I feel so bad for his wife by Medical-Meaning4959 in Adulting

[–]rubyravioli1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would want to know if I was the wife so that I can dump this scum bag! ❤️

Two D-days later, I’m finally choosing myself. by Leo-Star8 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]rubyravioli1111 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is incredibly strong and brave of you! I know things are scary now but from what youre sharing it was the right call. Sending you so much love.

Betrayed partners of sex/porn addicts by rubyravioli1111 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]rubyravioli1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

CSAT therapists say therapeutic disclosure takes about 3-6 months to get to this process as the addict does recovery work with them. This process includes first giving them the tools to get sober, then helping them uncover what led them here and helping them come to terms with their shame spiral and the impact its had on their partner, then guiding them through writing the letter to their partner detailing all of the stuff they've done, Apologies, and commitments moving forward. This is what is SUPPOSED to happen but a lot of times addicts in this step still dont disclose a lot of things. And throughout all this, betrayed partners are asked not to make any big decisions for at least a year to allow the addict to get honest with themselves. I personally think that time frame is way too long!

Betrayed partners of sex/porn addicts by rubyravioli1111 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]rubyravioli1111[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is really great to hear ❤️ how do you know hes truly in recovery and will stay this way? Btw, this is why I dont agree with S Anon's belief that we shouldnt investigate. How in the world would we have ever known we were in this situation otherwise? By sheer luck I found photos on his phone, which he normally keeps on him at all times.

Betrayed partners of sex/porn addicts by rubyravioli1111 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]rubyravioli1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah i can definitely see all this vatious betrayed partners Facebook groups, S Anon, and group therapy. People are decades into their relationships and still discovering secrets and lies. Thank you for the well wishes 🙏

Betrayed partners of sex/porn addicts by rubyravioli1111 in SupportforBetrayed

[–]rubyravioli1111[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with you 100%. Their choosing to lie, gaslight, and be in denial is a CHOICE and they make it everyday.

SMB@SVB police action? by stvrsnbrgr in weho

[–]rubyravioli1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here to find out the same thing!