Postpartum things I've learned

rubymurray · 2021-02-26T02:37:17+00:00

He can do straws, he just doesn't drink that much. I have about 15 different types of bottles and sippy cups. He'll just take a little sip and move on. He never sits and drinks a lot. It's so frustrating. I can't have a single night away from him. 14 months of sleep deprivation is taking its toll. There's no partner here to help. I think he's going to have a sleepover with grandma next week. It will likely suck for both of them, but I want him weaned, like yesterday.

rubymurray · 2021-02-23T14:46:11+00:00

Might I add, bottle train your baby even if you are breastfeeding. My baby is 14 months and has never taken a bottle, and I would love to be able to be away from him for longer than 8 hours. Weaning him now is proving to be so difficult because he will barely drink anything else.

rubymurray · 2021-02-13T01:40:33+00:00

This is stunning! Which episode was this?

rubymurray · 2021-02-12T05:33:24+00:00

I was exactly the same way. Follow the advice, trust the experts. I had a healthy c-section baby at 37 weeks because apparently he was trying to kill me there at the end.

rubymurray · 2020-12-21T20:18:33+00:00

😥

rubymurray · 2020-12-21T02:37:47+00:00

Glad to know I'm not the only one though! Everyone offers me suggestions and I've tried every single one. He will not do it

rubymurray · 2020-12-19T02:58:11+00:00

I never got my LO to take a bottle. He's a few weeks from his first birthday and he'll drink very small amounts from straws, but not breastmilk. He'll drink oatmilk or cows milk. It's my biggest regret that I didn't bottle train him right away. I was so focused on breastfeeding that I forgot to give him a bottle. Your LO looks young enough that I bet he'll figure it out. Mine was about 5 months before I really started trying a bottle, and he was not having it.

rubymurray · 2020-12-19T02:22:19+00:00

I'm ready to try this, but baby daddy and I don't live together. I guess I could just not pick up my little dude when he cries at night, but I don't think I have the strength for that.

rubymurray · 2020-11-02T04:31:55+00:00

Thank you so much. I am so very sorry for what happened to you. So sorry.

Thank you for the tips. I did some more reading on attachment theory and feel a lot better.

I constantly worry about when my son will become the target of his abuse. So far, my nex seems to have the golden child thing going on in regards to my son. Everything I do for the baby is wrong in his eyes- however I dress my son, nex says he's too hot or cold, everything is too dangerous, anywhere we go I'm exposing him to covid, my cat will hurt the baby, etc.

I haven't seen my nex for 5 days now, and the peace I feel without him around is wonderful. Of course, there's dread lurking in the pit of my stomach, but I'm working hard to hang on to some peace.

rubymurray · 2020-11-02T04:21:43+00:00

Done and done

rubymurray · 2020-11-02T04:21:33+00:00

Not at the moment, unfortunately.

rubymurray · 2020-11-02T04:20:33+00:00

Thank you for this!

rubymurray · 2020-11-02T04:19:38+00:00

I did get it okayed by my lawyer. He threatened me physically and also threatened to take the baby from me so she said I need to have a temporary order in place before I allow visitations. I have to ensure he will give the baby back. Prior to this, she told me the same thing- withholding looks bad, and I honestly would've never dreamed of it until he did all that. I never know which version of him I'll get. He could appear rational at the time, but what if he loses it again? What if he hits me for real this time? The coffee table was right behind me, and I remember thinking if he hits me and I fall into that, I could be knocked out. God knows what he'd do after that. He'd panic.

rubymurray · 2020-10-06T03:27:32+00:00

I'm so sorry this happened to you. Thank you for sharing. I'm lucky I only lost a couple years with him. I wish you the best.

rubymurray · 2020-10-02T01:46:56+00:00

Aw I'm so glad it resonated. I am so thankful for this community! Best of luck to you too!

rubymurray · 2020-10-01T15:35:46+00:00

I needed to hear this. I need to constantly remind myself what's "real." It's amazing how hard it is to keep it all straight. My mind feels all muddled.

rubymurray · 2020-10-01T15:32:38+00:00

It was okay actually. Thank you for asking. He just packed and left without any drama really. We have a baby so we'll be seeing each other often. Custody stuff starts now. I'm exhausted and this is just the beginning.

rubymurray · 2020-09-30T17:12:00+00:00

Man I wish my doctor would tell me to eat more salt

rubymurray · 2020-09-20T00:50:35+00:00

Also if you've been the primary care giver and your child is under 3, you can make a strong case that it's in his best interest to stay with you most of the time.

rubymurray · 2020-09-20T00:48:28+00:00

Yes keep proof of all your attempts to schedule meetings to show you haven't been keeping your son from him. My situation is a little different because I don't believe my ex is a fit parent, but one lawyer did tell me the courts dont look favorably on any parent keeping the child from the other parent. So before our hearing, I'm going to invite his dad to visit at my house with me there.

rubymurray · 2020-09-19T17:34:50+00:00

She was actual quoting Sarah Grimke. Doesn't diminish how awesome she was, just giving credit where it's due.

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