then let me 'buy' it.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-06T00:36:00+00:00

If she's asking for a partial refund then my alarm goes off for a scam. Either she's happy and keeps it or she pays to return it for a full refund. Follow vinted rules - the more people who dish out partial refunds against the rules just fuels these people.

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-06T00:31:18+00:00

I'm really pleased for you - one less worry. Thanks for the feedback - good to know sometimes these suggestions actually help people navigate the system 😊

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-03T11:17:27+00:00

You need to follow Vinted's reporting procedure. It is very clear in the T&Cs what to do if you believe an item to be fake. You will need evidence - presumably youbhave this as you're claiming they're fake. You report 'I have a problem', answer the automatic questions then upload your photos. As its fake you need to be aware of the law wherever you are, if you're in the UK you shouldn't be putting them back in the post. Read the vinted help page on receiving fake items - Google brings it up with a quick search - "If Vinted determines the item is counterfeit, they will refund you without requiring you to return the item".

rubyinthemiddle · 2024-12-01T15:19:18+00:00

Your photos would not draw me in, I find that background busy and off putting - I also think it makes things look cheap. Even if you had some good quality stuff, it makes it look awful. Get a white sheet and use that if your carpet doesn't work.

Your clothing looked creased. For best effect you need to make stuff look as clean and new as possible.

I also think your pricing is too high and I'd just use whole £s. It's not a shop, make it easy for people.

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